'Never saw this coming': Cheating husband discovers wife's affair, expresses hypocritical rage, internet reacts

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Mar 7, 2023 2:00 PM EST

As Justin Timberlake once said, what goes around comes back around. This married man had been cheating on his wife with his affair partner for six years and thought he got away with it even after his affair partner's husband handed her divorce papers. What's even worse is that the whole affair started because the husband gave into temptation after his wife survived a horrible accident, rendering her unable to fulfill his needs if you catch my drift.

 

This whole saga was compiled and documented by u/enaikelt, who pieced together the various posts and updates written by the Redditor in Reddit's r/BestofRedditorUpdates subreddit. Let's just say it only gets worse and worse. Eventually, the husband learned that his wife was having an affair herself, and he completely lost it. The fact that he couldn't see his own hypocrisy just goes to show how completely self-involved people can be. Woof!

 

Keep scrolling below for all the juicy details - and there are many. For more, here's a story about an employee who discovered their CEO is their half-brother.

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    Font - A Cake Eater discovers that his wife has also been eating cake INCONCLUSIVE This is a repost, I'm not the OP, etc. Thank you to u/JadieBear2113 for leading me down this rabbit hole! Trigger Warning: There are no actual cakes in this post. r/Cake Eater is a sub for cake eaters. Not chocolate cake or cheesecake or any regular sort of cake, but people who "want to have their cake and eat it too" - who are in a happy marriage and not planning on leaving, but still have an affair, just because
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    Font - u/Miserable Ad 7975 was a Cake Eater who had been having an affair with his AP (Affair Partner) for 6 years. Eventually, his AP's husband cottoned on and filed for a divorce. Worried that his wife would find out, he consulted r/adultery on how best to confess about 10 months ago. There was one post before these three, but it was deleted before reveddit could archive it.
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    Font - First post: Calm before the storm https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/ comments/ms0s4r/calm before th e storm/ Tried posting a few days ago but could not find post. Must be lost in cyberspace. Don't even know if this is the right forum at the moment. In gist: Affair partner got served divorce papers out of nowhere two days ago at work. Her husband knows of us/me. It's only a matter of time before my wife finds out. Don't know if i have days or hours before the world as i know it is gone.
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    Font - Took some time off work to spend time with my wife and two daughers. My body is in turmoil but strangly my mind is clear. It reminds me of the days leading up to my dad passing away. Time has slowed down and I am aware of all the things surrounding me. It's a nice feeling. My day today was filled with observation of details and appreciation. My wifes smell and the clothes she wore, my daughters laughter, the color of the kitchen tiles, the dog, the yard. Feel blessed to have a healthy and
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    Font - What will my daughters think of me? I look at my wife that i love with all my heart and I see a woman who stood by me no matter what. We had our fair share of ups and downs like most couples but i never imagined a life without her. How do I justify a six year affair? Is that even forgivable?
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    Font - I don't know what the future holds. All i know is that the storm is coming and i am here basking in the sun until the clouds come rolling in. I plan to confess over the weekend. Even if I know the outcome I pray she does not leave me. This was so not worth it.
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    Font - Any suggestions on how to confess? How do you start? W What do i tell my daugheters? I have already made an appointment with a therapist. What else can I do? Wish me luck!
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    Font - EDIT: Thank you all for your comments and suggestions. Some of them were hard to read. I dont have time to address all comments but will reply to few to clear some things. Yesterday I reached out to my brother for advice. He left his wife some years ago and married his affair partner. He seemed happy with her. The grass is not greener for him after all and he is planning on leaving her but is stuck at the moment. His advice is to not tell my wife and to minimize if confronted. He also sai
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    Font - In the comments, people doubt that Miserable_Ad really loved his wife. He DID cheat on her for 6 years and all. He responds: I am not confused. Never was. I don't have a problem separating love from s My heart is loyal to my woman and she is it for me.
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    Font - So many responses about how I dont value my affair partner. Well, since I am on a pour my heart out roll here let me tell you about my affair partner. She is a gorgeous and a smart woman who is funny and open to different experiences. She is younger than my self and my wife. Fit. Seductive. But she is not my wife and does not even compare.
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    Font - Six years on/off is a long time to invest. As I see it, she is an adult woman who made decisions to cheat with a married man on her husband for whatever reasons. Do I care for her? Yes, six years is a long time. Do I love her? No. Did I say to her I loved her? Yes, of course I did but I lied just as I lied to my wife. Did I use her? Yes, I did. Did she use me? Of course she did. We both knew we were played with fire.
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    Font - The reason i strayed has nothing to do with my wife. We have a good life in general s that but I do have some ki she is not into at all. My affair partner was into the same ki. That's how we met and that is why the affair was ongoing for six years. What lead me to starting the affair was my wife being in an accidant that took a toll on her body. was off the table for over a year. I gave in to temptation and when i discovered the affair partner shared my I was hooked. So all you people say
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    Font - He gets conflicting advice on whether or not to tell his wife. Most commenters tell him to come clean, but a few don't, including his brother in real life. His next post is in the aforementioned Cake Eater sub, and it quickly becomes obvious that he did not come clean.
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    Font - First Update: Never saw this comming - https://www.reddit.com/r/Cakeeat er/comments/ph3bxg/never saw t his comming/ Throwaway. Posted once before. Check it for background. Think this is the sub I should be on. I was prepared for all scenarios but not this one. The doom day did not come in the shape I was expecting. AP ended up convinced her STBEX not to spill the beans to my wife in exchange for a smoth divorce. I thought I was in the clear.
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    Font - Yesterday AP sent me a blurry photo of my wife in the car with another man. She claimed they walked hand in hand to his car from a store in a nearby town to ours. She got a shot of the plates too. After some digging I now know she is having an affair. Don't know how long for sure but at least 6 months. He is a singe dad our age and is telling her to leave the marriage. She is telling him she loves him.
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    Font - Afraid to confront her. Feel numb at the moment. Took a day off work. Any advice? I love her and want to stay married. EDIT: Any advice on how to proceed? Should I just let it run it course and monitor? Should I confront and hope for the best? Should I confess to my affair and hope we all can come clean and make way for a new marriage? I am so f utterly confused! I have rehearsed the things I would say and do if she was to find out about MY affaris. I was not prepared for this
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    Font - He manages to get ahold of his wife's phone while she's in the sauna and confirms the affair over WhatsApp. Logically yes we are both getting our itches scratched. Whats the big deal?
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    Font - I am not ruled by logic at this moment. Maybe later but now my emotions are overpowering every logic. never in my life have I experienced this type of emotional and physical distress. I can't even think straigt. Never thought I was gonna bowl my eyes out and throw up on the carpet.
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    Font - I am desperate to talk this out to know why this happend and how invested she really is in this peace of If she is doing this out of revenge maybe I have a chance cause if so she does feel something for me at least. I can 't imaginge her being emotionless throwing away over 20 years. I know this woman like I know my self.
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    Font - Deep down she's hurt but also so very stubborn and proud. I just want to know if she knew about my affair why the did she not confront me? I would have chosen her over AP in a nanosecond. And what the is she hoping to find with this dush? He is no better than me, sleeping with a married woman. Ah f I am trying to respect her wish to have some space but I am desperate desperate desperate to just talk to her.
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    Font - Yeah I don't know how I feel about being on the other side. Never had fantasies about my wife other men. We had life minus my k a good she was not aware of (hence the LTAP). I am thinking what do I have to lose? There can be only two outcomes. She loves him she leaves. She loves me she stays. I am hoping this is just a fling and nothing serious.
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    Font - Some of the commenters offer sympathy, but most opt for schadenfreude. Second Update: UPDATE Never saw this comming - https://www.reddit.com/r/Cakeeat er/comments/pkbju1/update neve r saw this comming/
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    Font - My marriage seems to be over. Confronted wife this past weekend. Sat her down without warning and told her I knew she was having an affair and with whom. Asked her if she loved him and what her plan was. She was cought off guard. Went to the bathroom for ten minutes. When she came out she looked me straight in the eyes and said "I know about your affair too. I have known for some time now. I love him and want a divorce".
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    Font - Next days were a blure. I tried to talk to her but she shuts me down. She has moved into the spare bedroom and is making appointments with law firms. Has told our two girls. I have signed up for emergency therapy. Am on meds for dealing with anxiety and lack of sleep. This is surreal. Heard her talk to him last night and cut the internet cord. Kind of crazy cause I need f internet for work and she just switched to her phone. Ahh man! So many emotions are running through me.
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    Font - I made love to her past week and today she is a total stranger. How does this happend? How can she not feel ANY emotion? Over 20 years GONE. All the love, friendship, partnership, intimacy, jokes, memories, plans for our future GONE. JUST LIKE THAT. NO LOOKING BACK. Feel so blindsided and the only person I can talk to is my brother who lives across the country. Sorry to vent here to you fine people on here. Just need to get this out.
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    Font - He gets his handed to him in the comments, more or less, but I wanted to call out this comment in particular by u/Key_Zucchini9764: "Made love to her last week... How does she not feel any emotion?" This is simple, she has learned how to separate love and She has with you but loves her AP. You taught her well.
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    Font - startha__mewart Him with his AP: if my wife found out about my AP, she would be devastated. I can't bear the thought even though my affair has lasted 6 years and it was during a time where my wife went through a horrible accident and all I cared about was getting my Him finding out about his wife's AP: ohhh my fee feesShe was the wet love of my life, how could she do such a thing?? edit: his* 7.2k Reply Share
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    Font - stunningtractor Anyone else notice that one point he used to justify his affair was that his wife wasn't into his s...then he goes on later to say she wasn't even aware of his ki This guy, man. 3.9k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - sad_choochoo_train. S Diddums :c Sorry, but this is hilarious. This dude's hypocritical pain feeds me. 3.8k ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - Celany Elite 2K BORU club It would be funny if it wasn't so up. I truly, deeply, and utterly cannot understand how someone is capable of functioning with this level of cognitive dissonance between his actions and his wife's actions. I don't get it. I really don't get it. How does someone cheat for that long and manage to be so angry about their spouse's affair? How do they not see? People are scary. 5.5k Reply Share
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