'I did not want them at my birthday dinner': Gentle-parenting sibling gets shut down by sister when she tries to get pity online

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Jun 15, 2023 1:30 PM EDT

This sister came with receipts when trying to expose the truth that her gentle-parenting sibling was concealing behind a social media pity party spun into a web of lies. 

Sure, we're all for being nice to people, and there's no argument that this should extend to your kids so you can avoid passing your generational trauma onto them as much as possible. However, if you want your kids to grow up into fine young adults, it's probably important that you don't also teach them to be woefully entitled brats who think the world revolves around them and that everyone else owes them everything and anything they want without having to give anything in return. 

The sister shared her story to Reddit's r/AmItheA**hole subreddit to see whether or not she was in the wrong for publicly sharing videos of the kid's behavior in order to dissolve any notion that they might be the well-behaved saints the sibling wanted to paint them to be after their mother sought pity online when they were not invited to the sister's birthday.

Read on, and make your judgment; next, check out this daughter who rearranged her mother's house after her mother rearranged her new house.

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    Font - r/AmItheAsle . Posted by u/SofiaNParkers BadAunt 11 hours ago AITA For posting videos of my niece and nephew misbehaving in response to my sister's complaints that I did not want them at my birthday dinner? My sister Angel claims to use "hands-off parenting" with my niece Sofia and nephew Parker. In actuality, Angel is entirely permissive and refuses to discipline them. She expects other adults to step in when Sofia and Parker's behavior is getting out of hand.
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    Font - For this reason, I asked Angel to get a babysitter for Sofia and Parker if she wanted to attend my 27th birthday. I love Sofia and Parker as their aunt. And at the same time, I want a peaceful evening to celebrate my birthday instead of dealing with Sofia and Parker's behavior, because I know Angel isn't going to discipline them herself. Angel acted understanding when I made this request and explained my reasons to her in-person, but then she went online and made a Facebook post accusing
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    Font - Several of our relatives and mutual acquaintances called me out and said I was an ale and was excluding a 10 and 7- year-old. I responding to Angel's post by sharing two videos of Sofia and Parker misbehaving while Angel did nothing. The first video was a recording taken by Megan, where Sofia and Parker were throwing tantrums and yelling at her. Megan was trying to calm Sofia and Parker down while Angel was on her tablet ignoring the situation.
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    Font - The other video was one that Angel took. Sofia and Parker were yelling, throwing toys at each other, and Parker even called his sister a bad word. Angel was laughing as if it were funny and was again doing nothing to discipline Sofia or Parker. I wrote alongside the videos that I love Sofia and Parker as their aunt. But at the same time, I want a peaceful evening to celebrate my birthday. And I don't want to be stuck disciplining Sofia and Parker because clearly Angel won't. Angel ended u
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    Font - My parents told me that I was in the wrong for sharing those videos, because everyone's children have acted up and posting those videos didn't accomplish anything besides embarrassing Angel. They also said I could have compromised by having a "Nobody under 18" rule for my birthday dinner. Megan would not be able to attend but then Sofia and Parker wouldn't feel excluded. I do not see how that would be fair to myself or Megan. AITA For not wanting to make compromises for my birthday dinner
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    Font - Edit: Hello, I wanted to clarify some common concerns about the videos. Firstly, both me and Angel's Facebooks are private, so the only people who are able to view the videos are people who either I or Angel have added as friends. A stranger will not be able to see them. Angel had already posted the video that she recorded of Sofia and Parker misbehaving, so I merely linked it. Megan had already posted the video that she recorded, just on a different social media platform. I am uncertain
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the ase: 1. I posted videos of my niece and nephew misbehaving to explain why I did not want them at my birthday dinner. 2. My parents have told me that posting those videos accomplished nothing besides embarrassing my sister. And that I was being a bad family member by not trying to make compromises for my birthday dinner (such as not allowing anyone under 18, so my niece and nephew wouldn't feel excluded.)
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    Font - ResoluteMuse. 11 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [38] ΝΤΑ Angel attempted to get social sympathy and you smacked it right down. Good for you! 18.4k Share gramsknows 10 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA this 100 percent! Before you bad mouth someone make sure they don't have proof of what your doing. 4.1k Share ...
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    Font - o tmommy1118. 11 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [24] NTA. Angela went to the internet looking for sympathy and tried to have the internet gang up on you. You just presented the internet with all the facts instead of just Angela's side of the story. Besides, it is your birthday. 5.9k Share mmm-_-seriously . 8 hr. ago Not only that, she wanted to embarrass her and then when she was embarrassed - now it's a problem to post personal stuff? 862 Share
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    Font - Muffin Mama 11 hr. ago Partassipant [4] Definitely NTA she started it, you finished it. 2.8k Share Isthismytrashaccount · 7 hr. ago Snap snap snap 133 Share
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    Font - Ok-Cauliflower-9059 10 hr. ago. edited 10 hr. ago Partassipant [4] NTA: you finished it, you didn't start it. And your sister need to parent her kids, it's not their fault for them misbehaving 2.0k Share
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    Font - SugarFries 11 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [21] Nta she is a bad parent and needs to be shamed. Those kids are not prepped to live their lives as normal people. 1.3k Share
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