UPDATE: 'I decided to take it to court': Bridesmaid gets kicked out of wedding for cutting her hair due to medical issue, sues bridezilla for not paying her back

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Mar 17, 2023 4:00 PM EDT

For anyone who has ever had to deal with a crazy bridezilla, this story has the kind of triumphant ending bridezillas deserve. This thread and its update were reposted to the r/BestofRedditorUpdates subreddit, and let's just say that bridezillas everywhere better watch out after what happened to this one.

 

Essentially, the original poster had a medical issue that involved partial hair loss and therefore made the difficult decision to cut her hair off a couple of weeks before the wedding. However, this bridezilla could not fathom the idea that one of her bridesmaids would not look identical to the others and decided to fire her from the wedding party just a few days before the wedding. Well, seeing as the original poster had already spent a ridiculous amount of money on wedding-related expenses, she sent bridezilla and her fiancé an invoice. When they didn't respond, she took them to court… and guess what, folks? She WON! 

 

Keep scrolling below for the full play-by-play. For more, here's a fun post about a pizza Karen.

 

Thumbnail photo credit: David Veksler & Benigno Hoyuela

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    Property - "Bridesmaid sues bride after getting kicked out from the wedding party over a haircut"
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    Font - Bridesmaid sues bride after getting kicked out from the wedding party over a aircut CONCLUDED NOTE: I am not OP. This is a repost sub https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheA sshole/comments/p3rvh2/aita for taking my friend to court after s he/ For my friend's 3 day wedding, I had to buy three different dresses (including alterations, and specific shoes which totalled over $700. She also wanted specific hair styles for each day.
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    Font - Unfortunately starting in March my hair started to deteriorate. Due to health reasons my hair was falling out in chunks and in May i made the difficult decision to cut my hair. I told the bride about my decision two weeks before the wedding and she didn't say anything bad. The following week, she came over to my house and when she was about to leave, she brought up that she was concerned about my haircut and I told her it would look good even though I wouldn't be uniform with the other br
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    Font - "After our recent conversations, I'd like to remind you of my boundaries: I've been very accommodating and graceful, but I can't allow you to disrespect me. As you know, my wedding has been something I've dreamt of for many years. (Husband) and I have invested a lot of money into the video and photos of this day and as we reflect on this day in the further we want to see our vision reflected in the memories. Since I asked each of you to be bridesmaid in 2019, I've been very clearly and ve
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    Font - The timing of your decision to cut your hair and not income in advance is very upsetting to me. I would have felt respected if you had communicated with me more than a week prior to the wedding, so we could have worked together to find a collaborative solution. Your inconsistencies have concerned me and while I sympathise with your health concerns, I'm not willing to compromise my vision to accommodate you (or anyone else) when you have informed me in advance and we could have found a bet
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    Font - This was three days before the wedding. I immediately sent her and her husband an invoice asking them to reimburse for the dresses and shoes. Keeping in mind that one of the dresses is still in her possession even though I paid for it. Neither of them replied and so I decided to take it the court.
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    Font - I was told I was inconsistent and selfish after I spent the past two weeks helping her plan the wedding shower, I worked with another bridesmaid to surprise her with a bridal shower after our bachelorette trip had to be cancelled. I spent HOURS helping her out with wedding details. When she asked me to help her tone up before the wedding I sent her a personalised work out program and even went with her to the gym to show her the ropes.
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    Font - When I agreed to be her bridesmaid I was more than willing to oblige with what she asked even if at times it was a lot of time and money. So am I the hole for taking her to court because she kicked me out for cutting my hair?
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    Font - UPDATE https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheA sshole/comments/uk3hsp/aita for taking_my_friend to court after s he/ This is has been a LONG time coming. I've had a lot of people reach out to me asking what the results of the case have been. Unfortunately I could no longer post comments on my previous post as well. I figured I would wait until everything was done to update everyone all at once.
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    Font - In December 2021, I got the notification that a court date had been set for February 7, 2022. It would be virtual and since it's small claims, we would represent ourselves. I began gathering my evidence and created a virtual file which I shared with the court and her 7 days before the hearing.
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    Font - On the day, she did show up. We were given the chance to settle but that was unsuccessful. When we returned to the hearing, I found out she also had made a virtual file with her evidence but never shared it with me. The court then made her share it and what a surprise I had! She had copied my entire format for presenting evidence (keep in mind that this is a format I created) She didn't even had the decency (or brain cells) to make something up herself.
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    Font - The hearing proceeded and we were both given a chance to share our side. I won't go into the details of it but it took probably 10-15 mins. In my state they do not give you the verdict right away and it can take up to 90 days!
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    Font - And so... I waited. And waited. And waited. And waited. Then yesterday May 5 (almost 90 days after!) I got a verdict. I WON! She has been ordered to pay me the total of $808.94 for the dresses and shoes. I have to return two dresses and shoes I have to her. The verdict goes into effect May 30. I don't see her appealing it (or fingers crossed she doesn't).
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    Font - All in all, I am VERY happy with the outcome and so ready to close this chapter. Thank you to everyone who has been so invested in this with me! I hope this was the season finale you were looking forward to.
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    Font - P.S. my hair and health are doing MUCH better. My three bald spots are growing again and I couldn't be happier.
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    Font - Sharchir 10 mo. ago Those bald spots could have been caused by the stress of being this lunatic's bridesmaid 9.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Papa_Bearto2 - 10 mo. ago When my mom went through chemo she shaved her head as her hair was falling out. She also declined to wear a wig because they made her scalp itch. So she rocked the bald look for a long time. On a near daily basis she had people, even strangers, telling her she should wear a wig. Her response was always that due to the chemo she didn't have the energy to worry about making people uncomfortable with her baldness. Instantly shut people down.
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    Font - I don't understand why a bald woman upsets people to the point where they lose the ability to be a compassionate human being. 4.8k Reply Reply Share
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    Font - Token_or_TolkienuPOS 10 mo. ago S When they start going on about their "vision since I was a toddler for my wedding".....I instantly shut down. Any sane grown woman would realize that life is not a Disney movie. There is no perfection. Women gain weight, they change their hair colours, length, style, they have babies, they get jobs (some of which don't pay well enough to accommodate your dream day), they have many other responsibilities that include other people other than you, BRIDEZILLA
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    Font - This obsession for perfection is almost always a predictor that the marriage itself won't last because more often than not, the husband realizes that he made a terrible mistake marrying such a loser 3.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Dimityblue 10 mo. ago For my friend's 3 day wedding, I had to buy three different dresses (including alterations, and specific shoes which totalled over $700. She also wanted specific hair styles for each day. dresses, 3 pairs of shoes, and 3 specific hair styles? THAT. I'm glad OOP won and I hope she gets her money. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - ten_before_six. 10 mo. ago I'm so tired of people using "disrespect" in this way (the way bridezilla did, I mean). Every single thing that happens in life that you don't like, you disagree with, or is a result of people living their lives without you as the main character isn't disrespect. This was a medical issue! 1.6k Reply Share
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    Font - Whatsfordinner4. 10 mo. ago I seriously don't understand this thing where the bridesmaids have to look identical? Is it an American thing? 393 Reply Share clutzycook 10 mo. ago No, just a bridezilla thing. Most brides don't care about their bridesmaids looking like clones. 444 Reply Share
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