'I had to kick out my cousin during my ceremony for crying': Bride cuts off cousin after she causes wedding pandemonium

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jun 10, 2023 11:00 AM EDT

An entitled parent just cannot believe the world doesn't revolve around her and her kids. As u/FlounderEffective819 shared in a shocking story, she was excited for her wedding, but was insistent that the big day should be child free. All the OP wanted was a special moment with her husband as she walked down the aisle. That's a pretty normal thing to want at a wedding reception, but one of the OP's family members, who has three young children, didn't take the "no kids" rule very well. It seems like these two cousins just do not get along, judging by their screaming match over the kids' behavior. Everyone else in the OP's family took the news well, but not the cousin… her "revenge" was so over-the-top petty that some people in the comments told the OP to simply never speak to her ever again. 

After that, this person's landlord has a pretty push request — can the tenant babysit their kids, indefinitely? 

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    Plant - 'I was so mortified to go back to the ceremony so I made the decision to skip it'
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    Font - TAKES TWO ES r/TwoHotTakes Posted by u/Flounder Effective819 AITA for kicking out my cousin for crying during my wedding? AITA This is my first Reddit post, so please forgive me. I (26F) and my husband (27M) married this year, and I had to kick out my cousin during my ceremony for crying.
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    Font - I never daydreamed of my wedding or what it would look like, I only dreamt of my moment walking down the aisle to my future husband. After a lot of discussion with my fiance, we both made the decision for our wedding to be a NO KIDS wedding. Mainly because we have a lot of children under 10 in both of our families and would prefer our wedding to be an adult event. No one invited has given me grief, most have even voiced their excitement on being able to have a family event with just the a
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    Font - My cousin (26F) has 3 kids under the age of 6, two are twins the other only a year or so older. While I love her kids, my cousin allows them to do anything and everything with no consequence. They run, steal, break things, and SCREAM at the top of their lungs if told otherwise or if they don't get their way. My cousin often drops her kids off at either, my grandparents, my mothers, my aunts(her mom) or even my own house with no warning. Its expected that when you watch them you will find
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    Font - I've avoided all my cousin's attempts at changing my mind until Thanksgiving of last year. She cornered me and demanded I allow them to come. I said no, blaming the venue, or safety reasons, anything I could think of. Suddenly her kids then kick off their synchronized screaming, and being cornered I broke. Red-faced I yelled at my Cousin. I told my cousin that their screaming is the reason I don't want children at my wedding. That a screaming child, while I walk down the aisle, would ruin
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    Font - A week later I called my cousin to apologize and took her out to lunch to formally apologize for my outburst. I love her, I love her kids, they aren't monsters 24/7 just difficult after a while. She accepted my apology and offered a compromise; if I allow her to bring her best friend as a plus one and my cousin's husband will stay home with her 3 kids. I've known her best friend a while, and I was happy to agree in order to make amends.
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    Font - Fast forward to my wedding. I make my entrance, the doors open I take 2 steps through, and suddenly SCREAMING. WAILING SCREAMING, BABY-LIKE CRYING just ECHOED through the building. I feel my face turn red everyone's heads snap away from me and immediately to my cousin! She's screaming and making baby crying noises and her plus one is helping!!!!! I felt my face run hot, I was so embarrassed I ran right back out the door. My cousin was dragged out still screaming and wailing like a baby, a
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    Font - I was so mortified to go back to the ceremony so I made the decision to skip it, and we just went straight to the reception. I am no longer talking to my cousin, turns out she got drunk with her best friend before the ceremony and planned this after I embarassed her and "bad mouthed" her kids at Thanksgiving. This moment has divided my family as some agree that what she did was terrible, and the other half want me to be the "bigger person" and accept my cousin's apology. I just cant seem
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    Rectangle - Radiant_Meat1523 the other half want me to be the "bigger person" and accept my cousin's apology. It wouldn't be a dysfunctional family without enablers. It's easy to say "forgive someone" when you're not the one who was wronged.
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    Font - Why would you ever want someone who attempted to sabotage one of the most important events in your life to be a part of it going forwards? So she can ruin more major life events? Maybe she can ruin your next birthday, your kids' Bar Mitzvah, your kid's graduation... Why would you accept an apology from someone whose last apology was a bald- faced lie, pretending to make peace meanwhile she was plotting to sabotage your wedding? Cut. Her. Off. Anyone has a problem, well, you just discovere
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    Smile - RedoftheEvil Dead Oh, she didn't "attempt" she straight up sabotaged it.
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    Font - _TheShape Of Color_ I would never talk to her again, for real. You should send her the bill for the ceremony she ruined. I'm so sorry.
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    Font - Americanhealth74. NTA and that is one of the most rude, entitled things I've read about someone doing at someone else's wedding. I would go NC with her and her family. And I would put her on blast for what she did. I'm sorry she messed up your moment.
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    Font - theassistant79 I cannot even fathom an actual adult human being acting like that DURING THE BRIDE'S ENTRANCE AT HER WEDDING. I would neeevvvvvverr speak to her, her crusty kids, or anyone who dismisses this obscenity ever again. I'm so sorry this happened. Please try to move forward in peace - without any trace of her in your life.
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    Font - iamnoking So I know this sounds extreme. But weddings are expensive and there has been legal precedent set where people can now sue for those who purposefully go out of their way to ruin the event. You can quite literally sue her. Edit: No idea this was.gonna blow up like this. Obviously this route has repercussions, such as alienating family that will think she's going too far.
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    Font - OkRisk2232 Absolutely not, no way. She's entitled, knew what she was doing, and didn't care. Frig that. I hate people who screw up, knowing they can just apologize later. NTA
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    Font - Green-Eggplant-5570. Yeah or intentionally act the fool to get the instant self- gratification as though an, "Oops, my bad!" Later will wipe the slate.
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    Font - Gracelandrocks. Yeah, I completely agree. can be the bigger person when cousin invents a time machine, goes back in time, and undoes her idiotic actions. Until then OP can hate away while the rest of us buy her drinks and hear all about cousin's sty personality.
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    Font - deerchortle She planned this. She had this in her head...since like...probably shortly after your apology to her, if not before it. There's no way they 'just came up with it'. She had that idea in her head and was ready. Months. Months of sitting on that, and she ruined your day, the one thing you asked her not to... NTA.
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    Font - Cut her off. Never speak to her again. She did this on purpose, she is not sorry, she got her revenge, now she's relying on family guilt- tripping for you to cave in again (even though you were just being kind before, and had no idea she'd plan revenge on you.) This is disturbing and going waayyyyy beyond entitlement. That's super messed up behavior, I can see why her kids are crazy, too. No more free childcare from you, hopefully. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
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    Font - ALCATryan I love how all the posts with titles that sound horrible are actually completely misconstrued and OP is a good person
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    Font - Narrow_Guava_6239. NTA. Congratulations on your wedding and I'm so sorry for the way it happened. Of all the wedding horror stories I've read on here, your story is something else from another universe. You were the bigger person when you apologised in person, and when you took your cousin out for lunch. OP stand your ground, your family is partly to blame for the way your cousin turned out, it's no wonder the apples didn't fall far from the tree.
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    Font - You tell your family this was the final straw and how cousin ruined the wedding out of spite, family don't enable the behaviour cousin displayed! Oh and another thing, make your family aware that if cousin has the audacity to drop her kids at your house, unannounced, you will be calling the police on her for child abandonment and endangerment. (Get a ring doorbell if you haven't already so you'll have proof of if she tries any bs.)
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    Font - PixelatedpulsarOG. Well, if she ever gets married, guess who's wedding you have to ruin now
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