People Share The Moment They Realized They Married The Wrong Person

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Jun 30, 2023 8:00 PM EDT

Marriage isn't always all it's cracked up to be. It's magical and wonderful if you're with the right person, but it can be devastating if you make the wrong choice. The crazy thing about it is you can rarely gauge whether someone will be a good husband or wife before you're married. There are married couples who did everything right, waited an appropriate amount of time before getting married, lived together before getting married, and still ended up getting divorced. Sometimes, you don't realize a relationship does not work until you're extremely far into it. 

When a marriage is on the up and outs, lots of people have an "Ah Ha" moment where they realize precisely what is wrong with their partnership. Redditors who had such a moment took to Reddit to share the dreadful moments they realized they were in too deep with Mr. or Mrs. Wrong. 

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    Rectangle - When did you realize you married the wrong person?
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    Rectangle - mlerin 13h ● 1 Award One day I realized I had become a smaller version of myself. ... Reply 2.7k 2.7k
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    Font - Neverinfocus • 11h Engaged not quite married yet. When I had been on mandatory bedrest and caring for our infant son, after having emergency surgery for nearly bleeding to death after a miscarriage, and he came home from work and looked me dead in the face and said "why aren't the fucking dishes done?" Called my mom the next morning and told her I was leaving. Hightailed it out of there 2 weeks later. ... Reply 4k 4k
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    Font - Dash_Harber • 13h I realized that I was hiding good news from her because I knew she would make me feel bad about it. I hoped she was going to grow up and stop being selfish and childish. She never did. Reply 32.2k
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    Rectangle - dawn855 13h 2 Awards When I realized if we weren't dating I wouldn't have wanted to be his friend Reply 32.1k
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    Font - Worldly_Bag_5822 12h ● 2 Awards This post made me think of a quote by robin Williams "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone" Reply 30.2k
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    Font - 5ftGrinch - 12h When I lost twins and he dropped me off at the hospital to get an operation to have my babies removed. He dropped me off at the hospital bleeding and went for a party with his friends... Edit: fixed typo Reply 8.2k
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    Font - HarrargnNarg • 12h 5 Awards Not married but together for years. Got diagnosed with cancer and she kinda shut off. She then Decided to leave several months later. At an appointment I was officially 1yr clear, which is a milestone, I realised I was alone through a lot of it. She never wanted anything to do with it. Was a revelation to myself that the relationship break down wasn't all because of me. Got my 3 yr tests this weekend, blood tests and scans etc. Current GF is driving me and then
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    Rectangle - Hora_Moan 16h ● When he was messaging a side chick on our wedding day and boy did it go sideways from there Reply 12.6k
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    Font - Valiantlycaustic • 13h 3 Awards 6 months after our wedding when I found out about the emotional (he says only emotional but I'm pretty sure it was physical too) affair through text messages. He had sent his affair partner screenshots of my texts to him in which I was begging him to talk to me and tell me what was wrong. They both proceeded to make fun of my desperation to fix my marriage and his affair partner said something along the lines of "poor valiant, she doesn't know anything and
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    Font - No Nectarine6007 - 13h 1 Award When I came home from the ER after being diagnosed with a severe lung disorder, and she immediately left me with the kids so she could go out drinking with friends. Her exact words were "I need you to make them dinner, I'm running late to meet up with everyone" Reply 21.7k
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    Font - RalphFTW 13h ● When I got her to admit she was having an affair. 10 years married, 2 kids. What a mess. She followed it up a month or two later telling me she never loved a person like she does with new partner. So welcome to divorce land. Population, me. Reply 9.1k
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    Font - Winsdaddy 13h When she fucked a high-school flame for a year whilst hiding it and staying home on my single income. We weren't working. I knew that. I was trying to improve things, and we'd talked about it, but she somehow neglected to give me that detail. I'm not angry that she didn't love me. But fuck, just tell me. Don't do me dirty like that after thirteen years. ... Reply 5.7k 5.7k
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    Font - Far-Phone8791 • 12h I realized like 5 years into our 19-year marriage... but the nail that made me leave was when my ex said that our children hadn't EARNED his love, and that shook my whole foundation. Literally speechless for 2 days and then I started thinking, wondering if I had EARNED his love yet..and I couldn't stop those kind of thoughts...you don't earn love..it is freely given; especially to children... Edited for confusion: I realized early on he wasn't right for me, but we had
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    Font - metrology84. 12h On my wedding day. We were married at her Parents house, a beautiful place on a private country club. The entire day was all about her, and she spent more time hanging out with her friend and getting drunk than with me. I stayed busy visiting with all the guests during the day. After all the guests left and it was down to her parents and me, I find her passed out drunk upstairs in a bedroom. I picked her up and carried her to our car to take her home. Needless to say our
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    Font - Cobra-Serpentress 16h After the kid was born. Total shift. Turns out only I wanted to be a parent. ● Reply 11.5k
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    Font - Fridky. 13h The second he decided to hit me. We were married for less than a year, and no kids, thankfully. Took 2 months, and we were divorced. Reply 2.3k
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    Font - incredibleninja. 12h I waited on her hand and foot. Every night, brought her a tea. Checked every room to make sure there were no intruders, went to the store for her if she wanted a snack, etc. One day I was really sick with the flu and asked if she'd get me a Gatorade from the store. She was shocked that I asked and said, "absolutely not." Then I thought about it and realized that she had never complimented me, supported me, nurtured me, consoled me or showed any level of emotional care
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