23 Moments When Women Realized They Needed Higher Standards

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elina lee
Aug 27, 2023 1:00 PM EDT

If there is one thing about dating when you are over 30, you learn to hold higher standards for relationships, vacations, and life in general. At one point or another, you just become sick and tired of wasting your time on immature men who can't figure out whether they are ready to commit or not. At one point or another, you realize that this is not the type of love you deserve and that there are greater things out there. At one point or another, you realize that asking for kindness, respect, and consideration in a relationship is not too much, you might just be asking the wrong person. 

After all, having high standards reflects that you have a strong sense of self-respect. self-worth, and deserve to be treated like the queen you are. With that being said, today we're bringing you a bittersweet Reddit thread featuring stories of exact moments when women realized they needed higher standards. And so that is what they did. 

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/nocumprincess 3 days ago What made you realise you need to raise your standards?
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  • 02
    Font - Panta Rheia 3 days ago ● My ex dumping me to pursue the poly lifestyle. To each their own, but I am worthy of a FULL partner, not a fraction of one. I'll never take any less than that, ever again. 1.4k Share
    via u/PantaRheia
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    Font - pro-karyota 3 days ago ● Was seeing someone regularly, exclusively but casually. Planned to grab dinner and asked him to make the reso, double checked like twice that he did (my ex of 3.5yrs would've likely forgotten) and he was like yes of course I did, I said I would??? He literally said himself 'the bar is on the floor' the way I was pleasantly surprised he actually made a dinner reservation. That was the first step in not dating losers 1.2k Reply Share
    via u/pro-karyota
  • 04
    Font - MauiMoon__. 3 days ago "Your partner is a reflection of how much you love yourself." I saw that quote and never resonated with something so much in my life. Because obviously that meant I didn't love myself at all. 1.0k Reply Share
    via u/MauiMoon__
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    Font - polarisborealis. 3 days ago. edited 2 days ago I've always had high standards for others, but not for myself. What made me realize I needed to treat myself better was the moment I went into the bathroom to have a panic attack at work. I didn't tell anyone, but I knew I needed to start eating better, going to bed at a decent time, being less on my phone, drinking less coffee, working out, and above all, leave a relationship with an amazing person who didn't
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  • 06
    Font - make me or let me make him happy. I didn't want more years of the same life, that's what made me raise my standards and I won't lower them ever again. 491 Reply Share
    via u/polarisborealis
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    Rectangle - GalaxiGazer 3 days ago ● when I took a step back and studied the character of the kind of men I had been attracting: broken, unavailable, low-vibration, low-effort, etc.
    via u/GalaxiGazer
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    Font - I recognized that there was some serious work within me that I needed to do and got right to it. And just like that ... such men are not a problem anymore. 448 Reply Share ●
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  • 09
    Font - still_on_a_whisper 3 days ago When my therapist said "every day I look for your name in the newspaper to see if you turned up dead."
    via u/still_on_a_whisper
  • 10
    Font - thelookofplasma. 3 days ago I was tired of begging to get treated better/ having to "prove myself" worthy
    via u/thelookofplasma
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    Font - JessieMoodyBooty 2 days ago I was living with him in the countryside and he could get by ignoring me for days, and he never took me out for a date when we were living together...so your comment reminded me of him.
    via u/JessieMoodyBooty
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    Font - FigLower715. 3 days ago A colleague at work who asked me my opinion on certain things. Topics my partner at the time had never asked me.
    via u/FigLower715
  • 13
    Font - railedtoot 3 days ago My dad. How he treated my mum, sisters and I showed me alot in what to expect from a man. I finally broke up with my manipulative toxic ex and was very lucky enough to find someone who treats me like a princess exactly how my dad always did
    via u/railedtoot
  • 14
    Font - aa anonymouswr1ter 3 days ago I am so much more happy when I'm single and I now realize that in the past I was doing everything I could to make their life better and they did nothing to make mine better
    via u/anonymouswr1ter
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    Font - X Unitys BlueT s. 3 days ago A few months After my divorce I got a FWB and he had me doing wifely duties at fwb status and it wasn't until I saw him messaging other girls (which is fine) but I wasn't allowed to talk to other boys AND I was basically acting like a wife to him. It's like I was in a trance and it slapped me in the face
    via u/X UnitysBlueT
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    Font - Ghenghis-Chan . 3 days ago When I looked through all our messages and realized I was the one always messaging first, always organizing dates or just seeing how the other person was doing. Even just simple stuff like asking how my day went. I realized I was the only putting effort into the relationship.
    via u/Ghenghis-Chan
  • 17
    Gesture - princedubacon Dating a man with questionable hygiene in my late twenties. It wasn't my job to educate or to << save >> him. ● 3 days ago
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  • 18
    Font - dozendozens 3 days ago He brought me bananas from hos grocery run "because he knew I like them". It was the nicest thing he had done in a few years and I was so thankful and excited, until it hit me a minute later... I just got excited like a puppy. Over bananas.
    via u/dozendozens
  • 19
    Font - ModernCoquette 3 days ago ● Feeling ready to have a child. I am deciding on the future father of my children.
    via u/ModernCoquette
  • 20
    Font - really OMG 3 days ago When I realized I was asking for the bare minimum in a relationship, and he was stunned, said it's too much work.
    via u/really_OMG
  • 21
    Font - FarFarSector 3 days ago ● My mother asked me "Do you have fun with him?" It made me realize the relationship had soured slowly. I had spent so much time prioritizing his happiness I forgot my own.
    via u/FarFarSector
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    Font - postcardpirate 3 days ago When I thought of what relationship advice I'd give my future children and it was to do better than me. I realized I should do better for me.
    via u/postcardpirate
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    Font - Triggered Quilt. 3 days ago When I stopped caring about male attention and focused on how a partner can add and uplift my life rather than consume it. Led to the the best relationship I've ever been in.
    via u/TriggeredQuilt

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