‘You’re not seeing your daughter without a court order’: Neglectful Mother Puts Daughter at Risk of Allergic Reaction, Her Friend Steps in to Take Her to the Hospital

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 8, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Having and raising children is a huge undertaking. A good parent has to always keep in mind the health and safety of their child. It's a tough world out there, and protecting your kid (to a certain extent) is so much of your life when they're young. If someone's not fit for it, then they shouldn't be having kids. 

In this Reddit thread, a woman's best friend is the legal guardian of her child. The child in question, Emma, has a severe nut allergy. Having any sniff, taste, or smell of this stuff will send her straight to the hospital. Usually her bio mom visits her at her legal guardian's home, but this time was different. The guardian lets Emma go to her bio mom's house and winds up at the hospital. Read the full story below to get all the juicy details. 

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    r/AITAH • 12 hr. ago aitafriendvisits AITA for telling my friend her daughter will not be going to her house without a court order
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    I am my best friend's 8 year old daughter's (Emma) legal guardian. All of this was done through the courts. Emma's had a tough year. Her parents split up, her stepdad (who's been in her life since she was 6 months old) left with her siblings and said he doesn't want anything to do with
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    her, her best friend died, her grandma died, and she went to the hospital 4 times/2 surgeries. Emma is also severely allergic to nuts. The nuts have been the cause of 2 of her hospital stays.
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    There is no set visitation schedule. I let Emma see her mom whenever she wants, usually we have her over for dinner because my house is on her way home from work and it means she can tuck Emma in at night.
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    My friend recently got visitations with her other kids so I've been bringing Emma over so she could see her siblings. Normally I stay to help out but I had to work last weekend so I stayed for maybe a half hour and arranged for the babysitter to pick her up after a few hours.
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    The babysitter called me when she picked Emma up to let me know they were on the way to the hospital. Emma was covered in hives and seemed like she was having trouble breathing. I called her mom on the way to the hospital and she told me that they were baking with almond
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    flour, and while she gave Emma something else to do the flour still got on her and she had a reaction. She insisted it was fine though because she gave Emma her epipen. I hung up on her, called the babysitter to tell her Emma had been in contact with nuts over an hour before and had already used her epipen, and met them at the hospital.
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    We stayed in the hospital for a couple days and her mom didn't even seem apologetic when she came to visit, she just swore that she didn't think that would happen. I asked why she'd even have nuts at the house if her kid is allergic and she said her younger kids really wanted to
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    make macarons and she can't put one kids needs over the other. She didn't think it was a big deal to have nuts in the house because Emma doesn't even live there. I told her that was it. Emma will not step foot in her house again without a court order. She left after that but she hasn't stopped texting me to tell me to
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    reconsider and that I'm harming her recovery by keeping Emma away from her. She is still allowed to come over and meet us at the park but I can't trust her unsupervised with Emma or that her house will be safe. AITA for saying Emma will not step foot into that house without a court order
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    Tundra-Queen... 12h ago NTAH, please continue to protect Emma and put her needs first. Obviously her egg donor does not, Emma is not a toy to be picked up when she feels like it.
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    dncrmom 9h ago Oh please, you are harming her recovery is bs. She physically hurt her daughter requiring a multi day hospital stay because her other kids wanted macaroons?? is wrong with her? NTA
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    thepatriot74 10h ago • NTA, but consider also stopping these last minute visits of hers to your home. That child needs a safe space and an established routine not an in-and-out, flippantly neglectful mother. Get her to see a child
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    psychologist if needed, and maybe talk to one yourself. This is not a healthy mother- daughter relationship from what you described here.
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    Spiritual_Blue1... . 12h ago. Emma's safety is your number one priority. Her mother's feelings and recovery means nothing if she's not going to take her own daughter's allergies seriously. Making macrons is not a need keeping your
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    daughter from dying is. And she doesn't seem to realize that. No. Keep Emma away.
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    Lucky-Guess8786 7h ago • That is now three times Emma has gone to hospital because of her mother's neglect. That is both child. abuse and child endangerment. She is lucky you are not cancelling visitation altogether. Please,
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    continue to protect Emma. And make sure she understands that none of this is her fault. Sometimes life just sucks and she is going through a bad patch. You are a wonderful caregiver for giving up so much to protect this child from her own mother. Sheesh. NTA
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    New Day684 • 9h ago Nta this needs to be reported to the courts too. See is putting the fun wants of her other kids over the life of Emma.
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    Ok-Lie-9207 • 12h ago That would be a big No! You stand firm!
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    Careless-Abilit... • 11h ago Nta she knowingly would put her daughter at risk.
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    justmeandmyco... 7h ago Make sure the cops and the courts know she is willingly try to kill this kid.
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    Mother Search3... • 8h ago NTAH.. A child's life is at stake and the courts have placed her in your care with the belief that you are going to be that person who will be able to keep her safe.
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    "she can't put one kids needs over the others" means she is willing to unalive Emma just to entertain her other kids.
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    Baking Macaroons is not a need, it's a want. You are legally obliged to keep that child away from that woman that's why the courts made you her legal guardian. She is deemed unsafe in her mother's care.
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