'If someone tells you they had 10 crazy roommates [...] they are the crazy roommate': 30+ red flags to watch out for when choosing who to live with

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    Tableware - "They have no sense of personal space whatsoever" "They leave dishes lying around"
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    Font - r/AskReddit Posted by u/Shallow What are 'red flags' for roommates? 4.0k Comments
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    Font - juicius. Mom moves him in while he watches. Mom sets his room up while he stares into his phone. Mom shops grocery and cooks it for him while he complains he's hungry. Mom fills the fridge with pre-cooked meals while he eats. Mom cleans up everything and leaves. Congratulations! Now you're his mom.
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    Font - Eshlau Oh, man. I have a couple, all gained from painful experience: • If someone, before they live with you, constantly comments on how clean your/someone's place is, when in reality it's just normal and not that clean at all, take this as a sign that you have very different standards of cleanliness.
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    Font - • A little more personal, but- if the person has a history of many friendships lasting less than one year (without excuses like moving or switching jobs), or seems to have a long trail of people that they no longer speak to (or all their old friends are described as crazy psychos), or seems like the greatest person in the world but inexplicably has no friends whatsoever.
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    Font - • If someone tells you who they are, listen. For example, when my old roommate said casually in conversation, "Yeah, my mom and my sisters don't think that I'm capable of feeling empathy, like I'm a sociopath. They used to say that a lot." The same roommate also once told me that she's never felt guilt before, and didn't know what it felt like (she's almost 30). She also had a restraining order served on her a couple days after she moved in. RED FLAGS.
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    Font - If friends of your potential roommate come to you and ask you if you've really thought this through, and mention that maybe you don't know this person as well as you think you do, listen to those people.
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    Font - • If you've noticed that this person doesn't seem to respect the property or personal space of others. Those are the biggest ones I've experienced. 4.7k Share
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    Font - HarrysonTubman In my experience, if you live with a stranger, than sometimes there's a mutual understanding to be on good behavior. You may never be close, but it may not be an awful situation, either. Sometimes it doesn't work this way, but in my experience it does a surprising amount of time.
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    Font - If you live with a friends, expect every one of their flaws to go up by a multiple of at least 5x. They always are down to drink? Guess what, your house is going to be a party house. Is their car a mess? Guess what, your house is going to be a disaster? Is their homework always late? Don't be surprised if the rent is late, too.
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    Font - And with family, make that 10 - 20x. I knew a guy who always on the lazier side that moved in with his cousin. He then proceeded to stop paying rent and looking for a job. Be very cautious moving in with family.
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    Font - Edit: I realize the example I gave don't always correlate, such as people with a messy car having a clean house. My point was just that whatever character flaws they have usually become exaggerated as a roommate. 3.1k Share
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    Font - lanismycousin. If their smell enters the room before they do and sticks around after they leave. 2.1k Share
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    Font - ostentia Similar to a romantic partner, if all of their previous roommates were crazy/inexplicably hated them/forced them to move out/sociopaths worshippers, that's a HUGE red flag. 2.0k ↓ Share
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    Font - hellomina If someone decides the best way to communicate is via passive aggressive post it notes placed strategically about the apartment, then you should consider finding a new place. I'm talking about you, Shadi. 1.4k ↓ Share
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    Font - CTHULHU 2024 CthuluSpecialk If a potential roommate says they expect the apartment to stay presentably clean that's a good thing; but if that potential roommate says that and lives in a sty, run away.
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    Font - Happened to me and turns out the guy never had to lift a finger cause his mom, and then ex-gf would always clean for him so he expected things to be clean, but didn't expect to have to contribute and would give me attitude when I tried to push him to do his share.
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    Font - His retort, "Dude, with all due respect, I agreed to live with you so you should appreciate it by doing the cleaning." My retort, "Dude, with all due respect, grow the Qu up, or move the Dout."
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    Font - I'm ashamed to say that he got another girlfriend and she did all of his cleaning. We stopped fighting about it, and they are still together so... great friend... O roommate. I'd live with her again though; she liked to bake. 1.2k Share
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    Font - Sir_Jorbxnor If your cat loves them more than it loves you. 1.1k Share
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    Font - [deleted] When they bring their dates back to your room without telling you in advance, then lock you out in the hallway so they can have privacy. ↑ 1.0k↓ Share
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    Font - [deleted] Looking for a pen in my underwear drawer. 881 Share
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    Font - Sumtinkwrung Draws a line across the room. "This is my space, and that is your space" 786 Share
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    Font - laterdude Unable to hold a conversation that doesn't involve a quote from a Will Ferrell movie. 717 ↓ Share
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    Font - tjpj1919 Zero sense of humour ↑ 465 ↓ Share
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    Font - [deleted] Unable to smalltalk/understand social cues. Can barely vocalize. Unwilling to clean and on their keep their side of the room. 334 Share
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    Font - for diaperedwomar Doesn't have a job and isn't looking for one Their home or room is a big mess This is based on my personal experience. 313 Share
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    Font - Walterod If someone tells you they roommate, had a crazy they had a crazy roommate. If someone tells you they had 10 crazy roommates in a row? They are the crazy roommate. This rule applies to ex's as well. ↑ ↓ 299 Share
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    Font - frustratedomega While talking to you looks at their ringing phone and says "I'm going to ignore that it's just a collections agency" 264 264 Share
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    Font - throwmeawayy342. anxiously scrolls through comments to see if I'm a bad roommate worries about my cleaniless worries cause I don't have any really close friends in college right now worries because I don't really have a life outside my own 254 Share
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    Font - foreverburning "I like to party occasionally, hope that doesn't bother you" means "I play loud music and have people over all the time." 241 ↓ Share
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    Font - [deleted] ● ● ● They have no sense of personal space whatsoever. They leave dishes lying around. If they want something, they could care less about interrupting you to get it. They bathe with the door open. They threaten physical violence when annoyed. • They're mean to people in the service industry. Cats are terrible roommates and one of mine is really mean to the vet.

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