People's Favorite Lessons From Therapy (36 Tweets)

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    Text - Caroline Moss @CarolineMoss If you go to therapy quote tweet this with the best thing you learned at therapy that way everyone else can get free therapy
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    Text - DemoChrissy @DemoChrissy NT E UNES NTO EUNE NS Replying to @CarolineMoss and @Nicole_Cliffe That everyone needs a coping mechanism. There are bad ones( drinking, drugs, violence) and good ones (excercise, meditation, therapy). Pick a good one so you can avoid the bad ones, bc we all have things we needs to cope with.
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    Text - Kimya Dawson O @mrskimyadawson Replying to @CarolineMoss Anxiety causes me to put things off a lot and in group therapy we worked on "the 15 minute rule". If something feels impossibly overwhelming I set a timer to work on it for 15 minutes and that takes away that "I'm about to swan dive into a bottomless hole" feeling.
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    Text - Wendy Marsden @marsden_wendy Replying to @CarolineMoss This wasn't mine, but a friend heard, "your marriage wasn't a failure: it actually worked pretty well for over twenty years. You've just graduated from it to something else."
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    Text - josiah @jgulden - 6h Replying to @CarolineMoss Your thoughts/feelings/impulses are not you. They're neurological phenomena you've been conditioned to experience in response to stimulus. You can respond to them in one of four ways: 2710 96 josiah @jgulden - 5h • Reactively indulge them • Reactively suppress them • Consciously engage with them (if useful) • Consciously release them (if not useful) Reactive response are generally a product of trauma, but your agency to choose another respons
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    Text - @_sputnik1 Replying to @CarolineMoss and @Nicole_Cliffe The best thing a therapist ever told me is that society doesn't need to be the one to set me schedule. I'm allowed to eat breakfast at 11, go to bed at lam. There's no correct mold to fit, just find whatever works best for me.
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    Text - Jess Ondras @JessOndras Replying to @CarolineMoss I told my therapist, after several weeks of anxiety reduction, that maybe l'm someone who never will be "happy". And she told me that happy people aren't continuously happy. Happy people just experience less anxious and depressed days, and that definition helped me reach "happy".
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    Text - Sailor Nichols @sailboatsail Replying to @CarolineMoss When meeting new people, don't think about it as trying to get them to like you- think about it as trying to see if you like them / if you get along with them. Rather than focusing on what they must be thinking about you, focus on what you think about them. Changed my life.
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    Text - Margaret @sophiered Replying to @CarolineMoss Identify behavior that helped you cope with growing up in a dysfunctional family, but doesn't serve you well as an adult. Recognizing the pattern is the first step towards doing things differently now.
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    Text - Bob Merger @MergerBob Replying to @CarolineMoss Just because your significant other loves you, they don't always know what you're thinking and what you need. Don't think "If they loved me they should know." A simple straightforward conversation can clear up a lot.
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    Text - Emily M. @emilyadele Replying to @CarolineMoss "Don't should all over yourself."
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    Text - Grecia Small @greciasmall Replying to @CarolineMoss I learned : Do not attempt to understand why a dysfunctional person does what they do. Dysfunction has no logic behind it. Knowing This, has spared me anxiety and unneeded turmoil
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    Text - Jill @OLCVTA Replying to @CarolineMoss If you can imagine the worst thing, you can imagine the best thing. Both things are imaginary. Say outloud verbally the positive outcome, repeat until it feels more real. <>
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    Text - TJ_Davis @Ttown316 Replying to @CarolineMoss "You are not responsible for the version of you that they created in their mind."
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    Text - knit to forget @got1eyeopen O Replying to @CarolineMoss Anxiety stemming from past trauma is reduced significantly if you reconnect yourself with the present when it hits. Things like attention to breathing, sharp flavors (apple Jolly Ranchers), and hot spicy tea help me.
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    Text - KJ @kjones912 Replying to @CarolineMoss Someone's very best effort at loving you still may not be the thing that you need. it doesn't mean they're not trying hard enough, or don't love you enough. It means that's all they're capable of doing. And you have to decide if that's what you're willing to live with.
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    Text - Hurricane Merry @Merry_Quinn Replying to @CarolineMoss and @Nicole_Cliffe Anxiety is not intuition
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    Text - mayormac @mayormac Replying to @CarolineMoss From couples counseling: When talking to your spouse about chores & errands say things like "Have we done x yet?" Or "Did we do x?" - acknowledges that both are equally responsible for the task w/out blaming either if it's not done MAY
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    Text - Thurman Merman @therman_merman_ Replying to @CarolineMoss If you can see the train wreck from a mile away there's still time to hop off the train
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    Text - Susanna K. @superflippy Replying to @CarolineMoss The #BestThingATherapistSaid to me was to break everything down into smaller pieces. No, smaller. No, even smaller. The first step to taking a shower is walking to the bathroom.
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    Text - El Campbell, Artist and That One Bitch @EIShemena Replying to @CarolineMoss Most of us are doing our level best, including me, but we are all of us gonna hurt someone someday. I don't need to take that personally.
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    Text - Dominic Mendez @domendezz Replying to @CarolineMoss Confrontation doesn't need to be a bad thing or an argument. If you're having trouble talking about a problem, try writing down a bullet list of the issues, why it's an issue/where it might stem from for you, and what can be done to fix it
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    Text - carrie oakey @carrioakee Replying to @CarolineMoss Thoughts aren't facts.
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    Text - Ester Bloom @shorterstory Replying to @CarolineMoss Someone told me that Kristen Bell's therapist told her that honesty without tact is cruelty and I wrote it on a Post-It and keep it on my desk
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    Text - W Katie W @kappatau314 Replying to @CarolineMoss Avoid saying "should". It's too easy to fall into pressuring yourself and pushing yourself too much. Reframe and rephrase. "I should exercise" after exercise", "I should do laundry" "I like how I feel - "I want clean clothes"
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    Text - Leslie Kowash Missing Student OWEN KLINGER @LKowash Replying to @CarolineMoss I don't have to believe everything I think, just because I thought it.
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    Text - Renata Strause @REStrause Replying to @CarolineMoss Therapist in her late 80s: Everyone in their 30s feels guilty for not keeping up with their friends. Just send them a card once a year and then in your 50s, you'll start going out for happy hour with them again.
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    Text - Katie Gallagher @miskaten Replying to @CarolineMoss Every behavior is a need trying to be met.
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    Text - Melanie Sweeney @mellie_sweeney Replying to @CarolineMoss If you're vulnerable with someone, and they respond with cliches or hollow advice that makes you feel worse, don't keep baring your soul to them. Talk with the people who are capable of engaging deeply, and don't walk around exposing yourself to everyone else just bc they asked.
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    Text - Cindy Gross [she/her] #Befriending... v @CindyGross Replying to @CarolineMoss My attempts to "fix" or help others (individuals or cultures) are signs I am trying to heal something related (often that exact, literal thing) in myself.
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    Text - Alex Kinghorn @AlexKinghorn BOOMER Replying to @CarolineMoss Emotions aren't bad, though some tend to be more productive than others. You may be doing better than you realize. Sometimes being frustrated or angry is better than in fear or depressed.
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    Text - Jen T. @stuffjenlikes Replying to @CarolineMoss and @Nicole_Cliffe Other people having it worse does not make your pain any less real. ., someone else's broken ankle doesn't mean yours isn't sprained.
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    Text - Shasta Deanna @ShastaDeanna Replying to @CarolineMoss "If you take care of your body during times of crisis - it will take care of you" (nutrition, sleep, exercise) - "some people don't have the same tools in their tool box we wish they had" (when people don't know how to care/love you in ways that you need) <>
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    Text - TrielaRhyfel @TrielaExen Replying to @CarolineMoss Same actions have same results, if you want something to change you have to start acting different. Feeling alone is not the same as being alone, we often can't see how many people loves us when we're blue.
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    Text - Ashley @ashley_hoffman Replying to @CarolineMoss Don't make any big life decisions when you're in the middle of an anxiety attack or depressive episode 7:27 AM - 11/25/19 · Twitter for iPhone 8 Retweets 171 Likes flaura and fauna @Lauraaaaah0103 · 2h v Replying to @ashley_hoffman and @CarolineMoss And for some, your period. My anxieties and ocd are worse at that time and I always want to make rash decisions. Wait it out until you can think clearly. 01 25
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    Text - Kay I:a @kwte428 Othe loero rogoy morioge Replying to @CarolineMoss and @Nicole_Cliffe Best thing I learned is your experiences, your trauma, your pain, they are beads. And each experience compiles a necklace we wear. But we are not our traumas. We are the string underneath.


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