Entitled Woman Expects Sister To Hand Over All Of Her Inheritance For Her IVF Treatments

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Aug 18, 2021 7:00 PM EDT

Having a baby is not always as easy as having a condom rip in bed. Some people can try for 10+ years for a child just to realize it's not in the cards. The beautiful thing about living in 2021, however, is that there are a multitude of different ways to start a family, even if you suffer from a low sperm count or high-risk eggs. You can hire a surrogate, try adopting, dabble in IVF, but the thing is... None of these are by any means 'easily affordable.' So basically, just like it is with most things, people with more money have more options, but this doesn't mean people with less money are entitled to use their richer friends' and family to fund their different methods.

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/Throwawayysister 4 hours ago 4 AITA for not helping my sister and husband pay for their IVF treatment using my inheritance despite having no immediate use for it?
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    Font - I don't know what all info I should provide so if I miss something that you might need please do ask me and I'll answer asap.
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    Font - So I am 25F and my sister, Ella is 31F. My husband = Tom and her husband = John.
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    Font - Ella is bisexual and our parents were religious af. So when she brought home a gf in hs they kicked her out. She never got an inheritance when our mum died.
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    Font - The both of us had cut contact with our parents but I still decided to accept the money because I figured it's the one good thing to come out of our abusive life so why not.
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    Font - The legal side of things were finalised a week ago. Ella and John came to see me while Tom was at work and told me they wanted to talk about something important.
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    Font - They said that they had exhausted all of their 'fertility' money and didn't have enough to try ivf again. I could see where this was going so I just said "I'm sorry Ella, I understand.
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    Font - I was thinking about this as well and Tom thinks this is the right thing to do too. You should have half of the money, you deserve it"
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  • 09
    Font - John tells me that's not what they wanted to talk about but that they wanted all of the money. I'm a bit taken aback.
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    Font - Apparently half won't be enough. I tell them that I was going to use my part (or if she didn't want the half, all of it) for my daughter's college fund and another fund for her to use for whatever she wishes during her teen years.
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    Font - I remind Ella that we always promised each other our children will be financially well off because we never had that growing 'dn
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    Font - Where I live college is extremely expensive so despite my daughter being only 3 Tom and I wanted to start this for her.
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    Font - I tell Ella and John all of this and Ella is just very upset at this point. John is more willing to have a conversation though.
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  • 14
    Font - She comes back from the kicthen and says i'm rubbing the fact that i'm a mother in her face. I'm angry by this point because I thought she loved my daughter like her own.
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    Font - Ella said I was sabotaging her and that I owed her for looking after me when we were kids. John said since Ella "faced more struggles" she deserved it all despite knowing full well our parents hurt me regularly as well.
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    Font - I was just not prepared to fight, my daughter needed my attention and I wanted Tom to be my side because Ella was acting aggressive.
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  • 17
    Font - I asked them to leave and called Tom. We discussed this again and agreed we shouldn't give them the money. Ella calls me and I pick up and she tells me she has to try again and that her relationship is rocky because they're frustrated they can't have a kid.
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    Font - I told her I would not give her the entire amount and just hung up. I feel guilty about all of this now but I don't know if I should.
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  • 19
    Font - Maybe since I don't have an immediate use for the money I should have given it to her? Am I an asshole? 98% Upvoted
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  • 20
    Font - I think I have a chance of being an asshole because Ella and John has been trying to have a child for years. I also have no immediate use of the money so maybe I should have been more understanding of her struggles.
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    Font - sazz66 · 4h Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA. I think you were right and fair to offer to split the money with her but in no way should she get all of it. This is the chance for you to ensure your child's future and, as her mother, it's only right for you to do so.
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