'You have boundaries issues' : Entitled Fiancé Betrays Fianceé's Trust by Disclosing Her 23andMe DNA Results to Estranged Father

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    Font - Posted by u/Goodeystuff 21 hours ago AITA for emailing my fiancé's dad about her DNA results?
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    Font - I (35 M) secretly emailed my fiancé's (31 F) biological father, who is adopted and had no links to his real family, to inform him that his family had been found through her 23andMe test results.
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    Font - Three years ago she bought 23andMe tests for us, her parents (mom and step-dad), and my parents. This was a deeply meaningful gift because my 5 older brothers have tormented me all my life with claims that I was adopted or that our dad wasn't my dad since I don't look like everyone else in the family. I'm tall with red hair. So it really healed an old wound to get definitive proof that our parents are both my parents.
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    Font - What we weren't expecting was for results for her biological father's family to show up. She wasn't expecting to find many familial connections because she's first generation American. Initially there was a third cousin connection on her paternal side and over the last couple of years it's grown into a practical family tree. I knew that she had stopped
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    Font - speaking to her dad over 10 years ago because the most he did for her was sporadically remember to call on her birthday. She explained her reasons for not wanting to give him the information but they honestly didn't sit well with me.
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    Font - I tracked down her dads email address in her contacts list and sent him the list of his known relatives. I completely forgot about it until her mom saw a social media post about him finding his family and told my fiancé. She was
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    Font - very emotional as she told me about the phone call with her mom but said she was happy for him. She made a comment about how "we didn't have anything to do with it" so I confessed to what I had done. She was furious and this has created a major issue in our relationship. AITA for sending her dad, who is adopted, her test results that identified his biological family?
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    Font - CZ1988 20 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [18] YTA and you have a serious issue with boundaries She explained her reasons... but they honestly didn't sit well with me. I tracked down her dads email address in her contacts list 17.5k Reply Share
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    Font - grandstar 17 hr. ago YTA ● I'm nigerian and when my dad died who was also a chief, my young in law from my dad's wife announced it on Facebook. We were furious. It wasn't his call. It's our choice to make the pronouncement.
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    Font - Your present action reminds me of my inlaw. You should have sent her her dad's email address. That would have been the greatest gift you could have given her! The mistakes been made but learn from it! 3.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Spaghettisaurus_Rex 17 hr. ago It sounds like he got his email address from her contacts list so she definitely could have contacted him and was choosing not to 4 1.8k Reply
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    Font - babcock27 15 hr. ago · edited 7 hr. ago The father could have done his own DNA test if he cared to find out. You decided you knew better than her and used her PRIVATE information to contact him. YTA and you know it. You just think you're right. This would be a MAJOR breach of trust and I think she should
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    Font - dump you for thinking you knew better than her. You STOLE the information to prioritize her father over her. Why would she ever trust you again? You are a controlling know-it-all who thinks you and your feelings trump hers. YTA

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