'What can we do to get you to stay?': New manager tells worker they're useless, begs them to stay when they quit

Advertisement
  • 01
    Font - Quit my job after being told how terrible I was at it and they begged me to stay. I'm an Engineer In Training and graduated in April of 2020 during the worst of the pandemic. Nowhere was hiring but eventually got a junk drafting job and worked there for a year and change before calling around and finally finding a position open for an entry level engineer at a small county government. It has been a disaster. The previous department chief had retired and groomed another young engineer in t
  • 02
    Font - My position to him is to be his secretary. Anybody off the street could do what I do. My actual boss that I report to has continually told me "I see no improvement" and the little emperor continually tells me "I don't need robots. I need critical thinking." Everything I do is wrong and any input I have might as well be from a five year old.
  • 03
    Font - One day after I get reamed out by my boss I ask "is there any way we can work this out?" And responds "I don't know but work it out!" Didn't care to have a conversation. Just wanted to yell at me. It seriously has depressed me to the point where I started taking medication and seeing counseling because of how much of a failure this job makes me feel.
  • 04
    Font - I worked my ass off at a top public university, received a STEM degree and here I am. I can't even send an email right. A couple weeks ago I take the initiative to do some basic calculations on a project and little emperor flips his shit. "That's not what you were supposed to do! I don't have time for this! I have to call contractors and other departments." On and on until he realizes. In the 1.5 years I've been at this job I haven't even done some of the most basic tenets of the educated
  • 05
    Font - After some counseling I work up the courage to quit and find another job with a big pay raise. If there's no improvement and I can't do anything right I'm just wasting this departments time and I'll just try harder at my next job. I go to tell my boss I'm leaving and like a light switch. "Did you get an offer? What can we do to get you to stay? What can be improved? It's so hard to find qualified workers! You're young and educated we want to keep you!"
  • 06
    Font - Where the fox was all of this the last 1.5 years Jim? I thought you didn't care about this job and you won't be here forever. I thought you weren't seeing any improvement. I thought you didn't need this tension between me and little emperor. I asked you if there was anything that could be worked out and you brushed me off. But now that I'm leaving you want to have that conversation? During his fit I say exactly one thing. "I'm leaving because of personal reasons". Good fug luck and thanks
  • 07
    Font - PandemicTimes If county HR gives you an exit interview, feel free to light em up. If your really want to hit em, use HR lingo. Lack of mentorship, underutilized in my position, hostile work culture, one-way communication, punished for taking initiative, etc. Otherwise congrats on getting out before they crushed ALL of your will to live. 5.6k Danveen Reply Share 1.2k ●●● When I gave an honest exit interview, which was rather critical, HR ran it down to my boss and he called me into an offi
  • 08
    Font - ett23fyra Well done. Sorry you had to put up with such bad treatment. 197 Skillagogue OP Thanks 72 Reply Share Reply Share
  • 09
    Font - Gertrudethecurious Good luck at your new job. I would have been honest and told them why you were leaving. It doesn't benefit you now but truth is better in the long run. Reminds them of what they are missing out on by letting you go. Reply Share 218 iamcrunchytoo He was honest, his reasons are his and of no concern to the employer. 60 ●●● Reply Share
  • 10
    Font - SghettiAndButter I'm guessing you work as an MEP engineer, in also an EIT and taking my PE this year. Def get out of there and find a company that actually wants to train you and let you learn. My company was letting me do full designs my first year with some hand holding. 15 Reply Share Skillagogue OP Close. Don't want to dox myself though 4 Reply Share ...
  • 11
    Font - dot5621 Lesson learned. You spent least 1 year to many there. Also you don't get paid to be abused, always walk. 8 ↓ Reply Share

Tags

Scroll Down For The Next Article