AITA: 'That's tacky': Friends get invited to small party, hosts charge them for drinks, friends bail and block them

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    Hand - "AITA for leaving my friends party after they expected their guests to pay for drinks?"
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    Font - AITA for leaving my friends party after they expected their guests to pay for drinks? Not the A-hole This past weekend my wife (41F) I (42M) attended one of my friends party's that I was invited to. For context my friend (42M) his gf (48F) and their two friends (also mid 40's M&F) were hosting this party the 4 of them together.
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    Font - A few weeks ago when I received the invitation I realized that it said on it something along the lines of "please be prepared to purchase your own drinks". Didn't think much of it at the time considering I just thought they were hiring a bar tender or something, but fast forward to the day of the party.
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    Font - I arrive with my wife and it's my friend and his gf standing behind their kitchen counter that they were using as their "bar", making/charging the guests for drinks. Now I was confused for a few reasons...
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    Font - 1, the fact that this party was held at my friends house, it's not like this was at an event space or something where this would be normal imo. 2, there was no bar tender that they hired or anything like that. It was literally 2 of the 4 of them standing in the kitchen at a time making drinks for people and then charging them accordingly (drinks were all under $10).
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    Font - Now idk if this is actually a common thing, but I have never in my 42 years of living been to a "party" at a friends house where the hosts are charging you themselves for drinks.
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    Font - I've had multiple parties over the years, that I have invited my friend and his gf to in which they have attended, and I've never charged ANYONE for drinks ever. I've always bought all the drinks myself and had an open bar type of situation. Where my guests can make there own drinks. I even had a proper bar tender once and still no one was charged, it was an open bar.
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    Font - I honestly felt like my friend, his gf and their friends were all trying to make a quick buck off of their guests who attended. Clearly to cover to cost of the drinks. Which yeah I understand that booze isn't cheap these days but we're talking splitting the cost of whatever they bought between 4 PEOPLE. Like in my opinion if you can't afford to supply drinks at your party, why are you having a party in the first place?
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    Font - This also wasn't for charity or anything the money made off of the drinks was for them to split. My wife and I bought one drink each, stayed for about an hour or so, and said our goodbyes. When we were leaving my friend asked why we didn't have that much to drink? I told him because I think it's ridiculous that they are charging their close friends for drinks. He called me cheap and an unsupportive friend. I assured him that i'm not, if the charging of drinks was for a good cause (like pr
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    Font - I told him I find the fact that they are charging for drinks, and keeping the money for themselves ridiculous and taking advantage of their friends. Anyway now my friend and his gf are butt hurt about this and have been calling me an AH to our mutual friends. AITA here?
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    Font - (EDIT: Wow! I did not expect this post to blow up like this but thank you guys. For any of those wondering, after reading these comments my wife and I have decided to exclude my "friend" and his gf from any of our future parties. I blocked both my "friend" and his gf as well.)
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    Font - jrm1102 22 hr. ago Commander in Cheeks [20... NTA - thats tacky af. I get BYOB but this is a whole other level. I would havent even gotten one drink. 11.3k Reply Share
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    Font - HELLUNT Intrepid-Camel-9797 22 hr. ago NTA. That's just so weird. I could understand if it was in an event space, and they hired a bar and bar tender, but charging people for a drink in your home is just weird I would have left too. 3.2k Reply Share
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    Font - Fun-Replacement1998 22 hr. ago Normal friends: Hey our budgets a little tight this month but we still want to see everyone so feel free to bring your own drinks Your friends: Yeah we're gonna charge you guys ΝΤΑ 43.2k Reply Share
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    Font - alwayssoupy 22 hr. ago Perhaps they were upset because you left before they introduced the MLM business they were starting. 2.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Turbulent-Oven-9191. 22 hr. ago NTA and depending on what state this took place, it is probably illegal as well. 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Heloise_Morris · 22 hr. ago NTA How tacky, charging your guests for a drink. If you're that cheap just ask people to BYOB. I am hosting St Patrick's Day dinner. I picked up a small bottle of Tanqueray for one of the guests that doesn't like wine or beer and it was $8. Profiteering off your friends at a Cocktail party? That's a new low 889 Reply Share
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    Font - cheapfriends-ta OP 22 hr. ago My thoughts exactly, the whole thing just made me so uncomfortable. 482 Reply Share

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