Delusional Woman Fuming When Her Brother Says He Doesn't Want To Invite 200+ People To His Wedding

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    Font - Posted by u/RegularRich9888 2 days ago AITA for being upset at my brother and my SIL for their "dream wedding" opinions?
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    Font - We all come from a very traditional and family centric culture. Weddings are usually about family in our culture as if its a big reunion. The ideal wedding is more than 200+ guests and you're frowned down upon if its less guests especially if family is excluded.
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    Font - I am of the belief that culture is very important. My wedding was amazing and I made sure to make it both about me and my husband but also about our families. We never agreed with the whole "the wedding is only about the couple" mindset. Nobody in our family agreed.
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    Font - So now my brother and his fiancée are about to get married in some months. I had a birthday dinner few days ago and my parents, my brother and his fiancée were invited.
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    Font - On the wedding topic I asked them their honest opinions on what their dream wedding would look like. My brother asked me if I really wanted his honest opinion and I said yes not expecting what I was about to hear.
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    Font - His dream wedding would be to invite everyone in our family on the church so they could attend the ceremony but they wouldn't want a party or a reception afterwards and the ideal thing would be to either gather with some friends at home and have some drinks and food or rent out a small place like a restaurant or tavern for just them and their 10-15 closest friends and have dinner or a beer and then just go home.
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    Font - They said that they're not doing that though because they feel basically forced to please family due to our culture and that it's no point talking about that because if they had their dream wedding we'd constantly nag them.
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    Font - My parents and I took great offense on those opinions. Opinions that my SIL basically agreed on and said that's her dream wedding too because she can't stand family pressure.
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    Font - We explained to them that this is not a wedding, that's just a night out and it's ridiculous how young people have so little value for weddings and family nowadays. They said we are TA for being upset because we asked for their honest opinion and they have it. 82% Upvoted
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: We may be TAs because we asked for my brother's opinion on how his dream wedding would be like and we got upset when he replied.
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    Font - MakeupForBarnie · 2 days ago days 合2 Asshole Enthusiast [7] YTA You didn't want their honest opinion, you wanted confirmation of your opinion. He's doing the culturally appropriate wedding. Stop creating fake scenarios to give him grief. Go enjoy the wedding.
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    Font - happybanana134 · 2 days ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [48] YTA. Weddings are personal. This is your cue to be decent and help them actually have the wedding of their dreams, instead of the wedding of your and your parents' dreams.
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    Font - Signal-Television510 · 2 days ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] If you don't want an honest answer, don't insist on getting one. YTA. You're trying to police not just other people's actions, but their thoughts and feelings, which they wouldn't even have bothered you with if you hadn't insisted.
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    Font - tasnicole · 2 days ago · edited 2 days ago YTA. It's not you're wedding. It's theirs. It wasn't clear who's paying for the wedding. If you're parents are then maybe it is something they should talk about. But if your brother and SIL to be are paying that makes you and your family even bigger AH for putting that addition financial pressure on them.

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