Bridezilla Makes List Of Demands For Wedding, Fuming When Guests Actually Follow Them

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Jul 2, 2022 5:00 PM EDT

When it's your wedding day, you're allowed to make some demands. Preferably the demands are within reason, such as dress code. But, there's such a thing as too many rules. No plus 1s, no kids, black tie, no music from your partner's traditional culture… These are all things that our Bridezilla in today's Am I The A$$hole post demanded. 

There's a whole lot going on in this story, and it can be hard to say right off the bat that a bride is being an a$$hole- after all, it's a big day for her. But if she's actively making other people's lives worse in the name of it being her wedding… she might be an a$$hole. What do you think? Should she not be upset with how her wedding guests dressed? Should OP have kept his mouth shut around her? Let us know what you think, and read below for some more context. 

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  • 01
    Font - r/AmItheAsshole. Posted by u/Economy-Assist6973 4 3 hours ago AITA for telling a bride it was not that difficult for people to upstage her at her wedding My family and I are from Albania but we live in the US. My cousin David got married to his wife Lizzie this weekend. In Albania we always go all out for weddings and David wanted to keep many cultural traditions. Lizzie didn't like the idea. Lizzie had sent out the invites via mail and also had some rules written down as in no kids allow
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    Font - I am engaged and i thought my fiancé would be included but David said lizzie is against plus +1. I said that even if Lizzie is against it, my fiancé has been in the family for years, way longer than Lizzie has been around plus he's a friend of David as well so he would come as a friend. David was frustrated and said Lizzie has set down most of these rules and whenever he goes against her she gets mad so we should cut him some slack and just bear it for his sake. I thought it was ridiculou
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    Font - Despite the black tie dress code, most of the bride's family turned up in jeans and flannel shirts and the women just wore casual maxi dresses. Our side of the family dressed more formal. The bride just wore a white knee length lace dress from h&m. The reception took place in a cabin by the lake which had animal head trophies hanged on the walls. The only music we heard was some slow pop songs and then country music. Every time the dj tried to play some traditional balkan music, the bride
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    This wedding sounds like a disaster

  • 04
    Font - David's entire family sided with me but David said that I'm an AH for speaking to the bride like that on her wedding day. I told him that if the bride requires kindness she should start from herself. AITA
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    Font - thepinkprioress Partassipant [1] - 1 hr. ago NTA. "You're an asshole for being judgmental..." no, this is a fair moment to be judged in how you treat your extended family and your husband's culture. Hell, this is a good moment to judge your cousin and reevaluate your respect for him. It is their wedding, and they are completely entitled to do what they want for their wedding. However, if they want black tie + jeans, then they should specify it. 260 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - inkognito_burrito 3 hr. ago Partassipant [4] Your wording could possibly score you some asshole points, BUT the bride has very much upstaged you in the asshole department! She sounds horrible, and David needs to grow a backbone if he doesn't want his life dictated to him. ΝΤΑ. ↑ 741 ↓ Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Sky - StellarManatee - 2 hr. ago Partassipant [3] NTA. Don't request black tie if you actually mean smart-casual. Reply Share Report Save Follow 317
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    Font - wannabewisewoman. 1 hr. ago NTA. The bride sounds like a nightmare. So many red flags here: - Actively ignoring David's culture and background by refusing to have kids at the wedding without compromise. - Not accounting for situations like the one mentioned with OP's partner by refusing all +1s outright (although I'd bet it only applied to David's family, not her side) - Establishing a dress code, then punishing the people who... abided by it? What's that about. Aren't you going to call o
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    Sky - wasicwitch • 1 hr. ago NTA. And just want to say, I love and admire you Reply Share Report Save Follow 45
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    Font - worriesallthetime - 2 hr. ago NTA To be honest, she doesn't at all sounds like a doll. She is extremely judgemental and rude to David family but, also did get rid of David's traditions for weddings and give him no say. You are just being honest. ↑64 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Mammal - umadhatter_. 1 hr. ago NTA. I don't think she knows what black tie dress code means. She also sounds racist. I feel bad for your cousin. Reply Share Report Save Follow 37
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    Font - LiaArgo. 1 hr. ago NTA and it's hilarious that the bride requested black tie, didn't dressed like it herself and then was whining about it. Calling one of your guests a high end escort is so out of line and even worse because it's her SIL. The whole disrespect came from her. She didn't invited the whole families (no kids), was controlling the +1 and disrespected the wishes of her Husband. Just because you are the bride doesn't give you the right to insult your guests. ↑ 21 Reply Share Rep
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    Font - Double_Jeweler7569-2 hr. ago NTA. Bride overdid it, is unreasonable, and just plain old mean. I feel sorry for your cousin having to live with that. Reply Share Report Save Follow 54
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    Font - shuracv. 2 hr. ago NTA... you can not be mad, that people followed your rules.. And that no +1 rule is pretty rude to apply for long term partners...Bride was very opinionated about her view and wedding, but in fact, she was the rude and "tacky" and closeminded one, at the end. If the argument is, that she is shy and want small and quiet wedding, ok, you can hardly critized that.. But to have a Black tie event in jeans and than critized the other guests for better taste in understanding o
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    Font - lanibird-. 40 min. ago ESH. I don't think either party handled this in the best manner possible. Based on this info, does it sound like Liz and David might have a rough marriage? Most likely. But as a couple, they have a right to enforce a "child free" wedding. While I don't agree with her implying that her SIL is an escort or being inconsistent with her own dress code, your comments didn't help either. You could've kept the peace for your cousin's sake on the wedding day. :-\ Vote Reply
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    Font - moothermeme. 2 hr. ago. edited 26 min. ago Partassipant [1] A lot of NTA but I'm also going to stick in the ESH camp. Bride lowkey seems like a nightmare and yeah she asked for black tie she needs to specify that her version of black tie includes jeans. You, however, seem like you've been itching to say something since you found out your fiancé wasn't welcome. You keep saying it's "not your business" but in the same way a nosey mom would because you definitely made it your business. If yo
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