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Man Asks His Roommate To Stop Kissing Her Pet Cat: Viral Reddit Thread

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    Font - I (20F) moved in with my best friend (21M) a few months ago. Around that time he also found out that he is most likely autistic (he is still searching for a cheap diagnosis option but is working through things with his therapist).

    Ok, so already we have a little bit of context. This seems like a pretty intense fight for two best friends to be getting into with one another. We wonder, do they have other roommates who are also involved in this, or they just moved in together? Either way, it'll be interesting to see how this story goes down.

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    Font - A big part of his autism is disgust sensitivity which makes him very sensitive to germs. He has separate cutlery to me, keeps all of his property separate, cleans the washing machine every time I use it and doesn't let me touch his side of the couch among other things.

    Hmm, this sounds like a tough thing to deal with, and we hope that her roommate continues to see his therapist and can overcome his fears and aversions. Hopefully this man can work through these things with his therapist and start to overcome all of these challenges and sensitivities. But anyway, we wonder where the story goes from here…

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    Font - At first I didn't understand but now I am happy to help make him more comfortable at home. He shouldn't have to worry about those things so I know it's my responsibility to respect his boundaries.
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    Font - Today however I felt this went too far when I was kissing my cat repeatedly on the head while she was sitting near him on the couch.
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    Font - He then started telling me to get away from her and expressed that he doesn't like it when I kiss her like that because of the possibility for my saliva going on her. He said that it makes him uncomfortable and he wants me to kiss her less or space out the kisses more.
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    Hair - I was taken aback and said that I wouldn't change the way I interact with my own cat because of him.
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    Font - He then said that he wouldn't be able to kiss her for a while because of it and implied that I was being ableist. He said that it's not his fault if I have a problem with it because he isn't in control of how it makes him feel. He kept trying to make it that I was the issue and to blame for the situation.
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    Font - We went back and forth about that for a bit and he ended up comparing it to the cutlery and washing machine. I said that it's not comparable because 1) they're objects not a cat 2) those things are either his or shared property meanwhile my cat is not his. I said that I am fine to accomodate all of those things but I am not willing to do that with my cat.
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    Font - I said that he has no right to tell me what to do with my own cat. He then said that he isn't telling me what to do and that he is just expressing his discomfort. I then said that he was gaslighting me and he burst into tears because he didn't like being called a gaslighter.
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    Font - Afterward we spoke again and figured out that he had forgotten he told me that he wanted me to change and that he has trouble communicating. I apologised for calling him a gaslighter but he continued it say that it was my fault for reacting and not wanting to compromise. It's very awkward now between us and I'm not sure how to proceed without upsetting him further.
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    Most Redditors agreed that the woman had every right to kiss her cat.

    Font - PRSMesa182 NTA: he hasn't even be fully diagnosed yet and he's already weaponizing it.it's time to move.
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    Redditors also reminded others to be kind when speaking about both parties.

    Font - Father-Son-HolyToast This guy is acting like an asshole, but please keep in mind that neurodivergence can present very differently between different people. It's not really fair to look at an autism sample size of 2 and say, "a certain trait doesn't exist in this sample, therefore it can't ever correlate to autism."

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