'You are by far the worst boss I have ever had': Boss ignores employee's notice, then leaves a nasty phone call

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Aug 8, 2023 2:00 PM EDT

Never count on your boss to give you the emotional support that you need. This employee was having a particularly difficult time working with another manager, who happened to be responsible for numerous staff members quitting. When the Redditor finally had enough as well, they decided to give their notice to their boss, with whom they normally have a healthy and professional relationship. However, when that meeting finally happened, OP was disappointed to see that the boss did not seem to care one way or another. She didn't ask why the employee wanted to leave. She didn't have any questions for them. She just kept things clinical and curt. 

 

OP decided to stay for two more weeks until the problematic manager started to treat them like garbage again. At that point, OP decided that this day would be their last, which is what ultimately triggered their boss to suddenly step in and show her true colors. She called and expressed her disappointment in OP for leaving even if part of the reason was due to their mental health. It was a tone-deaf and emotionally upsetting phone call that motivated OP to send an extensive email outlining all of their boss and manager's wrongdoings. 

 

Keep scrolling below to see the scathing email and the reactions from folks in the comments. When you're finished, take a look at these office pranks to pull on your coworkers.

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    Wood - CAM MAR "My boss claimed she didn't know I resigned" & NAVY
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    Font - My boss claimed she didn't know I resigned, chewed me out on the phone. I put in my 2 weeks resignation a couple weeks ago. It very clearly and concisely stated that I am resigning from my position as and my last day would be When she received my on letter, we chatted in her office and she said I'm sorry I'm going through a tough time, and asked if I had any support at home. I said I did and I was sorry I had to leave.
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    Font - A big reason for leaving is due to another manager. I can't stand the way she treats people. Anyway I was ready to tell my boss that, but she didn't care to ask where I was going or what went wrong. I prompted her to talk about it be asking her is she had anything to ask me or talk about. She said no.
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    Font - So I awkwardly left her office, feeling that she didn't care to know what was going wrong in her store and why she is losing so many staff. Fast forward to the day before my last day. This other manager comes back from her vacation, and is treating me like Completely different person from how she left for her vacation,
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    Font - after finding out I had quit. I decided to make that day my last day, because I couldn't stand to be around her any longer. My anxiety was through the roof. I text my boss to let her know I left and decided to make today my last day. She calls me up, and tells me how disappointed in me she is and how she thought that it was just mental health and I just needed a break. She made me feel so worthless and that my time and efforts working there meant nothing. them.
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    Font - I made sure to email her company address my last words, incase she is trying to make it look like I walked out on her. I will not be made to feel worthless and like this is my fault. She had opportunities to talk to me, and she did not take them. She needs to take accountability here.
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    Font - Edit: I can no longer keep up with the comments. I just want to say thank you all for your support. It is very validating, because even though I have support from my peers and family that I'm doing the right thing leaving, it is different to hear it from strangers.
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    Font - Oldpuzzlehead. 17 hr. ago Sounds like you made the right decision in leaving that toxic place. Good job sticking up for yourself. 6.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Hops-Barley OP 16 hr. ago Funny thing is, the previous person in my position left for the same reasons. And went to the same place I'm about to go. I think we'll be friends lol. 3.6k Reply Share
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    Font - Red217 16 hr. ago Oh you definitely will!! That will be what bonds you.lol....the PTSD you got from that place 1.0k Reply
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    Font - Hops-Barley OP 16 hr. ago Hahaha I am looking forward to comiserating about it. 592 Reply
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    Font - dot5621 17 hr. ago I don't know how people do that. Seriously, someone starts talking on the phone... you hang the lup. 529 Reply Share
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    Font - Hops-Barley OP. 17 hr. ago It felt so ful She went from a person who I thought I could trust, to making me feel like a worthless waste of her time. so two faced. It still surprises me that there are up. people out there like that. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but people like her make it hard to do so sometimes. 250 Reply Share
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    Font - RevRagnarok 17 hr. ago at work These are one of the few times I advocate for an Exit Interview. Make sure HR knows with no ambiguity, you are leaving because of that woman. 996 Reply Share
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    Font - Hops-Barley OP. 17 hr. ago I just edited the post to include the fact that I used all of my anger energy to write her company email and explain to her how she f things up here, not me. I'll post the email in a comment. 447 Reply Share
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    Font - DocPeacock 16 hr. ago This sounds like a retail job. You tried to give notice, and that's great if you don't want to burn bridges, but you should feel absolutely no guilt from walking out of a place like that. 125 Reply Share
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    Font - Hops-Barley OP. 16 hr. ago You are correct, it is retail. Guilt is gone now thanks to my support group, but man did she make me feel terrible for a bit. 91 Reply Share
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    Font - series_hybrid 16 hr. ago '...She calls me up, and tells me how disappointed in me she is..." . Well, I am disappointed in you. You are by far the worst boss I have ever had. I am not leaving this job, I'm leaving you. [*shocked Pikachu face] 151 Reply Share
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    Font - Hops-Barley OP. 17 hr. ago Here's the email I wrote to my boss after the phone call. Through tears, I might add, so there are some typos. My partner said they add to the email to show how upset I was. Some blanks for privacy. I should also note that I drove to the next town for work, about 30 mins. There is another location in my town, but they were not hiring for the management position I wanted at the time I applied for the job. Anyway, the email:
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    Font - I am honestly baffled and hurt that you did not realize my letter was a resignation letter. It clearly stated that I am resigning from my position as _______________, and when my last day would be. how could you say that you just thought it was mental health and that you didn't know. how else did you know that I was going to [new job]? you knew I resigned, and now you are reacting at me because you didn't prepare well enough. Or because another [person previously in my position] left, and
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    Font - Your call made me feel like the last nine months of my time meant nothing to you. You turned from someone I thought I could trust, to someone that has just made me feel worthless. You said that you are disappointed that you spent money on training me? I Need to point out that the only reason you didn't send me to [town that I live in] for training is because you and/or [I manager lady] for some reason have it out for them, or you were afraid to lose me to them. So I went all the way to [f
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    Font - How do you think it made me feel when I came to your office to discuss my resignation, and you didn't care to ask what was going on or why I was leaving? even if you really did thing that "it was just my mental health" and that I "just needed a break". Someone who actually cared about me would have talked to me. I even asked you "do you have anything you want to ask me or talk about". In return, you said "no, do you have anything you want to ask me?" I'll tell you how I felt.
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    Font - I felt like you didn't care, or care to know. I felt like you wanted to turn a blind eye to the situation happening in your store, on why you are losing so many staff. Which is also part of the reason you are losing me. I can no longer work with [I I manager that treats employees like I can't bear the constant anxiety of what she is going to say or do each day. she manages the team in a way that is not okay with me. if you have a meeting with the staff you have left, they will agree and t
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    Font - For me, the moment I realized she wasn't a friend to me, is when she became emotionally manipulative towards me the week that [our late coworker] passed. After asking her multiple times if she is sure she didn't need me for the last half hour of the day, and her telling me over and over (coldly) to "just go", I left. then the next day telling me that "we need to talk" and "what I did yesterday was not okay" and that it was wrong of me to check in with my coworkers before asking her if she
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    Font - You are disappointed in me? I put my heart and soul into that department and my role until it wore me down. Yes, I am struggling with mental health. Yes, the position was difficult for me in ways, like keeping up with the [mandatory part of my position that I hate] knowing that I would fail the store standards if I didn't meet targets, gave me anxiety daily. So, that is a big reason why a decided to resign. I
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    Font - felt that I couldn't keep up with that part of the position, and while I thoroughly enjoyed the felt that I was starting to master the rest of it, I could not go on knowing that I dreaded this mandatory part of my job. Another reason I started looking for a new job, is because the commute was becoming too much for me. most days I don't get to settle down until about 8:30 (after driving, groceries, cooking, eating) and [my partner] is already tired by then because he was up at 5:30 with ou
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    Font - I am writing this to you because I will not be made to feel like this is my fault, or I am to blame. you had opportunities to talk to me, and you didn't take them. you need to take accountability here. Please don't email me back. I am not looking to talk anything out, and I have nothing more to say. Goodbye, and i hope things get better for you. 161 Reply Share
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