'The problem isn't the truth. It's your actions': Mom cancels son's birthday plans to go on a date, he calls her out online

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    Computer - P DDR MacBook Pro BO SHO "[I] made a post on social media calling my mom out for abandoning me on a milestone birthday"
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    Font - AITA for calling out my mom on social media for abandoning me on my birthday Not the A-hole Context: I just turned 21 years old last month and I have spent the last few birthdays by myself due to being in college.
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    Font - About a month before my birthday, my mom and I are sitting in the living room when she asks me "What do you wanna do for your birthday this year?" I told her that it didn't matter as long as I got to spend it with her, seeing as I was away at college for the last two years. (I took a year off to help with family and to take care of my mental health) A week later, she tells me that she found a VR place that was open for my birthday and made reservations for us to go which I was ecstatic ab
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    Font - When I asked her why, she said it was the only day they could get a table for the restaurant. I told her she had made a promise to spend my birthday with me and now she's breaking it. She then said to get over it and spend the day with my gf. (My gf works for a cruise line and is out of country until July) I ended up spending my birthday alone and made a post on social media calling my mom out for abandoning me on a milestone birthday. My family is now divided. Half are siding with me, an
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    Font - Small disclaimer: this is a pattern of her's that has been going on since I was 12. Whether it's my birthday, a competition, or an important event of mine this always happen. Just thought I'd add a little clarification. And for the people in the comments calling me her daughter, I'm her son. Her only son.
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    Font - Imaginary-Fish4277 1 day ago W NTA. Many people say OP should have called out his mom in private in stead of on SM, but that is exactly what he did. And then mom said to him get over it. So mom brought the well deserved call-out on SM entirely upon herself. Mom is a major AH, not OP. 17.3k Reply Share
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    Font - SeaOk7514 23 hr. ago Wish I could up vote this 1,000 times. 2.3k Reply Share
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    Font - NashiraReaper 23 hr. ago Don't worry, I used my vote to vote for you, now only 999 more to go 901 Reply Share
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    Font - Spirited Arachnid. 1 day ago NTA. Your mom did abandon you for a date. She prioritized her over her child. She also knew so little about you and your GF that she didn't know your GF was away on business. People get away with being complete jerks because everyone else wants to be 'polite' and keep things private. Calling out a jerk's bad behaviour is causing them embarrassment? Good. Family upset because it got pointed out? Too bad, so sad. ✩ 4.4K Reply Share
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    Font - Psychotic-Orca. 22 hr. ago I swear that whole, "Be the bigger person" was taught so that jerks can get away with their abysmal behavior without consequences. 1.4k Reply Share
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    Font - PuzzleheadedLime6510. 1 day ago NTA - Well well well, someone doesn't like being call out? Maybe she should've thought about it first? What a selfish person, if nothing had been planned in the beginning I could have "understand" but she literally planned something and cancelled it for a date? Is her love life more important that her kids birthday ?? She better not come crying when you don't invite her to your great life events ... 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - pottersquash 1 day ago Judge, Jury, and Excretioner ... NTA. She's AH for cancelling last min. While I don't agree with you "calling out" your mom, you are free to do so...I'm shocked its working out well for you. My family would roast me until end of time. 506 Reply Share
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    Font - Hazel2468 1 day ago . ΝΤΑ. If the truth about your actions casts you in a bad light, then the problem isn't the truth. It's your actions. 404 Reply Share
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    Font - Hoplite68 23 hr. ago NTA. She made plans with her child, then cancelled them so she could go to a restaurant. The restaurant ranked higher than you on her priorities. It's time to return that favour, don't out energy into a relationship that you isnt even remotely close to being matched. 224 Reply Share
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    Rectangle - BaRiMaLi 1 day ago ΝΤΑ I think your mum is the selfish one here. 4 200 Reply Share
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    Font - Mavis 1 day ago BeaconSexTape Eh, NTA in a way because that's messed up to be ditched by your own mom on your bday... but honestly is that a social media post you want to look back on years from now or have show up on some anniversary reminder? Assuming it's Facebook I guess. 129 Reply Share
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    Font - Logical-Cost4571- 23 hr. ago NTA. I get it. It makes you feel really small when the one person who you'd think would care about your actual birthday don't care. 49 Reply Share
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    Font - CoffeeCat77 23 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [22] NTA. If mom didn't like people knowing about her behavior, maybe she shouldn't have behaved in way. a

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