everyonesxwife

By tookat on May 19, 2012 at 12:47 PM

I am like Ms Manners? Oh wow! My mom should hear that......chuckling with glee. To hear one ex-friend say it, I have no idea of manners at all.... I guess it depends which guides are "in residence" at any one time. Some are blunt and do not brook fools if that is the correct spelling. How have you been? Oh my heavens, it is so long since I touched base with any of my friends, and I hate that. We have a cheezepeep support group on FB and that is taking so much of my time. I have to remember sometimes that support means not telling someone who keeps making the same mistakes over and over again to wake up. My dad wanted me to go into psych and I almost did. Good thing I didn't or I would have the rep of the most unsympathetic shrink out there. lol.

By everyonesxwife on May 19, 2012 at 2:21 AM

Thank you for the glorious Easter wishes! You are always Miss Manners when it comes to the right things to do! : D Kitty scritches and hedbonks, T

By tookat on Apr 8, 2012 at 8:43 AM

Happy Easter to one and all from Tookat and from the Majik Kittenz. Warm wishes for a joyous year and many more to come. ish it saef yet? (de bratpak) http://cheezburger.com/6085425408 Happy Easter note (kate and Les) http://cheezburger.com/6085398528

By everyonesxwife on Jan 9, 2012 at 2:31 AM

I LOVED your magical Christmas with the fluffy kitteh! It is inspiring : )

By everyonesxwife on Jan 9, 2012 at 2:24 AM

Wonderful Angelface! I love it! And a very Happy New Year to you as well! : )

By tookat on Dec 31, 2011 at 1:13 PM

Frum me tewYu Happee NewYear kthnx bye! http://cheezburger.com/Asset/View/5633777152

By tookat on Dec 24, 2011 at 4:47 PM

Abracadazzle.. Celestial Cee.......I wish all my cheezpeeps a Merriest Christmas from A to Z (and let's not forget the numbers and symbols!!!) by tookat http://cheezburger.com/Asset/View/5609413632

By everyonesxwife on Dec 20, 2011 at 12:02 PM

Hello Babygrrl! How are you? Don't need to answer.... I just wanted to drop in and wish you and yours a very happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, Happy New Years, and ALL the love and Food that you can stand! Enjoy this time with your loved ones - even if your loved ones all have more than TWO legs ; ) *Big Hug* T

By everyonesxwife on Dec 10, 2011 at 2:39 AM

She was attracted to pre-pubescent children and the state had taken hers away and she had spent time in prison for it. Her parole officer recommended group therapy - but OUR survivor group could not help her. She wanted to work on her trauma issues and ignore the trauma she was causing. She didn't believe she was causing any trauma. She needed way more help than a support group can offer. She needed serious psychiatric help. : (

By everyonesxwife on Dec 10, 2011 at 2:35 AM

Yes, support groups are wonderful - as long as you don't become the magnet everyone attaches to. Once I had 7 people calling me day and night for every teeny weeny little crisis. Some were serious and really needed the help - and I didn't mind - but 2 of them were fakers and attention getters. They ate up a lot of valuable time for everyone. We also had to kick a woman out of a Sexual Assault Recovery Group because on her first day she told us she was an active sex offender.

By tookat on Dec 6, 2011 at 7:42 PM

i take the approach that sharing is good. You never know when what you say is going to be noticed by someone going through the same thing, but feeling as if there are no answers or solutions....or as if they are the only one in the world to feel that way. It is why support groups exist now....thank heavens!....I don't know what I would have done without mine, including (and especially) the ones where the folks would not let me continue my worst behaviors because I was using what had happened to me as an excuse for those behaviors. Eventually it was what led to me becoming well.

By everyonesxwife on Dec 6, 2011 at 6:30 AM

Thank you for sharing Tookat. I try not to talk about it on ICHC because I don't wanna burden or depress anyone, ya know? But I sincerely appreciate you sharing with me. Not many people are willing to do that.

By tookat on Nov 14, 2011 at 1:30 AM

I always meant to answer an earlier message you sent me. You spoke of you fight with depression and your candor touched me. I had a very similar fight, Once I experienced the difference between the flat state I had been living in compared to either joy...or real sorrow or grief, I didn't want to go back. I was on a large dossage of Wellbutrin for years.

By tookat on Nov 14, 2011 at 1:27 AM

hey hun, I see we are both doing the weird am thing. I woke up uncomfortable and it is not time for pain meds yet. So I am catching up on the front pages. amazing how many days I missed.

By everyonesxwife on Nov 14, 2011 at 1:15 AM

Hi Tookat! How are you doing lately? I'm thinking about you : ) Sending *Big Hugs* T

By everyonesxwife on Oct 25, 2011 at 1:36 AM

WOW. First off - don't cha just Love Doctors? *dripping sarcasm* And second off - I think you have a wonderful attitude about that damn cancer and if anyone can beat it it's gotta be YOU! My 90 year old aunt has beat breast cancer twice and the second one was just 5 years ago! I bought a salt lamp last month. Do you think it helps? I love the look but am not sure if it's helping me heal/feel better..... Don't worry about dropping me. It happens from time to time. I have major depression and disappear for months at a time (on here and in Real Life). Was first diagnosed in 1975 and have only had a few breakthroughs. I was HAPPY for about 6 months when I first started Prozac, then it quit working. Bad thing was, once you experience HAPPY you want more. Never had it before and have not had it since. But I have a great shrink and we at least strive for a manageable "level". No big highs but no big lows either. Great hearing from you. I will keep you in my thoughts : )

By tookat on Oct 20, 2011 at 11:34 PM

yeah, survived cervical cancer over 30 years ago and now I have stage one endometrial cancer. I am at peace with the whole thing but it has been a trip. First...omg you have severe anemia, you need transfusions and cannot have surgery until this is done. then, hmmmm, we don't like your EKG we are canceling surgery so you can take a stress test. It may just be the medication we put you on to control the cancer tendency to make you want to bleed heavily...but we must make sure. Then I finally do the surgery prep and am so dehydrated and sick from the miralax they are having trouble getting an IV in...and the anesthesiologist raises a red flag on my pain patch that I removed some 12 hours earlier. Turns out, it needs to be out of the system (and that takes five days) or the post surgical pain will be uncontrollable. I get sent home and go into a CFS exacerbation plus catch a cold. I've decided I am not having the surgery until November. I went back on my pain patch because I like having a life, and without it I wasn't. I can go off it again for the five days prior to surgery, but I am going to have a consult with a pain doctor. Isn't it wonderful they finally stopped being afraid of treating pain and made this nice specialty? Folks like you and I can get some relief! yay! In the meantime, I am rearranging my bedroom, trying on new kimono's, bed jackets and nightgowns..even got a new pair of slippers. Am planning on showing up at the hospital with crystals, a himalayan salt crystal lamp and some table top chimes. a whole bunch of CD's and maybe some Dvd's and am hoping I can convince them I need to stay for at least three or four days....five if I can. Balanced regular meals are not a strong feature of my household and are probably one of the most important things towards a good recovery. Chances are, I will have the surgery and the pathology will show the cancer is mostly gone, what with all the energy work I've been getting. Sorry about dropping you, but you weren't around much and I clear house periodically. I honestly do not know how folks cope with friends lists over 200.

By everyonesxwife on Oct 20, 2011 at 9:02 PM

We used to be friends way back but somewhere along the way one of us was dropped - OOPS - So WONDERFUL to have you back as a friend again : ) I was reading a conversation between you & someone else and saw that you have cancer AGAIN. I am so terribly sorry to hear that. I will send healing energies and lots of love your way. EXW

By tookat on Oct 20, 2011 at 6:22 PM

woot......what a coincidence. I asked the oncology office for a pain consult since they want me off my patch five days before the surgery, It sounds like life is looking up! Yay!

By tookat on May 11, 2009 at 2:47 AM

ohai new cheezfren! welcomes...wow...you is a brite shiney glowing puurson in your pic...anyone who works in animal rescue is an angel in mai book! blessed be!