Everyone wants to be able to call themselves an honest person, but when the truth can hurt relationships and feelings, sometimes it's harder than it seems to be straight up with someone. Redditor u/Mysterious_Prior7438 recently explained to r/amitheasshole that whenever she goes on family outings that include her daughter-in-law, Beth, the whole day inevitably comes to a halt because Beth gets to exhausted to continue. It all came to a head when OP decided to go out with her daughters and purposely exclude Beth. When Beth called OP up asking why she wasn't invited, OP decided to be brutally honest with her, admitting it was because of her weight. Beth was predictably upset, which caused OP to turn to r/amitheasshole.
Was OP unnecessarily insensitive, or just being honest? Redditors weighed in.
"I'm so tired of going somewhere and half the time is spent sitting on a bench. I want to do things not sit around" —OP
"You would have been better to just say this. After all, it's not ultimately about her weight, it's about her behaviour (which is indirectly caused by her weight. Probably.) You could have directly addressed the behaviour without the fat shaming. She's not really 'too fat', she's 'too inactive'. Won't call you TA though because you have a good point. Just could have delivered it better." —u/fly1away
"My daughters have done that before… it not getting through. I am also sick of lying/coddling to her. We all know it is her weight. I was already pissed that she called asking why I went out without her, then being called a liar. The truth seems so much better in that moment" —OP
"I was annoyed by that. My first thought was apparently I can't do things without her with my kids" —OP
"I truly do love all our kids SO's but sometimes, I want to just catch up with my kids at lunch or wherever. I don't need approval from anyone to do that. I would be less than thrilled if they demanded to know why they were not included in an activity. And then called me a liar! Oh hell no. You tried to give a kind response. It didn't work because Beth chose to push the issue & wanted the truth. Well … she got it." —u/Alarming_Reply_6286
"To be Frank it's not a matter of weight, it's a matter of physical activity. One of my friends is tiny and she couldn't keep up with a walk on the beach. People have different levels of fitness and comfort with how long/fast they want to go. If going hiking, it's always nice to go to a hike with someone of your level (whether that be slow or fast)." —u/OGMWhyDoINeedOne
"The grandson is great, he is invited to family friendly events. No 8 year old wants to go window shopping or be stuck at a fancy restaurant for the night" —OP