Controlling BF Moves In And Starts Micromanaging GF's Dog Parenting, She Goes Off On Him

A little tip about offering free parenting advice- don't. This is a statement that can also be applied to doggo parenting. Look, if you see that a dog is clearly not being sufficiently taken care of, (is underweight, matted, or obviously ill) then that is a different situation. But if the dogs in question are happy and healthy, then there is simply no reason to insert one's opinion into the parenting matters of others.

The only redeemable quality we can see in this situation is that the boyfriend had just moved in with his girlfriend, OP, and perhaps they could have clarified prior to this move what each person's household responsibilities would be. For example, OP might have stated from the get-go that the doggos are hers and hers to care for alone. Though, we have a feeling that this controlling BF would have asserted his own opinions and dog parenting styles regardless. Sighs, it might be time to rehome the boyfriend, or have a very clear respectful conversation at the end of which he understands his role in the household a little bit better, and that it does not consist of dog parenting in the slightest bit. We would definitely like an update on this one, perhaps OP will let us know what ends up happening. Either way, we are only rooting for the health and happiness of the doggos, as always!

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Nope.

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"Inherently I have no issues with this, but since moving in, he micromanages everything I do with my dogs."
Annnnnnd that's where you lost us. Since when is it appropriate for one partner to micromanage the other in ANY respect. The answer? Never. Don't worry, controlling bf, your girlfriend will ask for your opinion on HER dogs if she wants it, if not, don't offer.

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"He thinks it's easier to feed the dogs first then make myself a coffee and says it's an easy, small change."
Well, HE CAN just go think that somewhere else, like at his friend's house where he should be staying for the foreseeable future.

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"Yesterday, I came home and he tells me we have to talk. I sit down, and kid you not, he begins holding an intervention on my treatment of my pets. Honestly, I lose him. I began shouting and asked him to get out. He told me he was only looking out for me and my dogs, but reluctantly left after refusing for 15 minutes."

SIS. You did the right thing, if you ask us anyway. Don't doubt yourself for a moment, you go above and beyond to care for your dogs. How many toys your dogs get, what time they are walked, and when they are fed are YOUR decisions to make and YOURS alone. If your boyfriend wants to assume a more parental role for your doggos, that's a conversation that you need to have together. And a conversation MUST be had before he begins to micromanage the dogs. It's just respectful.

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