Bridezilla And Future Husband Fight Over Feeding Their Wedding Guests

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Jul 7, 2022 7:00 PM EDT

Everyone has a different plan for their wedding- some want a city hall wedding, some want a big glamorous wedding, and some want a small destination wedding with just close friends and family. It just depends on the person. But, one thing that is pretty agreed upon is that you have to feed your guests if it's going to be a longer affair. If they're bringing you nice gifts and showing up for hours, it's only fair if they're fed. 

The second I'm at a wedding for hours and am not getting any food, I'm heading out. Guests usually understand that full catered meals for each guest can rack up a huge bill, and understand if you opt for something cheaper. I'd be thrilled with pizza, sandwiches, anything. As long as there is food. But, how would you feel if you got a small buffet of appetizers while the Bride and Groom sat in front of you and ate a huge meal? That feels a little less fair. In today's Am I The A$$hole post, this bride argues with her husband, saying that it's their wedding so it's ok if they eat a nice meal while everyone else eats appetizers. What do you think? Is this a fair way to treat your guests? Read below for more context and let us know what you think. 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole Posted by u/Q_Q_S_S 17 hours ago 2 $2 2 WIBTA if my spouse and I had just appetizers for our wedding guests but a full roast chicken for ourselves at the wedding? We're trying to save money where possible for the wedding ceremony and are using Publix for the catering. My wife thinks the guests will be ok just eating finger foods such as fruit/vegetable trays, assorted cheeses, wings, chicken tenders... but she knows she'll be hungry and won't be satisfied with just those.
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    Product - kai325d 17 hr. ago YTA. If you're hungry don't eat publicly when your guest have no food. Also if you're broke, go small 33.6k Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Rectangle - Notdoingitanymore. 17 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Man have a taco bar or something, it's rude not to feed your guests when they take the time and trouble (and bring you gifts) to celebrate "your wedding". Etiquette 101: Be a good host ↑ 14.9k ↓ Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - MarmotMossBay - 17 hr. ago Have fewer guests if you can't afford to feed them Reply Share Report Save Follow 10.6k
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    Rectangle - jadepumpkin1984. Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] 17 hr. ago Yta. That would be so rude. Plan a meal for the two if you for after the ceremony in you honeymoon room as compromise. But I would be so offended as a guest to show up to that. It screams gift grab 4.1k Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - elepheyes. 17 hr. ago Partassipant [2] Order pizza (edit for all) that is classier than what your wife suggests and people will feel full. Do not eat a full meal in front of your guests while they have finger foods/snacks. That is beyond tacky and instead of looking frugal, you look cheap and miserly. 42.6k 2.6k Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - PeggyHW - 17 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [89] YTA. You eat the same as your guests. Finger foods for all? Fine. Full sit down feast for all? Fine. Hosts eat full meal and guests get buffet? Nope. Absolutely not. Decide what you can/want to afford for everyone. Reply Share Report Save Follow 2.1k
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    Font - aNoNonny23 - 17 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] Of course YTA if you do this lol.. what a slap in the face to your guests Your reception is for your guest actually.. it's a thank you to them for coming to your ceremony and celebrating your marriage ↑ 1.0k Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Rectangle - CrystalQueen3000 - 17 hr. ago Craptain [179] YWBTA'S That's incredibly rude. She can shout out "it's my day" until the end of time but it doesn't change the fact that doing that would be awful. 671 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - neworderfan. 17 hr. ago edited 14 hr. ago 1. Don't have a wedding you can't afford. 2. You always always always feed your guests. You don't skimp on that unless you want to end up on the wedding shaming pages and forever be known as the wedding that didn't feed anyone. People will take their gifts back if they aren't fed. It's just rude. If you don't want to host a full meal have a 2 pm wedding with an afternoon tea reception after. Or something. But still don't cheap out on the food opti
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    Font - PeteyPorkchops. 17 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [28] YWBTA. That would be so tacky and if I was expected to come bring a gift and then have to munch on a glorified prom snack table (which you hope will be enough to actually feed everyone) while the couple tucked into a actual meal in front of everyone I'd be taking my gift and leaving. Invite fewer people or eat later. 504 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Rectangle - Emotional-Ebb8321. 17 hr. ago Partassipant [3] YWBTA. Everyone gets a full meal, or no one gets a full meal (and if the event is long enough to go into a mealtime, food is NOT optional). Anything else is just bad hospitality. Reply Share Report Save Follow 298
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    Font - nothingclever4now. 17 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] You (as in you and your wife) would be TAH if you go along with this rude and tacky plan. Invite fewer guests. Make a meal for both of you and leave it at home or your hotel or wherever you are ending the night for you to eat later. Have an afternoon reception with just light bites for everyone. Have a cocktail party type reception with just appetizers. Sure you want to marry someone who would feel entitled to behave like this? And re
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    Font - Nyankh 17 hr. ago . edited 16 hr. ago Pooperintendant [67] YTA if you do this. You would be infamous in my circles and family for pulling something like that - in fact in my world, guests would leave after realizing how horribly you'd treated them. I can't even properly wrap my head around how selfish and entitled this ridiculous idea is - people complain about stuffy etiquette but then I read bull shit like this and there is something to be said for having even rudimentary manners. Guest
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    Rectangle - ncgrits01 17 hr. ago YWBTA. Feed your guests. Feed your vendors. 4 182 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Sky - blackley_jones. 17 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] You certain you want to marry someone that selfish? Reply Share Report Save Follow 189
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    Font - TreatEntire6450 17 hr. ago YWBTA. Does she hear herself? "Oh finger foods are fine.... for everyone else but me that is, because that's DEFINITELY not enough food I just don't give a shit about anyone but myself". Everyone in the entire room will be looking at you both with contempt for being such selfish assholes. Your wedding will be talked about for years, and it won't be fond reminiscence. It will be laughing about the worst bridezilla move they've seen. Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - Expression Mundane244 - 17 hr. ago It's not because you're broke, but because you wanna be "financially smart" I would be LEAVING WITH MY GIFT the second you've started eating that chicken. Its a awfull thing to do to the people who you invited to celebrate your wedding. You wanna save money, invite less people or just eat what your guests are having (or, at least, eat in a different room, so the guests dont see you both). It's called good manners and respect. Ya, YTA 494 ↓ Reply Share Re
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    Font - RighteousTablespoon - 17 hr. ago YTA. There is no wedding worse than a wedding with cold, crappy food. Your wedding reception will be emptying after an hour when people get so hungry they need to go feed themselves. I love Publix tenders as much as the next person, but the rest of their platters are subpar. I'm cringing at thinking of congealed mac and cheese and soggy sandwiches. You're going to end up wasting the $30 per plate because the majority of that stuff is going to go untouched.
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