Homeowner finds and calls contractor's mother when he takes 50% payment up front and then never shows: 'I became an internet detective and found his mother's contact information'

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  • Contractor upset when ghosted client calls his mother

    I hired someone recently for an electrical project at my house. After getting a few bids, I chose one contractor I felt comfortable with. We talked through the scope of the work and scheduled a start date about two weeks out. I paid roughly half up front so he could purchase the materials needed for the job.
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  • On the day we were supposed to begin, he messaged saying he had an emergency and asked to push it to the next day. I agreed. The next day came and went and he never showed up.
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  • Before that point we had been communicating regularly by phone and text, but after the no-show he completely stopped responding. I tried reaching out for about three days with no reply. His texts have read receipts turned on, so I could see that my messages were being seen.
  • At that point I started worrying that I might have been scammed since he already had the upfront payment. I did some digging online and ended up finding contact information for some of his family members. I reached out to his mom.
  • She didn't respond, but later that same day the contractor finally contacted me - and he was p ed that I had reached out to his mother. So, AITAH? I just want the job done or my money back and I was doing anything I could to get some sort of result.
  • TLDR: Contractor took my deposit and ran. After days of not returning my calls, not responding to my text messages, though seeing them (he has read receipts on), I became an internet detective and found his mother's contact information and reached out to her. She didn't answer, but he called me that evening p ed off that I called his mother.
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  • The responses

    UnderstandingOld4276 NTA and NAL. Do you have a written, signed contract or was this just a handshake deal? If you decide to take him to small claims court, you'll have to get in contact with him to have the papers served, so any information you can find will be useful to the process server. As for you contacting her, that's his problem you just want a response (which you got?). When he did contact you, did he tell you what the status of your work/deposit is? Or did he just b because you called
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply We do have a contract. He just bitched about me "going too far" in contacting his mom. We're still in contact about the deposit... I have further plans if I don't get the deposit back by EOD
  • Militantignorance Where I live - the US, Maryland, home contractors are required to have a license (and insurance), and if they do cr p like this you can get the state to intervene. Do you have a written and signed agreement?
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply I do and I'm prepared to go to the state. I want my refund first. though.
  • Feeling-Invite7953 NTA,but now that he's gone awol with the deposit you agreed to,contact the company he works for and provide them with the information on your contract. They should reach out to him, and get him to call you back about starting the job, though why you'd even bother to use him at this point is beyond me. You'll probably have to go after him in court for taking the deposit and then blowing you off for the work!! Get the Better Business Bureau and your county licensing department o
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply He works for himself. If I don't get the deposit by end of day I'll file a police report, report his licensure to his state trade association, file a complain with the attorney general for contract breach, and be very vocal and public about my interaction on local social media sites. I'll include screenshots and keep it factual). It would be worth his time to refund me.
  • Big_Reporter8521 A reputable contractor of any type doesn't collect until the job is complete
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply He is the sole employee of his company, I thought it was standard practice to give a little for materials. Lesson learned though. I like to support local, but I'll pay a little more for a larger local company
  • HavahLynah Why are you expecting his mother to be responsible for him? I'm so ashamed of you.
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply I don't expect his mom to be responsible for him. I was trying to get a response, and it worked. He had ghosted me for days. I'd be super embarrassed if someone called my mom.
  • rosegarden207 NTA. Take him to small claims court and make sure to trash him on social media, such as bad ratings, etc. I wouldnt be above calling his mother again and telling her he stole your money Edited to advise most secure contractors will ask for maybe 1/3 of the contract for a deposit, a successful company will have sufficient credit line to purchase the needed supplies to begin the job
  • Want2BnOre A contractor should get start-up money for materials and to hold your space and then collect the balance at end of project. Unless their scope is such that they need a midway payment as well. But regardless, final payment is made after the work is complete
  • friendtoallkitties Nonsense. It was a brilliant move.
  • Jealous-Ad8487 Honestly, if there is a signed contract, I'd sue him for breech of contract and get the work done by someone else.
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply Contract isn't signed, but all terms were negotiated via text, which where I'm from is binding.
  • No_Photo1149 Are you serious????? You get scammed and your remedy is to tattle to his MOM! I'm stealing this move for the next time I have to track down a contractor!!! BRILLIANT... ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!!! 22
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply It seems to be the only thing that got a response :-)
  • rasalscan At this point, as for a refund. He's not trustworthy
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply That's what I'm doing. I don't want him in my home.
  • SecureInstruction538 Suing is one thing. Collecting is another.
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply If I sued, I don't think I'd get a penny from this guy. I think the best approach is to go after his reputation on social media if he doesn't resolve this quickly.
  • No_Cartoonist981 I did the same with a roof conversion, not the mother but some director or something in name only I found through checking the tax records or something (it's been over 10 years). Worked though...
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply It's insane what you can find online. I found out way more about this guy and his family than I ever expected. It's quite dangerous actually.
  • InnerCosmos54 I suspect the guy is a dig addict. He took your money, partied with it, and is now trying to avoid you, a common tatic of addicts. I hope you got everything in writing. before you gave him the money, because it sounds like you're going to have to take him to court to get a cent of your money back.
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply I don't know if he's ad g addict, but there seems to be a lot of "emergencies"
  • auntwewe NTA. However, did you actually have a contract with them or was it on a verbal agreement? Also, did you get copies of his license and insurance? If he gets hurt at your property without insurance, it's gonna fall to your homeowners. That is how you w d out some of the riffraff
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply Written agreement
  • Beautiful-Contest-48 I have an ex friend (because of this) that pulled sh like this. The last customer called the police and he ended up getting charged with theft resulting in court ordered restitution and 3 years probation. 20+K. And he's mad at the customer he screwed over. "I would have eventually gotten to it" was his lame excuse. OP's contractor is a POS that makes the whole business look bad. If he's going to get his in a bunch, maybe he could try to be a decent human being and not ghosti
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply If I don't get a refund, I'll be going to the police for sure.
  • abl050458 NTAH Get your money back, don't let him start work. You got a gift of seeing what he's like before he had your house torn apart. If you let him continue then you WILL be TAH because you didn't heed the clear red flag he flew. I always only use people that I have recommendations for from friends. Sometimes I have to ask friends via FB if closer circle doesn't have a recommendation, but sure helps W d out the bums. Good luck!
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply I'm severing all ties. I told him I expect a full refund and he's not allowed on my property
  • iFly2100 NTA any means of collection is - fair game.
  • BRINOCO Original Poster's Reply That's how I feel.

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