Entitled mom asks 28-year-old sister who works full time to babysit her 1-year-old once a week, calls her selfish when she refuses: 'The request itself is unreasonable'

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    AITA for Not Babysitting My Sister's Kid One Day a Week?
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    I (28F) have a pretty busy life with a full-time job, hobbies, and a bit of a social life. My sister (32F) has a one year old and asked if I could babysit one day a week so she can have some "me time" or run errands. While I love my niece and don't mind helping out occasionally, committing to a regular weekly babysitting schedule feels like too much for me.
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    I've tried explaining that with my current workload and personal commitments, I don't have the energy to reliably take on this responsibility. I offered to help on a more flexible basis, like stepping in when she's in a pinch or trading off with other family members, but she was clearly disappointed and said I was being selfish for not wanting to support her more consistently.
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    Now I'm feeling guilty because I know new moms need support, and I do want to be there for her and my niece. At the same time, I don't want to overextend myself and end up resenting the situation.
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    AITA for not wanting to babysit regularly even though I'm capable of doing it?
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    LouisV25 12h ago NTA. 1. Children are the responsibility of their parents. Yes, it's hard but it is the life they chose.
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    2. Yes, family HELPS family. Your sister isn't looking for "help" (which is what you offered helping every so - often), she is looking for a dedicated resource. It is too much to ask someone to rearrange their own life because they need a break from being a parent.
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    3. You cannot be selfish with what you own - your time, resources, etc. Your sister is the selfish one. She is try to take a chunk of your freedom (a min of 56 days a year - cause it would be more) for herself.
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    4. I will never understand why people think the appropriate response to a "no" is to throw insults. That is never productive. You are not the AH. The request itself is unreasonable.
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    . FuzzyMom2005 • 13h ago NTA. With your full time job, this would make SIX days a week you're working. When is YOUR 'me' time? Your sister can take her daughter with her on errands. , my mom had 3 of us and had to take us everywhere with her. She's the selfish one. This is her daughter and HER responsibility. Not yours.
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    HorseygirlWH . 13h ago My hubby and I had two kids (adults now) and both our families lived out of state. If I wanted me time, he watched the kids and vice versa, or we hired a babysitter. Why doesn't the dad watch the kid if she wants time off? If he's not in the picture, that's not your problem. I wouldn't want to commit to something weekly, either, you want to be able to see friends or do whatever kid less thing you want to do. You're NTA.
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    Peony-Pony • 12h ago NTA There is no such thing as "me time" after you have children. And if your sister wants someone to make a commitment to watch her child one day a week, so she can run errands child free she needs to hire a sitter. You work full time, you need your down time to take care of things you need to take care of in your life too
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    zzWoWzz 13h ago NTA Your sister is the one being selfish for trying to guilt trip you into taking care of HER child. She should respect your answer and ask someone else.
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    Kami_Sang 12h ago NTA - I also wouldn't want to commit. Let's say I agreed okay every Wednesday but then I get invited to something one Wed, I should be able to say I can't babysit this Wed (because I have my own life). My sister having a baby shoukdn't mean I lose all my Wednesdays. This is almost
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    guaranteed to lead to a blowup or a request for you to switch dates. Yes, new moms need support but you didn't have your niece and are not required to be locked down. What really robs me the wrong way is that when your sister is told no, she then goes to calling you selfish. The only person who is selfish is your sister who expects you to give up some of your life to support hers.
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    The minute she went into that zone of name calling I know that anytime she asks, she expects a yes and if you can't deliver she will put you down. She is entitled. Frankly, I would be a bit harsh - I'm not taking that kind of abuse and I'm not going to be bullied into baby sitting.
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    Tita Januario 12h ago • NTA Her kid, her choice. Being a mom was her choice, she can't guilty you to babysit. You are right in not wanting to commit yourself in that way. She can't expect for someone to do that, she should be happy that you are available to help from time to time.
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    Clean_Factor9673 • 11h ago NTA. This is her and the child's father's problem. Your life isn't subordinate to hers. Suggest she book a regular sitter. She doesn't want to pay though.
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    Travelgrrl 11h ago • NTA as that's a huge ask. And a parent of a one year old is not a 'new mom' as that brings to mind someone struggling with a newborn and sleep interruptions etc.
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    I'm frankly tired of how many people have children and then expect family members to help raise them. You are not being selfish (and if you were, so what? You didn't decide to bear the child - she did) but your sister is selfish to expect that of you. And not so she could go the Dr or work half a day, so she could have free time.

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