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Sus Woman Fostering Dogs Begs Adoptive Parents To Let Her Keep The Pups, Unpleasantry Ensues

It's not a secret that fostering doggos is a tough job. It's easy to get attached to doggos that you spend such quality time with and exert effort caring for, but it's also part of the gig. It is understood that fostering a dog is intended to be for as short of a time frame as possible, until an adoptive parent is found for said doggo. 

Well, one couple had a rather uncomfortable experience with their future dogs' foster. And you could certainly say that unpleasantry followed. OP expresses frustration with the fact that the woman fostering the dogs that they intend to adopt, and the paperwork has been filled and the payments have been made, practically begs to keep the dogs. Now, we do feel sympathy for this person, but she had to have known that this is the whole point of fostering, right? So that the doggos will be adopted into loving homes? Sighs. It's a tough one.

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    Human body - Posted by u/rose-ramos 1 day ago 389 Adopting two dogs; foster mom is being very clingy and trying to talk me out of it. Help? [Help]
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    Font - My wife and I are adopting two dogs from a rescue we're both fond of. The foster mom doesn't seem to understand boundaries; she will text and call me multiple times a day, including on Christmas Day, just to tell me how heartbroken she is to let go of them. Of course I am sympathetic, but she fostered them with the knowledge that they would be adopted. Now she is trying to guilt me into letting her keep them! The contract is already signed, payment already processed; the only thing left t

    The contract is already sighned, the payments are already processed, the only thing that's stopping OP and OP's SO from scooping these doggos up already is a scheduled meeting time. That's it. 

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    Font - ohyoubetchayah · 22 hr. ago I am an independent foster. This is not normal behavior at all. If she is working with an organization, contact them directly. If she cannot emotionally handle the process of fostering, she need not be one. It's not like you're depriving her of anything if they stop giving her fosters. She's not getting paid. It's not a job. She will find other ways of fulfillment. 126 V Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow

    We have to agree, this behavior is not normal. This could mean that OP's foster is just not a good match for the foster program, either way it should definitely been further investigated. It would be just unnecessary for this to happen again to another doggo seeking couple or individual!

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    Font - PotterAndPitties · 1 day ago · edited 22 hr. ago Talk to the rescue about her behavior. Let them handle it and address her. Screen her calls and answer only when you feel OK to do so. My wife and I have fostered numerous animals, and it is always hard to let go. But this is beyond unacceptable. 586 Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - sublimek99· 21 hr. ago I would definitely complain to the rescue about inappropriate behavior and crossing boundaries like this. She may be a lonely old lady, but she's hurting the rescue's business and possibly interferring with their adoption or success rate by emotionally blackmailing new pet owners. On top of this, she should be excited to adopt out as many dogs as possible to great homes so she can do the same with new dogs- per the mission of fostering them. Sounds like lady just wa
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    Font - Heysandyitspete · 23 hr. ago My question is why did she let it get as far as a signed contract before deciding she wanted to keep them? So many people "foster fail" and every reputable rescue org I know of allows fosters to have first dibs on adopting the animals in their care. Does she know where you live? If she does I would honestly let the dogs go and keep looking for another dog because my peace and sanity takes precedence over dogs I haven't really bonded with yet. I'd be constantly
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    Rectangle - momboss12 · 13 hr. ago Everyone has a story. Maybe just having a heart to heart talk with her about how you are feeling will ease her mind. Its important to be understanding, you dont know why she is being so clingy.
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    Font - dazzleduck · 21 hr. ago Not ok. We usually don't even let our fosters and adopters meet at all, this is going way too far. They should have never been given your number. Ensure they do not get your address. Let the rescue know this is happening! 19 Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow romilda-vane · 20 hr. ago This is an extreme case but a huge jump to say they shouldn't have your number! A meet & greet with the foster, dog, & potential adopter is a standard part of many adoption pro
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    Font - The_Rural_Banshee · 19 hr. ago You need to contact the rescue directly so they can address this with her and help you coordinate the pick up. She most likely had the opportunity to adopt them before posting them up for adoption (at all the rescues I work with fosters get first dibs but once a family has met the animal the foster no longer has priority). The rescue needs to know what's going on so they can help. Letting go of fosters is hard but her behavior is not ok.
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    Font - EddieRyanDC · 23 hr. ago I wouldn't report her... yet. Keep your eye on the prize - you want those dogs ASAP. Reporting her at this point could add a layer of complication you don't want. Pick up the dogs, as scheduled. If all goes as planned, then mission accomplished. Her clinginess becomes an annoying detail you can work out while you are incorporating the dogs into your family. I foster dogs myself and I know how hard it can be to see them go after you have invested so much into makin
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    Font - TheOnesWithin · 1 day ago You need to let the organization know about this. An offhand comment or two would be one thing, but, at this point, its harassment. You don't have to word it that strongly when you talk to them if you don't mean any ill will towards her, but you should let them know what is going on in general. Even if you get your dogs if she does this in future it might put other adoptive parents off. 163 Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Human body - Marchingkoala · 17 hr. ago Get the dogs THEN report her. Dogs are the priority

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