'You cannot come on my honeymoon!': Overbearing mother-in-law tries to mess with her son's romantic honeymoon with new wife

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    "NO! You cannot come on my honeymoon, Mom!"
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    AITAH for telling my fiancé's mother why she can't come on our honeymoon Advice Needed
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    My future MIL has a very unhealthy relationship with my fiancé, we are LC with her since he says she makes him feel uncomfortable by her constantly hugging and kissing him and also using him as her therapist (she's been doing this since he was young, using him to help her solve her adult problems).
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    She does this thing where she copies what I do to my fiancé, for instance, if I kiss his cheek she'll find a way to do the same. I thought I was going crazy when I first noticed she does this so I tested it out by running my fingers through his hair and
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    she did the same thing. My fiancé is in therapy and says they have an emotionally inc ous relationship which is t x c for them both so he's trying to set boundaries with her so they can have a healthy relationship. So far it's not really working since
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    she doesn't understand why she can't force him to hug and kiss her or use him to help with her issues anymore. She cornered me at my future brother in law's housewarming party and told me she feels like her and my fiancé's relationship isn't the
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    same anymore, so she'd like to come on our honeymoon because he'll be off work and they can talk things through and bond. Obviously I said no that's not happening and this grown woman was genuinely shocked I
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    said no. She kept asking why, what are you guys going to be doing that her and future FIL can't be with us. She got the idea from Facebook apparently people have honeymoons with their friends now. I said we
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    haven't had two weeks to just be together since my fiancé got promoted at work a year ago, we're both looking forward to being together. She said why can't we all just be together, we won't be all that busy since we've been to the country we're
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    honeymooning in countless times, we've seen all the tourist attractions etc so why can't she come. She kept pestering me so I flat out told her I'd be having s x with her son all day everyday, every inch of that villa so we won't really have time for
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    all the things she wants to do with my fiancé. I thought this would make her uncomfortable and she'd realise how crazy her request is. I was wrong she said s x isn't that exciting for us to spend all our honeymoon doing
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    it, "there's only so many positions" she said. She said some other things which still make me cringe a week later. Future MIL offered a comprise, she'd come week two of our honeymoon and bond with her son since he has a high stress.
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    job and is constantly working. She even said we can be as loud as we want, they won't mind. I told her we'd just like to be alone enjoying each other's company, we can plan a holiday next year.
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    Future FIL called me to personally ask that they come even for 5 days so they can bond with my fiancé, they used to be so close. I explained that we would be busy and we could plan a holiday next year. He seemed to understand but then
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    messaged me at 1AM today to call me an AH who doesn't care I'm ruining a mother and son's relationship. Am I an AH? Future SIL called me to tell me her mother's been crying for days because of what I said to her,
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    she says to avoid more drama I should just give in because her mother will make my life a living h I. Should I?
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    graphixgurl747 10 days ago This chick is setting herself up for the seven gates of h I. Unless they live thousands of miles away the MIL will literally be butting into their lives.
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    Ihateyou1975 10 days ago If you ever give in to this woman, she will never quit. When she asks again, clearly state "asked and answered". Walk away. Over and over. She can cry all she wants. No one ever died from crying.
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    iiiBansheeiii 10 days ago OP and fiance are going to have to be very careful with what MIL knows about the honeymoon, because permission or not, MIL is going to show up.
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    katepig123 10 days ago I would refuse to marry him if he didn't cut her off entirely and permanently. The ick factor here is just off the charts! I would insist we move to a new location and she not be given the address. Preferably several states away.
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    Chloe_Phyll 4 days ago Agree 100%. Marrying this guy with the current situation would be madness. Can you imagine this MIL with grandchildren!
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    ugghyyy 10 days ago So it's obvious they're showing up at whatever honeymoon spot they've selected. The mil is unwell and her enablers don't want to deal with her. I would not look forward marrying into this family
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    aristoshark · 9 days ago Ridiculous. Change your honeymoon destination and don't tell anyone where you'll be going.
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    KickIt77 10 days ago NTA. Your fiance needs to lay a line without mincing words "No, you are absolutely not invited on our honeymoon. You are crossing boundaries. I will not discuss further."
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    Honestly, this would have me wanting to elope, change accomodations to ensure they don't show up, and go no contact for a year or 2 and maybe you can reset. Especially if you are planning on kids, SET BOUNDARIES NOW.
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    Unabashed_Binger. 10 days ago Why are they asking OP? They should be asking their son! Let him say no to them. They're setting her up to be the gatekeeper because they want to act like she's the reason he's setting boundaries.
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    stevyoo7. 8 days ago When people ask me wrI never ever want to get married..I reffer them to this show...

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