Woman Roasts Husband For Making Less Money In Front of His Family, While He Does All Of The House Chores

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/No_Amoeba_3532 · 3h AITA for saying that my husband should do all the chores because I make more than him?
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    Font - Some background, I'm a dermatologist and my husband is an accountant. I make almost 4x what he does but honestly, my job is super relaxing while he often works long hours. No one knows how much we make, but they can guess just by our profession.
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    Organism - In terms of chores, my husband does most of it mostly because he's picky and has high standards. I use too much water when I do the dishes, I chop too roughly, don't fold clothes neat enough,... the list goes on. It's always been like this, he doesn't like the way I do something so he takes over. So the actual amount of chores I do is very little, but if he's busy or something, then l'll do it.
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    Font - The other day, I had some friends over before going to a show. We lost track of time and left the kitchen a mess but I texted my husband that we'd clean up when we got back. However, when we got back, the place was spotless! My friend remarked how lucky I was to have such an amazing husband, which I know I am, and my husband joked saying since I bring in all the money he has to carry his weight around the house.
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    Font - Yesterday, my MIL came over and I was telling her about the new robot vacuum cleaner I got. She asked if that means l'll be doing more of the other chores and I said I don't know. Then MIL went on again about how it wasn't fair that her son works so hard and still has to do so much around the house. I got annoyed and repeated what my husband said the other day that I'm bringing in the money so my husband has to pick up his weight.
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    Font - I feel like and AH because I feel like that's something my husband can joke about, it's different when I used it as a comeback. And when we got back, husband got another earful from his mom about how he was being taken advantage of and I'm getting texts from his siblings about how I treated him and should apologize to MIL. But on the other hand, I was being berated again for the 20th time so I don't think I need to apologize. Reddit, what do you think?
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    Smile - Edit: My husband literally doesn't let me do much. If he sees me doing something, he'll just take come and take over. Sweeping was one thing of the few things he let me do. I don't think my income justifies me doing less, I know my husband works harder than me. I just used to to shut up MIL.
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    Organism - Edit 2: We've hired professional house keepers, but none of them met my husband's standards. Also we have a tiny apartment, we're talking maybe 5hrs/ week and I do some of the chores, but he does more, maybe 30/70. 167 230 ↑, Share
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    Product - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1.I said that it's fair that my husbaand does all the chores because I make all the money 2) I said it in a way to get back at MIL
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    Font - FFBTheShow• 3h Asshole Enthusiast [7] Reverse the genders and you'll have your answer. Reddit would unanimously vote that a man is the AH if he held this view, so my vote is YTA. The dollar figure of what you're earning doesn't matter so much as the effort put in. If you're earning way more doing less work that's great, but that doesn't mean you get to slack off on doing household chores. G Reply 1 561 ...
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    Font - spectacle-ar_failure · 3h Sorry but, YTA.. My job is super relaxing while he often works long hours I think at that point you don't need to go any further tbh. Just because you make more than him, doesn't give you a free pass. Sounds like he's putting more effort in to earning his money after all. Use too much water - chop to roughly - don't fold properly Sounds like poor excuses. Asking him for guidance so you can improve might be an idea e.g. "Would you mind teaching me how to do it you
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    Font - capmanor1755• 3h Pooperintendant [51] 1. The person who is persnickety about how a chore is done should do it. As long as you were doing a reasonable job and aren't using weaponized incompetence to get out of it, this is a compromise that works for a lot of couples. 2. If your MIL hassles you about the chore division, tell her to talk to her son. And have him tell her that you guys have a method that works for you. 3. The clap back regarding income was understandably tempting but i wouldn
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    Organism - Interesting-Week-483 · 3h Partassipant [1] YTA. You both live in the home and responsibility should be shared equally. It seems like you look down on your husband because he doesn't make close to what you make and that's just disrespectful. G Reply * 75 3 ...
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    Font - Eastern_Amphibian385 · 3h Asshole Aficionado [12] If your agreement works for you both then you shouldn't have to explain it. That said, YTA for thinking that making more money gets you off the hook from burdening household duties, especially when you also talk about how he works long hours while you don't. This is only relevant if you chose to burden your share by hiring someone to do it. Your partner shouldn't have to parent you like this. Step up and pull your weight. G Reply 36 3 ...
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    Font - TheSciFiGuy80 · 3h Asshole Aficionado [14] ESH (except Husband) What a shitty thing to joke about/come back with. Made you look elitist and lazy and YES made it look like you were taking advantage of your husband from the outside perspective (your MIL) even if it's not true. What's wrong with just saying "l'd love to if my husband would let me"? She (MIL) should have minded her own business and not asked a question like that. G Reply 33 3 +

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