Woman Forbids Husbad from Bachelor Festivities, Years Later He Takes Revenge By Ruining Her Wardrobe

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    r/AITAH u/throwradressessize • 2d AITAH for struggling to forgive my husband for his petty revenge on me? I feel CRAZY
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    Husband (34M) and I (32F) have been married 6 years. 2 months ago I stopped him from going on a bachelor's trip with his long term school friends. I was okay, and was kinda looking forward to him having fun, until I learned he hid the fact that they would be doing a lot of adult themed activities (think strippers and happy end massages) as a part of their itinerary. It caused a huge fight as we've always maintained that this is a deal breaker for me and the fact that he hid it from me made it wo
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    What he did broke my trust and the only way I could see him earning it back is if he voluntarily told his friends that he couldn't come. Which he did. At the time he looked really apologetic and we made up, he took me to shopping and all was good. I bought some fashionable outfits and was looking to wear them ahead of su ner.
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    Where we live, it was still a little cold and I didn't get to immediately dress up in the clothes I just bought. Also, most of my summer clothes had shrunk in the washer so I practically only had my oversized casuals and these clothes I had just bought. Few weeks later it starts to get warmer and as I slip into my new dress, it feels tight. I'm confused. I just tried them on in the store and I'm a size 14 (as the label on the dress said) so no, I didn't get the wrong size from the store. Then an
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    I've always been a bit sensitive about how my body looks and I remember telling my husband how excited I was about these new clothes that look so flattering on me. I felt so good in all of them. And now, they looked so hideous on me. I start crying on the floor. I was too embarrassed to tell my husband this. I thought he must've noticed if I'd put on weight. I was a wreck.
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    I was feeling crazy for a few weeks now. Even the clothes that I had before felt tighter. I don't know if it was placebo or really, but it didn't help.
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    My husband few days ago during dinner said he wanted to confess something. He was snickering while saying this and what he said absolutely crushed me. He said that while I was gone to see my sister (who had just had a baby) for a week, he had secretly taken all my outfits that he knows I routinely wear and gave them to the local tailor to make them a size or two smaller. He said he paid him generously to stitch things faster. And said sorry but it felt like a funny payback for what I had done (s
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    Eventually I tried to be okay, but I am not. I'm still reeling from what he did as a petty revenge. It's been some time since he confessed, and offered to get them stitched back to original size.
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    I'm struggling with what he just did. I want to forgive him. I never knew how resentful he was of me about that trip. Maybe it's my fault. I should've been more trusting. I knew he would never cheat. In my heart I knew he would keep away. And from his POV, his petty revenge on me probably feels deserved. I would be mad too if he stopped me from doing something I was looking forward to do. But still, if you were me, how'd you feel? Has anyone had their spouse do petty revenge on them?
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    TLDR: My husband and I had a huge fight because he hid that his bachelor trip involved adult-themed activities, which I consider a deal-breaker. He agreed not to go, and we made up. Later, I discovered my new clothes were too tight and felt like I'd gained weight. Recently, my husband confessed he had secretly taken my clothes to a tailor to make them smaller as petty revenge for stopping his trip, thinking it was funny. His actions crushed me, and although he offered to fix the clothes, I'm str
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    12781278AaR • 2d And why do you suppose he eventually told her? She says that she was too embarrassed to say anything to him about all this weight she thought she'd gained. So there he is, rubbing his hands together and gleefully waiting for her to break down and freak out about none of her clothes fitting, but she doesn't. So eventually, he is forced to tell her what he did so he can watch her fall apart― which is what he's been waiting for all along. You know, because he needs "revenge."
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    Also, OP, I know husbands can be really convincing, but he was absolutely going to cheat on you. And if he was planning a trip like that, chances are, he's already done plenty of stuff like that in the past. Nobody plans to go on a trip with a bunch of guys that's full of strippers and "happy ending" massages—but they're just gonna sit it out, like a little good boy in the corner, while all their friends indulge. No way.
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    Any man who loved his wife would not be going on a trip like this. If he hasn't already cheated on you, he's been daydreaming about it and he was absolutely going to on this trip. You need to leave this guy. That is one of the meanest pranks I've ever heard of, and you did not deserve anything of the sort.
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    Necessary_Tap343 • 2d OP. This answer! You were not wrong he lied to you. You don't lie to a partner unless you know you are going to do something that will cross a relationship boundary and upset them. He knew he was doing something wrong and got when you called him out. He targeted his revenge to attack your biggest insecurity someone who really loves you would not emotionally abuse you like that. You deserve better. Д ← 88 +
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    LittleFrenchKiwi • 2d And it's also not an easy fixed prank. 1. the cost to resize them back out could be huge 2. not all clothes can be I around with like this. You can't see new seams then just unpick them and expect everything to be ok. The needle can leave marks and/or holes in delicate fabric. So just making them bigger again could leave marks where the smaller seam was. 3. this was just really evil. He couldn't have done it with just one dress? He had to do loads of stuff? That's so beyond
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    suhhhrena ⚫ 2d For real. He spent time and lots of money pulling this "prank".... All because you didn't want him going on a bachelor's trip that involved strip clubs and HAPPY ENDING MASSAGES? What the This guy and his friends are really disgusting and I'd be rethinking this whole marriage. 3.3k B
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    Diligent Psychology62.2d That was a calculated, time consuming and expensive act meant to hurt you where he knew you were the most vulnerable and would hurt you the most. No excuse for that kind of cruelty regardless of the reason. Reply 8.3k
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    beautycarol1 • 2d NTA. Your husband's actions were not petty revenge, but a deliberate act to undermine your self-esteem and body image. This is not acceptable behavior from a partner. Explain to your husband in detail how his actions made you feel. Be honest about your hurt, betrayal, and the impact on your self-worth. Don't feel pressured to forgive him if you're not ready. Reply 834
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    NTA UnluckyYou3574 • 2d To recap your husband is a liar and cruel. I don't understand how you can watch someone you "love" suffer and think that's funny! Reply 2.8k
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    Accomplished_ways777 • 2d he took revenge on you because you didn't let him cheat. and he took revenge by giving you a low blow to your self esteem, 100% intentionally. he is not the kind of a person to be married to. he's vile, disgusting and immature as and he hurts you as payback for not letting him cheat. if that's what you think you deserve from your husband, then i can't even feel sorry for you... Reply 2.2k
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    Catlin M. 2d Unless the tailor knew it was going to be temporary, none of them can be fixed. Part of making them smaller involves cutting off the extra fabric 102

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