Mom Forces Daughter To Share Swimsuit With 'Less Fortunate' Child On Her Birthday

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Jun 5, 2021 4:00 PM EDT

Parenting is difficult, and people across the globe are definitely guilty of f*cking it up. On Reddit's "Am I The Asshole?" thread, a mom asked about a recent parenting mishap involving her 6-year-old daughter's birthday party. A child who almost had to go into foster care showed up at the birthday party without a swimsuit, and the mom tried to give her the daughter's brand-new swimsuit. Because she's a typical six-year-old, she had a meltdown, and the mom responded by punishing her on her birthday. Who knew so much drama could go down at a six-year-old's birthday party? Scroll down for more details, and how people reacted. Do you think the mom was in the wrong? 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/sdfvtewdvredd 1 day ago AITA for forcing my daughter to share her new swimsuit on her birthday against her wishes Asshole A week or so ago my cousin took in her 5 year old niece who would be in foster care right now if it wasn't for her taking her in. Without going in to too much detail, she's had a rough time lately. So they show up at my daughter's birthday(6th birthday) to drop off cousin's bio kid. Cousin didn't want to overwhelm niece since she's not fro
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    This mama is just looking for drama with her daughter. Keep reading for said drama. 

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    Font - This causes my daughter to spiral. It was her brand new bathing suit so she wanted to wear it on her birthday. I totally get that but at the same time, I want to raise my kid to know things don't always work out the way we want even on our birthdays. This results in a full meltdown where I end up saying my daughter will be spending the rest of the party in her bedroom alone if she doesn't stop this nonsense. I explained why we needed to be kind and let others use her swimsuit but she was
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    The Redditors unanimously decided that the mom is definitely the a**hole in this situation. Check out their reactions below. 

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    Font - akhicat · 1d Partassipant [2] YTA your daughter is 6 and she wanted to wear her new swimwear at her birthday party Kids that age look forward to that stuff. You ruined your daughter's birthday and made her hate the new kid. Kids that age do not do logic and understanding.
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    Font - alwaysiamdead · 21h So .. a similar thing happened to me on my 11th birthday, my parents had just started fostering and I was told I was sharing my birthday party and gifts with a foster child who arrived that day. It's been 24 years and I still hate celebrating my birthday.
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    Font - JustMissKacey · 22h If it was THAT important that the little girl have a proper swimsuit instead of some shorts and a shirt then any one of you should have driven her to the store and bought one. The extra 30-60 minuets of your life would have let your daughter enjoy her new party and HER new swimsuit. It's not like you were asking her to share the old one, but something new she was excited about. It was insensitive to your daughter and her feelings. Also, it's hers. It's important to res
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    Font - Real_MF_HotGirlShit · 21h Yeah, I would NEVER allow my kid to share swimsuits. You're not supposed to wash them in hot water, sooooo you can imagine how bacteria-laden that crotch is. YTA OP. You couldn't give your daughter ONE special day? Seriously? I can't imagine putting another child over my own on her birthday, and giving away her swimsuit to a kid who could have waited an hour for a round trip to target. Don't you dare give her that worn bathing suit back. Did you also open her gif
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    Font - DanielleDrs88 · 18h · edited 18h Not trying to piggyback but THIS. This was my childhood. My mother always prioritized other children over my younger brother and I, usually right in front of our faces. And I don't mean having to share a sweet or letting someone use my bike. She worked with a non-profit on Navajo reservations and we spent close to month every summer helping her. We were forced to give up our own possessions frequently and she used similar logic and tacking on "you have nic
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    Font - butt5000 · 1d Colo-rectal Surgeon [36] YTA - You've taught the kid that things you give her aren't actually hers and that they come with strings attached. This will quickly become a notion that you can't be trusted. Ever. The "even on your birthday" is an extra special bit of unkindness.
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    Font - TheJujyfruiter · 22h FFS, I've gone to family gatherings where I didn't plan on swimming and just slapped on a tee shirt and some shorts from my uncle, and this was when I was a teen/adult woman. If they were at OP's house then there was probably a dozen other good options besides letting someone else get the first opportunity to wear her daughter's new swimsuit.
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    Font - LowCalPal · 1d Asshole Enthusiast [7] YTA. I was NAH until you threatened her with punishment for not complying. She's 6 and this is a big deal for her. It's not cool to just compel her compliance via threats with something that feels so big and unfair to her.
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    Font - flora_pompeii · 1d Professor Emeritass [81] YTA, that's awful. I guess you think you are teaching her some forced lesson about kindness, but what you are really teaching her is that she can't trust you, that she isn't entitled to anything of her own, and that she can never get attached to anything nice because it will be ripped away from her.
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    Font - Magi0229 · 1d Partassipant [1] YTA. My mother has been doing this my entire life with my cousin and I. Always my stuff to my cousin. As I've grown up I have repeatedly told her I don't mine lending my stuff but 1) if it's new I want to be the first to use it and 2) ask me FIRST. If I say no, respect that. While your intentions was good you made your daughter feel less important and did it on her special day.
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    Font - Lotex_Style · 1d · edited 1d I'll go with YTA. I can see where you're coming from, but this forced sharing doesn't seem helpful in my opinion plus didn't you tell your cousin that she needs a bathing suit? If not it would be a double mess up on your part. I wouldn't go as far as telling you that something is broken now, but if you continue like this and make your daughter always cut back for someone elses sake I'm pretty sure that will leave a dent in the future.
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