'He totally ignored my questions... Sir! I am almost 30 years old!': Misogynistic wedding venue manager embarrasses himself in front of colleagues, loses customers

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    Plant - 'I felt the secondhand embarrassment from his female colleague sitting next to him.'
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    Font - r/weddingshaming Posted by u/mermarq 23 hours ago Misogynistic Venue Manager treats grown woman like a child Horrible Vendors OC
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    Font - Okay background: I am a calligrapher (female late 20s) and also I am engaged. Sometimes I attend bridal shows to meet potential clients. At the shows, I talk to couples directly, but honestly I get most of my work through planners and other vendors' referrals. So I like to walk around and speak to the other vendors to make connections for my business and also scope out details for my own wedding! For example, if I find a vendor I like, I will ask if they have any calligraphy needs for the
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    Font - I attended a show yesterday and before the show begins, I walk up to a gorgeous and well known venue in my area. They have those ferrero rocher chocolates on their table. As I go up to them to introduce myself as a vendor and as a bride, the 60 year old man at the table says "Hello Little Girl, would you like a candy?" and proceeded to talk to me like I am 10. He totally ignored my questions and statements of interest in their really beautiful ballroom. Sir! I am almost 30 years old and a
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    Font - januarysdaughter. 21 hr. ago When my parents were trying to find a roofing company, one they met with handed my mom the catalogue of colors/styles his company did and said "Here, you can look at that while your husband and I talk numbers." My dad took the book from my mom, looked the guy right in the eye and said "actually, we're going to go through this together." They went with a different (and cheaper/not misogynistic!) company.
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    Font - pumpkinmuffin91 - 21 hr. ago They still pull that c with me (roofers did it most recently, but car dealers are the absolute worst) and I am the one that ultimately makes the decision after my husband and I talk pros and cons. Because I'm the one that's going to be home during the day while they work.
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    Font - for-f sake-why. 21 hr. ago I brought my house in 2021, by myself. Went furniture shopping with my (at the time very new and wasn't living with me) boyfriend. So many sales people (across numerous shops) spoke only to him, only asked him questions and made numerous comments about what "we want", while looking at him. Despite the fact that I started conversations with "Hi, I recently brought a house and I'm interested in X furniture for my house". Not "our house". Most of them didn't stop e
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    Font - o pizzasauce85 19 hr. ago Our basement needed waterproofing so we had several companies come out to see what all options and prices were. I was napping one day and a vendor was able to come out early. My husband was giving him a walkthrough when I joined them after waking up. This mother frikker has the balls to ask me if I could run along to the kitchen and make the menfolk a sandwich!!!! Then he turns to my husband and says "why do wives even bother? We both know all the women care abou
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    Font - These guys even carried my mom bridal style across the boards that went across where they had dug out by our door. She was afraid of falling in due to balance issues and the guy tipped his cap to her and scooped her up! She was mortified but extremely happy at being treated so kindly!
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    Font - PennyoftheNerds 19 hr. ago I was having the roof redone on my house. The roofers were blasting music so loudly that the house was shaking. It was so loud that I knew it was also upsetting the neighbors. I went out and kindly asked that they turn it down to a reasonable volume. The owner says to me, "Go back into the house, Little Girl." I told him that it was my house and he'd turn the music down or I'll call the police, file a noise complaint and have him removed from the property for tr
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    Font - BSB8728 18 hr. ago When we were shopping for a mortgage in 1988, a bank rep called and asked to speak with my husband. I handle our finances and told him that if he was calling about the mortgage, he could speak with me. He said he needed to speak specifically with my husband, because it was about the points on the loan. I said, "You may speak with him if you want, but he doesn't know what points are." The person reiterated that it had to be my husband. So my husband came to the phone, li
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    Font - SayerSong 15 hr. ago My mom's brothers taught her how to check out potential cars to buy. My mom and dad both taught me. So when I was in my late teens, early twenties, looking for a car to buy, and my dad was with me, the salesman tried to talk to him, while I was looking for hidden rust spots, cracks, hail damage, low tire pressure, and a myriad of other issues. I started pointing them all out to my dad, and how, for the price of the car, it wasn't quite in the shape it should have been
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    Font - Suzy2727 21 hr. ago That is so unprofessional of him! Not only is it very demeaning to you, an adult and possible client, but it makes me wonder if he speaks to actual children that way. Ugh. So creepy. I agree with the other comments that if you are able to complain to the business about him. I can't imagine anyone wanting to do business with their establishment with him as the front man.
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    Font - Sea_Yogurtcloset48 · 20 hr. ago My MIL-to be (just got engaged yay!) calls seemingly every fully grown adult woman a 'wee girl' including the fully qualified real estate agent that recently sold their house for them. It drives me crazy. Oh and shes a 'big feminist' too apparently.
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    Font - Vindictivebiach 19 hr. ago I apologize this doesn't have to do with a wedding, but just the other day I had my apartment complex's repairman in to help with my oven that was 1. baking things way too hot (like burning chocolate chip cookies in 5 minutes) and 2. an error code would display after being on for some amount of time. Anyways, one guy comes to check the oven and orders a new part for it after figuring out its 150' degrees hotter than it should be, and then a different guy comes t
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    Font - wafflesforprez. 11 hr. ago My husband and I were getting our deck redone and when I asked for stain samples to compare colors he said "oh you're going to be one of ~those people." Yea silly me, I'm spending over $10k on this, I'd like to know what color it will be.
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    Font - Botryllus 21 hr. ago Was he the manager/owner? If not consider calling the manager or owner and complaining. They might be losing business from more people than just you. Reply Share 40 mermarq OP 20 hr. ago I did consider leaving a google review with my experience, but I dont want to get a bad reputation for my business so I do not think it is worth it. Instead, I opted to share with you fine folks! Also, as mentioned, I do work with wedding planners so I could share that experience with
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    Mammal - the_greek_italian. 19 hr. ago Ummm... is this dude okay? I can only imagine he probably called you "sweetheart" which urks me.
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    Font - poetryinthewater . 19 hr. ago This sounds just like the manager of every hotel I ever worked at 11 Reply Share mermarq OP 19 hr. ago this was a hotel. maybe it is a hotel thing!_()))_/¯¯
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    Font - UncertaintyLich 14 hr. ago If he's calling you "little girl" and offering you candy that sounds less like misogyny and more like he's actually senile and has no idea where he is/what is happening lol. Yikes
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    Font - mangorain4 22 hr. ago omg gross. wtf was he thinking Reply Share 23 mermarq OP 20 hr. ago . I have no clue. I was wearing a badge that said "Vendor." I very much look my age, not younger, and I was dressed in business type attire. Just a creep I guess.
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    Font - irradi 14 hr. ago Once I badly sprained my ankle & when it came time to pay the bill for the MRI ensuring I hadn't broken it, the PA (a baby faced dude) asked if I wanted him to bring my boyfriend (who wasn't present or mentioned?) the bill. I think I just stared at him because I physically could not process that question. And then I was like "please never ask a woman that again" and handed him my credit card.
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    Font - LilithOG 19 hr. ago I'm a young, blond doctor who owns her own practice. My fiancé is a bit older than me (silver fox!) and is my office manager. When we go to trade events, inevitably the older men all start talking to him thinking our roles are reversed. One idiot was so thick that my fiancé said it 3 times, "you have a good question, but you should really ask the doctor as that is above my pay grade." Once that idiot realized I was the doctor, he started giving me terrible business adv
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    Font - . peeKnuckleExpert - 15 hr. ago I have found that the older someone is, the younger they think adults are. The senior citizens working at the liquor stores are the only ones who ID me, and I'm 42!

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