Cheating Husband Moves Back Home, Mom Gives His Dog Back to His Ex-Wife

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    Font - AITA For giving my son's dog to his ex wife. Not the A-hole To begin with I love my son with all my heart. But he blew up his marriage by cheating and has moved back home. I F55 have three children. My oldest is my daughter 30, then my twins 25MF. My oldest just got married to a wonderful man. My younger daughter is going to grad school overseas and that leaves my son. Let's call him Carlos.
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    Font - He has always been a handful. He got married when he was 20. His ex wife had a three year old daughter whom I love and no matter what I am her grandmother. They had a child together, my other grandchild. He is two. COVID caused a lot of stress in his life and he works in a fly in fly out camp job. He is gone for two weeks at a time. Then home for two weeks. He makes very good money and enjoys spending it. Maybe a little bit too much.
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    Font - Carlos cheated on his wife with a coworker. I am not judging him. I am not perfect. But he chose to leave his wife and children. And move back home. It doesn't really make sense for him to rent an apartment or something for the 12 days a month he is home. So I allowed it. But he decided to be an in my opinion, and bring his dog with him. My grandbabies love this dog. But he is trying to punish his ex for telling him to leave.
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    Font - It is a beautiful border collie and it is the perfect dog for their home. Huge yard, lots of walking trails nearby, even an off leash park only a ten minute drive away. I live in an apartment downtown. I am allowed a dog but if I were to have one it would be something sedate and non shedding like a Maltese. I swear I tried watching this dog. But my son is irresponsible. He doesn't walk him much. He doesn't brush the dog. He is just holding on to the dog to lever his way into his ex's life
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    Font - The last straw was this last time off work. He was away for two weeks, Nd then came home for one day before flying off to the United States for a vacation with his new girlfriend. So I called my DIL, checked that she wanted the pup back, she almost cried with joy, packed up everything that belonged to the dog and took him over there. My grandchildren were ecstatic. My son just came home for three days before he has to leave for work and asked where his dog is. I told him the truth. He is
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    Font - Pretty-Royal9021 18 hr. ago Partaipant [1] NTA in my opinion. He's only thinking of himself. Not you, not the dog, and not his kids. Also, calling you an hole? You're nice to let him back into your home at all after that. 21.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Narrow_Cold_4950 OP. 18 hr. ago 2 He has always been hot- headed. I love him but he I wish is a pain in my his father had been around longer to help raise him. I tried but it was hard. 11.2k Reply Share
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    Font - Pretty-Royal9021. 18 hr. ago Part: ipant [1] I'm sorry you're going through this. You sound like a loving mother. 4.3k Reply Share
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    Font - SpicyMargarita143 18 hr. ago Ashole Enthusiast [6] He's always been a hot head bc he (likely) hasn't suffered real consequences. Tell him that if he's old enough to get himself into this mess, he's old enough to figure it out. Stop letting him live w you. Time for him to handle himself and his own life. 2.4k Reply Share
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    Font - timhortonsbitchass. 17 hr. ago People are so quick to blame the mother but sometimes people just have kind of a shitty temperament or have mental health problems that make their behaviour challenging socially. It's not 100% nurture. If her other kids are great people I would be inclined to believe that he may just be a not super nice guy. 2.8k Reply Share
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    Font - SpicyMargarita143 - 17 hr. ago hole Enthus... If is definitely not her fault. However, she can choose to stop enabling and permitting his bad behavior. 564 Reply
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    Font - Sparcrypt 16 hr. ago Ahole Aficionado [11] . She's not, she took the dog back and told him if he tried to go and get it he wasn't welcome to stay with her. Not everything has to be a nuclear option of no contact etc. Dude clearly makes plenty of money and can support himself anyway, his mother saying he can't stay there a few days a month isn't going to change a lot other than removing one of the few good influences he appears to have. 1.5k Reply Share
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    Font - Illustrious_Bobcat13 15 hr. ago People on Reddit LOVE to tell other people to go no contact. It can be good advice, and it is always healthy to know that you can separate yourself from someone if you need to. Just doesn't always need to be the first option. 566 Reply Share
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    Font - socialistrock 15 hr. ago This is my sister in a nutshell. My mother is so loving and such a good mum but I have no idea how my sister is the way she is. I was fully into nurture being the determinant but compared to me and my siblings she may as well be an alien.
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    Font - quiet-Julia 17 hr. ago I think you made the right decision to give the dog back to your DIL and your grandkids. Let him be an but be good to your DIL and grandkids, as they are more important. NTA Reply Share 220

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