Boyfriend Doesn't Let Girlfriend Go To His Work Event In Risque Clothing, Gets Threatened By Her Family And Friends

We're generally all for self-expression and women deciding whatever they want to wear. The clothing we wear is indicative of how we want to present ourselves to the world, and therefore, we should obviously be the ones deciding what to wear. If we're dressing in a way that doesn't match our style, we're not being true to ourselves. That being said, there are particular events in which certain clothes simply will not do. For example, if we're going to a formal charity event, we wouldn't were the same clothes that we would wear out on a night at the club with friends. We may love clothes that we wear to a club or bar, but we know how to read the room when it comes to events that have completely opposite vibes. In today's 'Am I The A$$hole?' post, OP called out his GF for wanting to wear club attire to a charity event that he had to attend for work. He told her it was a white-tie event, but when she got into his car, it was clear that she did not understand the assignment. When he asked her to change, she refused and called him sexist. Girl, this isn't about you - it's about presenting himself in a good light in front of his boss and colleagues. Scroll down for all the dramatic details. 

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    Font - Posted by u/throwaway78274 9 hours ago 2 AITA for not letting my girlfriend go to an event because of the clothes she chose to wear?
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    At first glance, OP definitely looks like he's in the wrong. Women should be able to decide how they want to present themselves to the world, no matter what their boyfriend thinks. If they want to show off their body, they should go for it. After all, they worked hard for the body and therefore have the right to present it the way they want to. That being said, this particular event was OP's work event, and it's important to dress to impress. If there's a dress code, all parties should be following it. We think it's completely valid that he didn't feel comfortable with his GF dressing a certain way to a work event of his. 

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    Font - My boss threw a charity party to raise money to fund research projects for a rare disease (I won't be giving any details just in case someone I know sees this). Many of the guests were very important influential people in my city and in my field of work, and obviously my coworkers were also there. It was a very formal event, dress code was white tie and everything.
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    Okay, our interest has officially been piqued about what kind of work event OP is attending. We'll gladly wear the appropriate attire if it means we'll have the opportunity to rub elbows with the creme de la creme of society. We'll do whatever it takes to get to the top, even if it means replacing OP's current GF who clearly can't get it together. We don't mind being arm candy for the night if it means we'll be meeting with people who have the ability to put more money in our pockets. We're currently looking for proper side hustles, and this AITA post sounds like a dream opportunity. 

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    Font - I (27 M) invited my girlfriend (25 F) as my +1, we have been dating for 1 year and I never had any issues with the way she dresses, I would never tell her how to dress but then this unfortunately happened. We don't live together so I got ready and drove to her house, I saw she was wearing a very tight, short black leather skirt
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    Font - with one of those shirts that are kinda open in the middle, I don't know how to best explain it but the cleavage goes really low and its a little loose on the sides. Of course she looked great, if we were going anywhere else like a club or a restaurant I wouldn't even think twice about it but we were going to a very formal charity event.
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    Font - When she got in the car I asked if she forgot it was a white tie event, and she was like "No, why? Is there something wrong with my outfit?" so I said that it was not appropriate for the occasion and asked if she could change it, she was very offended, I told her I totally understand why she would be offended but explained that this was a very formal charity
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    Font - event and I couldn't show up with her wearing that outfit, especially with my boss and coworkers there. She got so angry and refused to change her outfit, saying I was being sexist. I tried to explain it one more time but she kept saying I had to accept it or she wouldn't go with me, so after a lot of arguing I said she would have to stay home then.
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    Font - I went to the party without her and we haven't been talking because she wants me to apologize and make it up for her. I really like this girl but I also don't think I'm in the wrong here. She went partying with her friends that night and she obviously
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    Font - told all of her friends about what happened, they all think im sexist and they keep commenting petty things on my social media posts and recently even her brother has been threatening me. Maybe I was sexist and I don't realize it, AITA?
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    Font - EDIT: Since a few people have asked, yes I did tell her it was white tie as soon as I got the invitation and asked if she'd want to go with me, but no, I didn't explain to her in detail what exactly white tie means, I assumed she knew so maybe that was my mistake. I did explain to her in the car when I asked if she could change, but she was already too offended and wouldn't listen.
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    Font - stallion8426 · 9 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [75] NTA. Events have dress codes. That is a hard truth. She coukd have cost you your job.
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    Font - patjames904 · 9 hr. ago Supreme Court Just-ass [115] Absolutely THIS! She was making this all about her and not thinking at all about him.
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    Font - Historical_Concept_7 · 7 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] O.P., seriously, you should dump her. She's demanding an apology? Give her the response she deserves and advise her that she's now single.
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