Woman Sneaks Out Of Restaurant After Fiance Insists She Pays For Him And His Friends

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Sep 6, 2022 6:00 PM EDT

Couples handle money in different ways. Some people are better at financial management than others. Nonetheless, most people try to go into marriage with a financial plan in some shape or form, even if it might not be the best plan. Having a plan is better than no plan. However, some people aren't logical at all when it comes to splitting the finances. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, OP told us about how her fiance doesn't want to share his salary with her, yet still expects her to cover him and his friends when they go out. His reasoning for her paying is that she makes 30% more than he does, yet he still doesn't want to share his salary with her. Sounds extremely manipulative to us. Scroll down to see what happened when OP finally become sick and tired of being treated like a piggy bank. 

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/Throwaway 795571 18 hours ago 45 38 AITA for sneaking out of the restaurant after my fiance told me to pay for his and his friends meal?
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    Right off the bat, her fiance already sounds like a walking red flag. 

  • 02
    Font - I (F33) have been engaged to my fiance (M37) for 5 months. We don't share finance because that's what he wants. I got a raise on my salary. now I earn 30% more than he does and I noticed that he's been using this to ask me to pay for him and his friends. Whenever I say "no" or "why should I pay for this?" he'd respond with "the 30% that's why". he acts as if the 30% is unfair or that I'm not dserveing of it.
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    She shouldn't have to share her salary if he's not sharing his. That's not how it works. 

  • 03
    Font - Several times he has tricked me to pay for his and his friend's meals by asking me publicly. Let me say that I'm too nice to say "no", I hate confrontation especially when we're at a public place like a restaurant so I just grin and pay.
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  • 04
    Organism - Last tuesday, he asked me to join him and his buddies for dinner. I told him from the start I wasn't paying for their food and he shouldn't expect me to. He said he "got this" and "no worries".
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  • 05
    Font - We got to the restaurant. Met his friends, ordered food. And in the middle of the meal he leaned in and whispered that I would be paying for everything he and his friends ordered. I got so mad I whispered back "noooo" but he probably relied on me not causing a scene in public and infront of his friends. he said "you have enough money you could pay for everyone's food, 30% remember?".
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  • 06
    Font - I was fuming inside. instead of reacting negatively and losing my temper. I waited til the bills arrived (they were already split from the start when we first ordered) I paid for mine then I excused myself to the restroom. I then sneaked out from there, got into my car and went home.
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  • 07
    Font - I started getting phonecalls from my fiance then texts asking where I was. I texted back saying I didn't appreciate how he put me in this situation and basically tricking me into paying for his and his friends food. I told him I went home then stopped replying. An hour later he came and started yelling at me calling me selfish, irrational, cheapskate and childish for sneaking out like that and leaving him stuck with a bill he could not pay (He had to call his brother for help). We had a l
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  • 08
    Font - His friends didn't speak to me on this but he told me they're disappointed in my behavior and are telling him to take time and "reflect" on the type of woman he's gonna be married to. AITA for what I did? Is what he's expecting from me fair or justified?.
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  • 09
    Font - ETA: Some info: (1) he said that because the restaurant wasn't expensive then I could have just paid. (2) He admitted not telling me about it til later knowing I'd refuse. He still thinks my reaction was childish and unacceptable.
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  • 10
    Gesture - cooperla 18 hr. ago I feel like you're the one that needs to do the reflecting on the type of man you'll be married to...
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  • 11
    Font - LongTallMatt 18 hr. ago NTA Please do not marry this person. Please do not procreate with this person.
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  • 12
    Font - niennabobenna 18 hr. ago Pooperintendant [68] Esh You need to stand up for yourself. And probably not be engaged to this person. You're being an AH to yourself for letting this foolishness continue. He is TH for obvious reasons.
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