Woman Inherits Ex Mother-in-law’s Jewelry For Her Daughter When She Grows Up, So Ex’s New Girlfriend Accuses Her of Wanting it for Herself

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 21, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. We live in a world with so much importance put on material possessions, that sometimes we forget and forgo the human in us. We would rather ruin relationships we have than let go of that adored shirt that cost us so much. It's a bit unhealthy, if you ask me, but it's the way of the world, and that's a fact. Material items and money work hand in hand to disallow us to separate from these meaningless things, to focus on interpersonal relationships. Inheritance is infamously known to be one of the drivers of sundered relationships. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. It's about an amicably divorced couple, where they still share a close relationship with each other (albeit Platonic), in order to have a stable upbringing for their daughter. The husband's mother passes away, and her items are bestowed to her ex daughter-in-law and grandchild. Now this is where it gets tricky…a once peaceful relationship between two women is about to be stirred. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH 19 hr. ago Artistic_Contact_338 AITA for not letting my ex-husbands new girlfriend have a piece of his mother's jewelry?
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    Throwaway cause family follows my main. I (40F) and my ex, we'll call him Joe (41M) were high school sweethearts, started dating when we were 17, married at 19, and divorced 20 years later, so going on 2 years now. We have an amazing daughter, Sara who is 8, and has adjusted really well to the separation.
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    Joe and I get along great, the divorce was amicable and we're still good friends. Not like we hang out alone or anything, but we don't argue or fuss at each other, help each other out, and just over all have each others backs because at the end of the day, our number one priority will always be Sara and doing what is best for her.
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    We've both moved on and are in serious long term relationships with other people. His girlfriend, Lily (46F) is great and really good for him. I have never had any conflict with her and enjoy spending time with her when we all get together for holidays and other important events or celebrations. Until last week. Joes
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    parents passed away within a month of each other last summer and it was devastating for all of us. Even though Joe and I had already been divorced for about a year, they still treated me like family and I loved them dearly. Joe and Lily hadn't started dating yet so she never met them which is a shame, they were incredible people.
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    Long story to get to the point but I feel like the background is important. Last week Sara got a box in the mail from her Aunt who was responsible for dividing up my late mother in law's jewelry amongst the kids and grandkids. She had a huge collection of both costume and more expensive fine jewelry. I let
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    Joe know about it and he explained that some of it was left to me so when he would come over and we sort through it together. Lily came with him which was fine, it was extremely difficult and we were both very emotional so I'm glad she was there to support him. Here's where I think I may be the As we were going
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    through the jewelry, we had pulled out a couple of cheaper pieces of costume jewelry for Sara to have now and I had picked out a couple of rings, a necklace, and three pairs of earrings to keep knowing that they will eventually go to Sara as well. Joe and I agreed that the rest of it would be put away in
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  • 09
    the lockbox that we each have a key to at my house and would stay there until Sara is older and it goes to her. One of the pieces being put away is a beautiful set of ruby and diamond earrings and necklace that are obviously very real and we believe were passed down from Joes grandmother. Lily had been
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    admiring the set and making comments about how well it would go with the wedding dress she had been looking at (they aren't engaged) or even with some of her date night outfits. Joe didn't say anything to her in response and when she put them down I wrapped them back up and put them along with the rest
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    of the jewelry in the lockbox. Since then, Lily has texted me multiple times asking about them and if she can just "borrow" them. At one point she accused me of just wanting them for myself and pointed out that Joe and I were divorced and I didn't have any right to keep them. She has also said that when they get married, the jewelry will legally be part of
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    their marital assets anyway so I'm just putting off the inevitable. I'm not planning on wearing them, per my agreement with Joe, I'll wear the pieces I picked out and the rest will stay put away for Sara. I have zero intention of taking any of it out unless it's. necessary and even then, I'll let Joe know what's going on with it.
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    Joes has been radio silent and I haven't said anything because I don't want to cause any conflict that could have an impact on Sara.
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  • 14
    So am I the for not giving in and letting Lily have some of the jewelry meant for my daughter?
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  • 15
    TLDR: My ex-husbands girlfriend wants some of the expensive jewelry left to my daughter when his mom passed away and I wouldn't let her have it, and put it away for my daughter instead.
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    Stoic_STFU 18h ago The jewelry "Last week Sara got a box in the mail from her Aunt who was responsible for dividing up my late mother in law's. jewelry amongst the kids and grandkids. " is not a marital asset in relation to your divorce and it's your
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    daughter's inheritance from her grandmother?! The only one who has rights to the jewelry is your daughter?!
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  • 18
    A conversation needs to be had with your ex and documents drawn up to make sure that the jewelry never ends up with Lily - ASAP.
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  • 19
    You may want to rethink him having a key to this lockbox and her very possibly using a pretext to gain access to what she already assumes and is trying to claim is rightfully hers?!
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    You now know what she's actually thinking about your child and feels she has the right to usurp your child's inheritance- so what's next, Sara's college fund?! NTA
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    • Lady_Salamander ⚫ 18h ago NTA. Jewelry handed down. to your daughter from her grandmother never belonged to her father, so won't ever be part of the marital assets. The jewelry isn't even yours to give or lend. It's your daughter's now.
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    VegetableBusine... • 17h ago Actually the they won't be a part of the martial estate, as they are willed and gifted to her granddaughter now. They effectively no longer exist in anyone's estate except your (albeit under aged) daughter's estate.
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    If I were you, I would go to an attorney, get the jewelery appraised for insurance purposes, and set up a trust for your daughter, to be controlled by you and another person you trust (not your ex, sorry). Start with the jewelry and a small sum of money, have family as to it in lieu of big gifts.
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  • 24
    Nothings gonna happen to you OP, but if it does.... Your ex is gonna side with the harpy PS please cause some conflict. Tell your ex that he needs to check his gf
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