'The girls were pissed': Parents add new gym to their home but make their four daughters share a bathroom

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Nov 29, 2022 8:00 AM EST

There's nothing like clueless, arrogant parents! This mother earnestly shared her story via this thread on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit and seemed to have no idea how selfish she and her husband have been throughout their recent home renovation project.

 

The couple has four daughters, who have been sharing a bathroom for some time now and have been complaining that it's too much. Finally, when the Redditor and her husband had enough funds to do a renovation, did they add a second bathroom for their kids? Nope. Did they add a gym for the dad? Did they remodel the kitchen? Did they renovate the backyard? You bet they did.

 

This story is just another friendly reminder of two fundamental truths: one, that anyone can be selfish (even your parents); two, that people can be so blindly unaware of their own actions that they post to Reddit thinking they're completely innocent. It's just baffling. For more stories like this, check out this post about a demanding mother as Christmas approaches.

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    Font - AITA for not adding a third bathroom to our house? My husband, our daughters (18, 16, 16, 12), and I live in a 4 bed 2 bath house. All of the girls share a bathroom and they've been complaining about it for a while. We've been saying we'll convert the laundry room into a bathroom for the twins for a while. It's an expensive project so we've never gotten to it.
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    Font - My husband and I started working on our garage recently and turned it into a gym for him, a new laundry room, and an office for me. Then we came into some money and decided to renovate both bathrooms, remodel the kitchen, and do work on the backyard.
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    Font - The girls were pissed when we told them about the work we were doing on the house. They were saying it's not fair that my husband gets a gym when the twins share a room and that we chose to work on the backyard instead of adding the third bathroom.
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    Font - They've been calling us selfish and even got our parents and siblings to give us a hard time for not giving the girls another bathroom or giving the twins their own rooms. They don't understand that now that the laundry room is done we have the space for the bathroom. The bathroom is next on our list. I wanted to get some outside opinions on this since our kids and our families have been giving us a hard time.
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    Font - swishystrawberry. 19 hr. ago edited 17 hr. ago 3 34 38 & 2 More Certified Proctologist [28] YTA. Does going without a home gym diminish quality of life? No. Does forcing four humans to share one source of plumbing diminish quality of life? Yes. YTA for springing for a luxury instead of choosing to make life easier for your kids.
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    Font - Editing because I keep getting the same comment over and over of people saying something along the lines of "HOW DARE YOU! I live in a house of 6/9/12 and we share 1/2/a fraction of a bathroom! You are spoil and icky!", and I'm really tired of penning the same response over and over, so I'll just say here: 1. I grew up the youngest of five. I shared a bathroom for eighteen years with siblings. 2. I share an apartment with a few folks, and we share one bathroom.
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    Font - 3. My point is that, if I had a bunch of money lying around, I'd spend it to make the lives of my kids a bit easier, rather than on something frivolous. 4. For all of you crying out "ENTITLEMENT AND LUXURY! UGH!" Please take the time, wilst you redden your faces at the prospect of two people sharing a bathroom instead of four, to also take your energy to defend OP's choice to redo the existing bathrooms, redo her kitchen, add a new gym, and redesign her backyard.
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    Font - 5. You all like to skate over the fact that OP lied to her kids about a new bathroom, and has presumably been doing so for a while. Hopefully that hits anything that anybody else who wants to hop on and complain into the internet void could possibly care about. 27.8k Reply Share
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    Font - OkeyDokey234 · 19 hr. ago (S YTA. You said the bathroom is "next," but you also said you're working on the backyard first. So which is true? Either way you're prioritizing projects that only benefit you and your husband, and putting off the project that will benefit four people. Are you trying to postpone it until they've all moved out? 11.9k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - Shnipi 19 hr. ago YTA 4 share one bathroom and you and your husband 1?!? And dearest daddy needs his gym /s 7.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Flashy Ferret_1819 19 hr. ago . YTA for no other reason than you've lead the girls to believe that it would be done when you get the opportunity. You had/have the chance and doing everything but. 5.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Sequence_Of_Symbols. 19 hr. ago So, how long have they known where "on the list" their project was? Because if I were the teenager, if "at some point, after 5 other projects"was not an explicit statement as a part of "yeah, we'll add a bathroom", if feel lied to. (Probably because, really, it was being lied to. If nothing else, lie of omission) Yta 2.8k Reply Share
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    Font - strvgglecity 18 hr. ago YTA. "we told our kids we'd add a bathroom when we could, and then we spent tens of thousands of dollars on the yard, a gym, an office and remodeling the existing bathrooms. Am I the shole?" Now OP, read that back and think for a minute. You didn't have to lie to your kids. Lots of families struggle with bathrooms. But you lied about it and then acted wildly selfishly. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - embopbopbopdoowop. "We've been saying we'll convert the laundry room into a bathroom for a while." INFO: how long is 'a while' and how transparent were you with your plans while you undertook work on SEVEN different rooms/spaces instead of the promised bathroom? "They don't understand that now the laundry is done we have the space for the bathroom." Why do they not understand this? Did you not tell them? And how do all the other renovations help? YTA 41.3k Reply Share
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    Font - xInsomniCatx 19 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [40] you did a gym, a new laundry room AND an office, not to mention renovate both existing bathrooms, remodel the kitchen, and do work on the backyard before doing either another bedroom so twins can have their own rooms and/or another bathroom?? YTA majorly and need to sort out your priorities better. 4818 Reply Share
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