‘She misled me’: Woman Decides To Cut Off BFF After ‘Being Let Down’ Repeatedly by Her, Withholds Academic Information from Her To Prove a Point

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Oct 29, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

College is a turbulent time for friendships and academics. What you learned in high school might not have prepared you well enough for the subject you're studying and friends who were once close to you decide you no longer serve them. Add this to the ever-growing list of family issues that might happen in your life, and things can get very stressful. We can only hope that we have a few real friends by our sides to help us navigate the uncharted waters that is higher education.

The woman in this story is dealing with a moral dilemma. Though her good friend and neighbor of years has let her down time and time again, the original poster (OP) feels bad about withholding academic information from her ex-BFF. This friend has pulled stunts that resulted in the OP's GPA dipping and had isolated her from their usual study sessions that used to happen weekly. What do you think? Did the OP make the right call on giving the ex-BFF a taste of her own medicine? Scroll below to get the full story in detail.

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    "This really affected my studies and trust in her."
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    After Being Let Down, Am I In The Wrong to Finally Leave My 'Friend' Out?
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    I've been struggling with a conflict in my friendship with a close friend and neighbor, I known her for about four years. Last year, during our second year of college, things began to change. We used to study
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    together almost every day, sharing notes and voice notes to help each other with difficult topics. However, she stopped including me in our study sessions and formed a private group with other
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    friends, which really hurt. I talked to her about missing our study time, and she said she would resume helping me, but it never happened. To make matters worse, I found out that she helped
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    another friend cheat during an exam, being on call with him while ignoring my questions for help. When I asked her about important class topics, she misled me, saying that professors. hadn't emphasized
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    anything important, which turned out to be untrue. This really affected my studies and trust in her. There was also a national competition at our college that I was interested in, but
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    I missed the lecture where the professor discussed it because I was suffering from a migraine. She was supposed to sign me up for it but didn't, and I found out about the competition from another friend after it was
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    mentioned in our university group chat. It was frustrating to learn about it this way, especially since I had considered her a close friend. I asked her to sign me up for it, and she initially said she would.
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    However, when I followed up to see if she had done it, she told me she forgot- three times. This summer was particularly tough because my dad had health issues that required frequent
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    hospital visits. I asked in our group chat of friends if anyone knew a heart doctor, but I received no responses, not even from her. Feeling unsupported, I decided to distance myself from her and focus on my
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    studies, which actually improved my GPA. Recently, another friend signed me up for a competition at our college, and I didn't tell my friend about it, even though
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    there's a chance for her to participate too. We used to go to university together, but she stopped accompanying me last. Sunday and has been going alone, even though we live on the same block and take
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    the same route. Now I feel conflicted about whether I should inform her about the competition opportunity or keep it to myself. Am I in the wrong for not including her?
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    OlderThanDi... 2h ago • You don't need to tell her anything. She is not a friend. "I talked to her about missing our study time, and she said she would resume helping me, but it never happened." She sees you as the
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    weaker student. She does not benefit from studying with you, so she dropped you. It's all about her. Move on & find people who appreciate you.
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    Burner_Kaz... This person either 2h ago couldn't give less of a darn about you at best or is actively, for some reason, attempting to sabotage you. Even if neither of these things
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    were true, she's made it clear that she's not wanting to interact with you going forward. Do not do her this favor when she's not even treating you like a person.
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    beyondstars... . 2h ago • For better or worse, this person sounds like they don't have the capacity or want to support you anymore and it's likely best to just cut the loss
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    and move on. They seem passive to your problems as well as your friendship, stay focused on school and find better friends to connect with.
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    rnewscates73 2h ago • She has distanced herself and excluding you deliberately and even sabotaging your studies. She is no longer your friend! You owe her nothing. Concentrate on
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    yourself and your studies and don't waste time and energy on her. You are on your own. Why doesn't matter now.
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    Ginger630 1h ago She isn't a friend. Don't feel bad about not telling her about the competition. Let her find out from someone else.
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    I'd stop reaching out to her at all. Block her number. Focus on your studies and your real friends.
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