Clingy BF Offended When GF Of 6 Months Refers To Her Puppy As 'Mine' Instead Of 'Ours'

Coexisting with your significant other can have difficulties and unpleasant situations, such is relevant to any relationship. However, boundaries tend to be a bit different and more ambiguous when sharing major responsibilities with a significant other as opposed to a friend. On today's episode of 'clingy boyfriend tries to manipulate his way into a more central role in his girlfriend's life' we have a pretty significant misunderstanding that contributed towards an especially unpleasant conversation between OP and her boyfriend.

First of all, dogs are a BIG commitment. Especially when one gets one as a puppy. Doggos have an average lifespan of 10-15 years, this couple has been together for 7 months. Why does this clingy BF, who by the way does not contribute financially to the dog, think that he can call claim to the puppy that his girlfriend has been on a waitlist for since they started dating? We confess that things could have been handled better by OP who did play along at first with her boyfriend's referring to the puppy as both of theirs, but that does not excuse this boyfriend's dramatic reaction when OP attempts to explain why the puppy being 'hers' is so important to her.

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NOPE.

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"Early on my BF told me he felt excluded since I would refer to the puppy as 'mine' and not 'ours'. Note that I paid for the trip, the puppy, vet expenses, food etc and it wasn't ever talked about that we would get a puppy together. However I started referring to the puppy as 'ours' because it was important to him."
We think that this was your first mistake OP. Instead of playing along with your boyfriend for the sake of not hurting his feelings, it would have probably been preferable to have just had the difficult conversation with him from the get-go. That way the expectations would have been more clear to him. Though we are not excusing his toxic behavior, we do think that steps could have been taken to prevent or at least minimize it.

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"After thinking it over I decided to set a boundary and explain to my BF that the puppy was my dog but that he was absolutely an important part in the puppy's life and that it didn't change anything. However I didn't like the possessiveness so I wanted to be clear about it with him."
We agree that this was the right move, OP! This talk had to happen sooner or later, so why not sooner?

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