Getting time off from work can be incredibly difficult here in the United States. Especially if you're not working an office job. In restaurants, it was always hell trying to find someone to cover a shift even with a week's notice, and if I was planning for a vacation, my boss would try to negotiate with me. "Why don't you take the week after, it will be less busy?" It's truly astounding - and despicable - how employers think they can dictate these aspects of ones life. Now that I am in the ever-so-slightly more cushy sector of entertainment media, my requests are met with less surprise and disdain. It's refreshing. If a loved one dies, I get bereavement time. If I'm sick, I can work from home. And I can take vacation. Many others are not so lucky - a fact that has been made a lot more clear with this Twitter thread from @postopprincess, who is a registered nurse.
OP's experience (being denied a PTO request for her own wedding) is not uncommon, especially within the healthcare field. And that's pretty messed up given how absolutely integral nurses and doctors are to our survival. The tweet was met with predictable amounts of disgust, and a depressing number of stories that deal with similarly terrible bosses saying “No” at the absolute worst times. While it's certainly not fun to face this sad reality, it's something that needs to be talked about. What's the point of PTO if you can't take it? And why do employers short staff to the point where someone taking a couple days of is actually a problem? We don't have the answers. But something has got to give.