32-year-old leaves 27-year-old date on the spot after discovering she was recording their first date: 'I really think it was a natural reaction'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Dec 16, 2025 11:00 AM EST

Dating in the modern age presents lots of unexpected challenges, as this person was stunned to discover on their first date. 

Most people have some form of social media, and a lot of people have TikTok accounts where they record themselves doing hobbies, hanging with friends, or sharing videos of their pets. You know — the usual stuff. But there's a particular type of social media personality who seems insufferable to hang out with, because they're the type of person who records everything. They're always "on," always seeming to act for the camera, styling their food to photograph it before eating it, and insisting on taking dozens of photos or videos before doing anything. Nothing can ever be casual or un-aesthetic. Their attitude is that if they didn't record it, it didn't happen. Any and everything is fair game, including dating, as this unfortunate person discovered in real time. 

I've just never understood how someone could happily date someone who talks about them online all the time though, with or without permission. Some folks love to go on TikTok and make long videos airing out their grievances. Oftentimes, commenters will just tell them to leave that person, and of course they'll make follow-up videos about that. While they have every right to do so, I can't help but think about how hurtful it would be to argue with your significant other and find out that instead of communicating with you, they're complaining about you online to millions of strangers. 

This person didn't even make it into a relationship — or even a second date! — with the woman who recorded them during date #1. Some folks will claim they do this for safety… I suppose if things are getting weird, then you could start recording (or just give someone your location, name of your date, etc. in order to keep an eye on you from afar). But this woman clearly wanted to use the date as content. Forget about getting to know this person — she wanted a video from the date, whether it went good or bad. Plus, imagine if the date had gone well! She still would've made a video about her thoughts on the date and this person against their wishes. At least this person found out about her secretive recordings before getting too involved with her and all of her followers. 

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    Woman in black shirt sitting at restaurant table holds phone up to show man a photo while smiling
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    I'm 32 and it was my first date with a 27 years old woman. It was dinner at a patio style restaurant and it was going well. I didn't like was she put her phone on the table as soon as she arrived but she wasn't checking on it so whatever.
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    Issue was drinks and appetizers arrived and i moved her phone to give the waitress some space. The recording app was running and i reacted in shock: why the fuck are you recording this? Then stood up, paid and went home.
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    She is now calling me an asshole and abusive over social media. Her main points is that i left her there when we had previously talked about me giving her a ride back home after the date.
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    And also, rude as hell for raising my voice and using swear words. Which ok, i did, but it was a shocking experience and i really think it was a natural reaction. AITAH?
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    teresajs NTA You aren't her content. Recording your date is a sign that she doesn't fully understand consent. And if she was worried about her safety in a public space, why would she get in a car alone with you?
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    Realistic-Major4888 NTA. There is simply no good reason she could give why she recorded you.
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    Kirjavadakedavra NTA. It's so disrespectful to record someone in a private context like that. I'm a girl and I would have react just like you did. You were suppose to drive her back home, but it was before learning she was a psycho. I will feel in danger with somebody recording me without my consent, so of course I will not drive this person anywhere! And she says it's for safety
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    reason (I don't really see how it is supposed to protected her) but it can also be for making fun of you with her friends after the date. Or to blackmail you after you said something sensitive. So avoid this deranged person seems the safest option.
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    Individual-Foxlike NTA. Depending on where you live, what she did might have been straightup illegal.
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    divwido You were not her date-you were her next social media story.
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