K-Pop Loving Woman Is Adamant About Naming Her Son 'Jong-hyun' Against Husband's Wishes

There is a big difference between loving a superstar and naming your baby after him. Or at least there should be. The lines are a little blurry here. OP is an Irish man and a soon-to-be new father. His wife is also Irish, but loves Korean pop music (K-Pop) passionately. She loves one group so passionately that she wants to honor one of the singers by naming her newborn after him. Kim Jong-hyun used sing in the K-Pop sensation 'Shinee' for nine years. He died tragically by suicide in 2017. OP's wife is devoted to the band and wants to preserve his memory. I also know people who have devoted their lives to K-Pop. My childhood friend up and moved to South Korea! I understand how influential this music is. OP's wife says Shinee's music has been there for her during hard times and that is beautiful. But OP feels that naming their child after a member is extreme. Especially because that name is a traditional Koran name and they are Irish. OP is afraid of the bullying and general confusion this child will have over their identity. Help them and the moral judges of Reddit to find out the best solution. 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole - Posted by u/hocewian 5 days ago 28 6 3 13 E AITA for not wanting to name my (33M) son Jong-hyun?
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    Immediately after reading this headline you may come to a quick answer - no, NTA. You might think, that is a strange and oddly specific name. But just wait for the details. This isn't a common name, but it is special. 

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    Human body - My wife (32F) and I are expecting our first bundle of joy. We're absolutely thrilled. I personally can't wait to be a dad. The due date is April 21st. We're from Ireland.
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    Being from Ireland is an important factor in this story. Naturally, one would think an Irish couple would discuss naming their baby boy after an Irish name like Collin, Cillian, Seán, Finn, or Tadhg (OP actually wants this). Which arguably also isn't a common name by modern western name standards. But giving the baby a Korean name opens up an entirely different discussion. 

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    Font - My wife has been a huge fan of the South Korean boy band Shinee since 2008. Their music apparently got her through a lot of tough times. Jong-hyun was a member of this group; he unfortunately passed away in 2017. From what I've read
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    Font - online about him he seems to have been an amazing guy. My wife was devastated when she found out about his death and told me that when we'll have a kid and if it's a boy she's going to name him Jong-hyun in his honor. At the time I didn't really take her seriously.
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    Font - The time has come though and she's VERY serious about it. She wasn't joking. She even picked out the meaning 'cause it actually depends on the Chinese (Hanja) characters you use: * jong) - lineage, ancestry; ancestor, clan & (hyeon) - virtuous, worthy, good; able. She speaks Korean, I don't.
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    Organism - I love how the name sounds, the nickname Jjong and the meaning but the issue is we're both 100% White (I'm literally blond with green eyes and she's ginger with blue eyes + fair skin... legit as White as they come). I told her that I don't think this is appropriate because we have no Korean blood in us and she said that's not a problem since it's cultural
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    Font - appreciation and not appropriation. She told me she doesn't wanna compromise when it comes to the first name and I can just pick whatever middle name I want and she's going to be okay with it. She said that this name means too much for her to give up on it (her favorite singer / artist, born in the same year as her, our son is gonna be born in the same month as him, etc.).
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    Font - seriousrikk · 5 days ago 2 S 2 Partassipant [3] NTA I think maybe your wife needs to stop thinking about what she wants, and start thinking about how having a traditionally Korean name will impact your unborn child as they progress through life. You son would get shit for that from the first day of school. 38.6k Reply Share •..
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    Font - irritatedead · 5 days ago She can do what I did, get a tattoo or something to remember him if she wants something permanent, not naming a child after him.
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