Man Rummages Through Coworker's Purse, She Files a Report Against Him

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    Font - r/AmItheAhole Posted by u/Serious-Court3252 2 hours ago 8 S AITA for filing a report again my coworker after I found him looking through my purse? There's this coworker "Martin" 31 M. who always forgets where he leaves his stuff. He always forgets his phone charger at home and borrows mine to use. I don't mind lending him my charger, He's a nice person and I love maintaining a good relationship with my coworkers. Especially!! male coworkers.
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    Font - The other day, I was in the restroom then when I walked back into the office, I saw Martin with both hands inside my purse literally looking through it. I was shocked. I have highly personal stuff that I carry in my purse. I freaked out and snatched my purse out of his hands asking what he was doing. He got nervous and said he was looking for my charger. I asked why he thought it was okay for him to look through my purse and he said that, since I always lend him my charger then he thought
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    Font - Martin got int trouble for this and he and my coworkers were pissed saying overreacted and went way overboard by reporting this situation. My female coworker told me to "get over myself" and stop crying victim over a simple "misunderstanding". I felt very guilty aftee this now I think I might have blown this out of propotion and overeacted.
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    Font - Traditional_Carob_12 2 hr. ago Hold the F UP! I've been married as long as Martin has existed, no way in hell am I going into my wife's purse! If i need something, I bring her the purse. I don't care if she tells me to go ahead and get something out of her purse. It seems like a respect thing, her purse is her personal space. Interesting enough, I tell her to get cash out of my wallet & she brings me my wallet. I would expect to be fired if I was caught red handed in a coworker's purse. M
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    Font - GD CeelaChathArrna 2 hr. ago Parta ipant [1] My husband hates going in my purse when I ask him to, though he will because of the pure chaos I brew in there. I imagine a lot of guys nope out like you do, especially when they are the chaos mine is.
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    Font - columbospeugeot 2 hr. ago Supreme Court Just- 113] NTA. Martin could have waited 5 minutes. NO ONE should be going through your personal belongings. I know it probably doesn't help if your coworkers are all on Martin's side, but YOU are in the right. 403 Reply Share
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    Font - Specialist-Lunch-410 - 2 hr. ago NTA. Martin needs to learn personal boundaries. Everybody else at your work does too. I've never worked at a place where people would consider it appropriate to go through other people's personal property like that. If a male employee went through a female employees purse at my current place of business the reason why wouldn't matter, he would be (rightly) ostracized for it. That's the behavior of thieves and perverts. That's also why the company is backin
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    Font - stropette 2 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [20] NTA. I wonder if your coworker would be happy if he was rummaging in her handbag instead of yours. 186 Reply Share
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    Font - Specialist-Lunch-410 2 hr. ago I'm calling it -0% chance female coworker would have been okay with it if it was her purse. 87 1 more reply Reply Share
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    Font - Hungry_Ad_9048 . 2 hr. ago NTA!!! Since you "overreacted" I would just start going through my coworkers purses and see if they feel like its "no big deal" then. What is going on in the world that adults think they have the right to plunder through other peoples belongings and then play victim when they are punished for it. Also, if Martin forgets his charger everyday, at some point you have to say no and make him buy his own or bring one from home. He is not forgetting, he is cou ting on
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    Font - win_awards 2 hr. ago Don't go through anyone else's purse. Violating their privacy to make a point is still wrong and would invite reprecussions. 70 Reply Share
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    Font - Nikkian42 2 hr. ago Partecipant [4] I think the point could be made rhetorically, asking how they'd like it if someone rifled through their purse, without actually doing it. If they say it's no big deal I'd press it farther and ask them to hand over their purse (or backpack, or phone, or similar personal item.)
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    Font - Left TurnNow619 2 hr. ago NTA. So inappropriate for anyone to go through anyones purse. You did the right thing. Reply Share 125
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    Font - Lea_R_ning Parta ipant [4]] 2 hr. ago NTA! Pfft. I am disgusted by your co-workers. You did nothing wrong OP. Martin was disrespectful going into your purse. 108 Reply Share
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    Font - 2014 Andante79 2 hr. ago Pooperintendant [56] NTA, and your coworkers and Martin are delusional. I had to convince my own husband (13 years together so this is not a new request) that when I ask him to get me something from my purse, it's OK to go into my purse. He still will only do it if I am driving and need to switch to my sunglasses. Otherwise he just brings me whole purse to me. Reply Share 105

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