10+ Women Who Were Sure They Didn't Want Children Share What Made Them Change Their Minds and Why They Ultimately Decided on Motherhood

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    Font - Posted by u/itsafilm 1 day ago Women who were sure they didn't want children and later changed their minds, why did you change your mind?
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    Font - Cus indicatprincess. 1 day ago A good relationship.
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    Font - turkeyganja 1 day ago This!! With my first child I was 23 and my partner was extremely abusive.. emotionally, financially and finally physically before we separated. I went 10 years thinking I never wanted to be pregnant again.. until I met my partner a few months ago.
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    Font - He has no children but wants to be a father one day and is amazing to my child. Now we're talking about having children in the future and I am so excited to be a mom again.
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    Font - katemcma 2 hr. ago Yep- I couldn't see a future with children in my life until I met him. No other relationships before him provided that. I don't even have kids yet and I already love them so much.
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    Font - ● gravetinder 1 day ago • edited 23 hr. ago I didn't get a choice; I had to change my mind. Birth control fail and abortion ban. This is really difficult for me to talk about without guilt, because I've really grown into being a mother and it's made me my best self. I love my child more than
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    Font - anything. But the choice wasn't mine, and if I talk about my "journey", I'm afraid I'll just be taken as the poster child as to why abortion bans should be supported. Everywhere in my state and town I see women popping up with unplanned pregnancies but no one wants to say they didn't want their baby. This law rides on this social norm.
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    Font - Smart_cannoli. 1 day ago I never wanted, was married since I was 22, but started changing my mind after I was 30. At the end I realized that the reasons I didn't want children weren't applicable to me anymore. I was
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    Font - parentified growing up (like really parentified not just had to babysit by siblings, I was solely responsible for them and house chores ever since I was 10 and raised them) I was abused, I was poor.... And in my adult life I did therapy, I got far away from my parents, I
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    Font - was working in a nice career and had financial stability. I had a great partner that I knew it would be a great father, even a great co parent if needed. I realized that I didn't want kids because of my parents and I was letting them dictate my life....
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    Font - Anyways, in the end, I had this little perfect family (me my husband and dog) and I wanted another person to love, and to take care... I had my baby at 32, mid pandemic, but it was the best thing I've ever did! I would do it all over again. I ove her so much, and seeing how she is growing
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    Font - to be this amazing little person, that is funny, caring, and that she feels loved and safe with me, makes me the happiest I've ever been. I feel like I used my 20s to heal from my childhood trauma, to work and earn money, and to party...it was fun.. for sure but I am still
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    Font - having fun with my new little family, we still party, go out to nice restaurants, moved countries, but with another little person tagging along
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    Font - Amlostsendhelppls My husband loves kids. He never pressured me to have kids and understood that I was perfectly fine without having kids, but this is a man who would go babysit his best friend's new born daughter 3 times a week during weekday afternoons (own business WFH). ● 1 day ago
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    Font - Also when our friends had newborns, he'd want to visit them at the hospital and get so excited when he gets to carry them and always asks for pictures to be taken. With older kids at a party he would spend a good hour chasing the kids and throwing them around. Always suggesting we prepare gifts for
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    Font - kids we were visiting because he wanted to see them happy. At some point I felt like if we didn't have a child of our own, it would be doing him a great disservice. We now have one and one on the way, and he treats our child like they are godsent, and consistently handles his share of parenthood
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    Font - Ghenghis-Chan 1 day ago ● Honestly when I first realized I was a lesbian I never saw older queer families, so it just seemed like something I would never be able to do, even though it was something you'd occasionally hear about, it just
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    Font - seemed so far away, so intangible. As I got older I think I just kind of tried to convince myself that that was something I was okay with. It wasn't until I met an older gay couple with children that I was like "wow this is something I could actually do."
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    Font - cathatesrudy 1 day ago I have no good explanation. Kids annoyed me and seemed like a money sink and a hassle and I never knew how to talk to or interact with them even from a young age - to the point that in high school I was adamant that as soon as I could convince a doctor I was
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    Font - going to get a hysterectomy and then wet preserve my uterus so anytime anyone would ask when I was going to have kids I could show them my "child" Then sometime in my mid 20s when people in my life started having babies and I got to be around women who were pregnant and subsequently
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    Font - spend more time with those babies some switch just flipped and I was like... "having a kid wouldn't be terrible." My first was unplanned, though not unexpected. The second was planned, and I got my tubes tied because at the time we couldn't fathom the expense of more than two, though a few years out we
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    Font - realized we now could have which is bittersweet. It turns out that if you raise your kids as though they are people they're way easier to talk to and interact with, so all the hang ups I had as a teen
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    Font - about not knowing what to do with kids or how to talk to them stemmed from the fact that I'd grown up seeing adults do baby talk or coddle their kids and THATS the part that wasn't for me.
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    Font - na PinkBubblyLife. 1 day ago I realized I'm not like my parents and I wasn't going to parent like my parents. And I'm not. I'm a very different kind of parent than they were and I LOVE being a mom.
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    Font - WhiteDiabla 1 day ago ● Seeing my partners family interact with each other. I grew up in a severely dysfunctional family with addiction issues. I thought that that was the norm. It isn't. We have a kid now.
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    Font - ● PhysicalMuscle6611 1 day ago The thought of losing my mom. She was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer a couple of years ago and over the course of being by her side during her ongoing treatment it made me realize how important family is, and how I want to have that relationship with someone.
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    Font - Cancer sucks, but it did force my family to focus on the important things and one of those things for me was that I might lose this enormous piece of my family one day, but I can have a family of my own and carry my mother with me every day by being a mother myself.
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    Font - kittyxandra 23 hr. ago I learned to love myself. As a little girl I loved playing with baby dolls, and wanted to be a mom when I got older. In my teen years I started to struggle with mental health problems. I told myself that I was too messed up to ever have a family and that I didn't deserve it. My parents also raised me in
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    Font - a difficult situation, and I didn't want to be like them. I convinced myself that having a family would be selfish. I eventually got help for my mental health issues. Once I got through that, I focused on goals and thought about what I truly want in life. I realized that it is okay to be a little bit "selfish" and that my wants
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    Font - matter just as much as anyone else's. I'm now in the process of building a strong relationship with my partner. Hopefully within the next few years we will be ready to start a family. It's something we're both looking forward to.

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