Man Tries To Guilt His Fiancé Into Making His Rude Friend Her Bridesmaid

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Mayarey
Dec 4, 2021 2:00 PM EST

Weddings are meant to be the ultimate celebration of love and commitment between two people. It sounds simple but it can be quite the hassle to organize. The bride and the groom may not see eye to eye for each element, but as long as they're willing to compromise and respect each other nothing should get in the way of them enjoying their big day.

This groom is trying to get his fiancé to make one of his girlfriends her bridesmaid, even though the two don't get along. The bride-to-be feels offended by the request, but clearly, this man doesn't understand why. Who do you believe is in the wrong?

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/throwra58374 · 4h 1 1 AITA for not wanting my fiancé's friend in our wedding party?
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    Font - My (f26) fiancé (m28) have been together for four years. He's been friends with "maya" (f30) for six years. They're fairly close but she doesn't like me much. It's usually not an issue, some people just don't mesh. We don't mesh. Edit to add: there's no heavy animosity and we can be near each other fine, we just don't talk when we are. We don't actively hate each other, just prefer not to hang out together. She isn't against us getting married and likely would say yes to being a bridesmai
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    Font - We're recently engaged and he'd like her to be a bridesmaid. I don't. He wants her in a dress matching my bridesmaids, on my side, participating in the things we're doing. I said absolutely not, she doesn't even like me. I've seen wedding photos where one bridesmaid clearly doesn't want to be with the bride and I don't want that. Plus I really only want the women closest to me as bridesmaids. I suggested she wear a black dress to match the men's tux's and be a groomsman. He said that will
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    Handwriting - AITA for not budging and basically keeping her out of the wedding party according to my fiancé? 5.2k 3 966 T, Share
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I said my fiancé's friend couldn't be a bridesmaid and now he's very upset. He hasn't let it go and l'm thinking maybe there's a good reason why.
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    Font - thekelsey21 · 4h Asshole Aficionado [12] NTA, it's his friend, she should be on his side. Maybe he's trying to force this on you to make you two get along, but that's such a bad idea that definitely won't work. Don't budge OP 6 Reply 1 8.6k ...
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    Font - taway425698·4h Partassipant [2] 1 Award NTA. His friend is his responsibility, not yours. He accuses you of saying she can't be in the wedding... as if you aren't allowed to not want her in it. As if ir is a bad thing not to want her in your wedding party. Girl, you're absolutely entitled to not want her in your wedding. She doesn't like you, you don't like her, why would you be in the wrong about not wanting her? Don't argue that point anymore. Say it outright that he's right, you don't
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    Font - Nina_Innsted · 4h Partassipant [3] alread gon NTA - see if she can do a reading, give a toast, or participate in another meaningful, but non attendant way on the big day. She is not bridesmaid material. 6 Reply 1 1.4k 3 ... +
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    Font - just_hear_4_the_tip · 4h NTA. I don't want to project... but, my ex-husband made a similar demand and, spoiler alert, we're divorced. (Not because of our wedding party, but speaks to character.) G Reply 1 880 3 ...
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    Font - janewilson90 · 4h Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA She's his friend, not yours. If he wants her to be involved in the wedding party, he can have her on his side. If he thinks it'll look "dumb" to have a woman on his side, he can have her do a reading or be involved some other way. G Reply 4 590 ...
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    Font - NiteGrimwood · 4h Asshole Aficionado [12] He can either have her on his side or not at all. I thought weddings were to have people who the bride(s) or groom(s) friends on their respective sides not force them to the other side NTA G Reply 1 318 3 ...
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    Font - KraftyLikeAFox • 4h NTA. Speaking from experience, my SIL asked me to be a bridesmaid years ago and I felt obligated to say yes (we are fine with each other BUT same as you and Maya we just don't mesh and aren't friends). I was uncomfortable at every event. I say that because it's really unlikely Maya wants to be a bridesmaid anyways and really wouldn't like coming to all the bridal events (just like you don't want her there). Stand your ground and don't feel bad, it's his friend and I hi
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