‘Don’t expect anything this year’ : Husband spends $2K on friend’s bachelor party, skips out on wife’s birthday citing lack of funds, gets mad when she pulls the same excuse on his birthday

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    Font - Posted by u/Expression Plane6678 20 hours ago ņ AITA; Not doing anything for husband's birthday
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    Font - Thanks for reading! backstory: Married 3 years, together 15. One child. I've always been big on doing nice things for my husbands birthday. One year was 1000 dollar golf clubs, a mini surprise party, decorate the house with 200 balloons, big expensive steak dinners. I use to have to save a lot to do it, but seeing him happy like that was worth it.
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    Font - Fast forward to my birthday last year: I was one month postpartum. I had an emergency C-section and was recovering. I had brought up causally for my birthday i would of liked something of my daughter, either a card or her birthstone. A card with her little handprint would of been cute. He looked at me and said, don't expect a thing this year I have no money. I was shocked because he infact has money and just spent 2000 on a bachelor party.
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    Font - But - again, I wasn't expecting much. I didn't make a big deal. My family however, we're pissed. My sister had asked him to spilt something with her for me and he said no. No explanation just no. So she came over with family and decorated the house for me. In the end, because he saw how upset my family was for how he was acting towards me( more than just birthday stuff) he gave me a gift card he knowing I couldn't use.. whatever.
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    Font - Anyway fast forward to now. A lot more tension between us. He again, told me not to expect Mother's Day gifts/ that he has to pay his credit card and I just nodded my head. BUT That's when he's said so what are we doing for my birthday???? I was shocked but instinctively said " don't expect anything I have no money" He looked at me like I crushed his soul and was like wow really. I'm like I'm on mat leave where would I have money for you? Now, he's stomping his feet saying that "I do noth
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    Font - Material-Profit5923 · 20 hr. ago · edited 19 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [18] When he tells you that he doesn't have money, he's actually saying that he doesn't have money for things that are unimportant to him, like you. You need to seriously consider whether this relationship is healthy for you or your daughter. Edit to add: forgot to include the NTA.
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    Font - 3 jrm1102 20 hr. ago Commander in Cheeks [223] NTA - Why are you married to this man? He has no respect for you.
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    Font - DoorSubstantial2104 16 hr. ago We're skint at the moment. Like flat broke. For Mother's Day (in March in my country) my husband and kids gave me homemade cards, flowers they picked from the garden and brought me breakfast in bed. You don't need money to show someone you appreciate them
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    Font - EfferentCopy 13 hr. ago Last year at Xmas, I had shipped most of my partner's gifts to my brother and sister- in-law's house, whom we were meant to visit, but then our flights were cancelled and we never made it down. Concerned that I didn't have anything for my partner to unwrap, I spent part of my Xmas eve drawing him bad pictures of all the things I would buy him if I had unlimited money. Then I stitched it together into a little booklet. It took maybe an
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    Font - hour of my time, used stuff I already had around the house, I had fun making it and daydreaming about the gifts, and he nearly cried when he opened it. Even after my brother shipped all our gifts to us, I think it's still my partner's favorite gift from me. Point being, even when there is no money, if someone loves you, they'll find a way to show you.
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    Font - Empressario 18 hr. ago Partassipant [1] . And what is awful is these cards you can get from Walmart or other less expensive stores aren't exactly breaking the bank, and he still refuses. He sucks NTA OP
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    Font - vctrlzzr420 15 hr. ago Partassipant [1] He could have at least made her a nice meal, rubbed her back, took care of the baby that day like diapers and just gave her some slack with a nice attempt of something. I do think it's pathetic he couldn't even be bothered to look up the baby print before saying no don't expect it.
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    Font - Left-Star2240 13 hr. ago coughs side piece!
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    Font - Jealous-Treacle5736 17 hr. ago Go look at OP's post history and you will find out how he is as a husband an realise this is all a lot worse than the lack of a birthday gift
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    Font - UPDATE: speaking with a lawyer

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