"I have nothing left to eat": Girlfriend Stashes Locked Boxes of Food Around the House After Boyfriend Consistently Eats It All

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Dec 26, 2023 5:00 PM EST

It is not a joke when people say one of the biggest tests of how strong a relationship is, is moving in together. Each person in a relationship has their own baggage they bring when they move to a new place, especially with a partner. And I'm not talking only about the physical baggage, even though that is a struggle of its own, I'm talking about the emotional baggage, the set of ways they were brought up by, and anything else they discover is important to them in their own space. 

Sometimes even the smallest of things can seem like a big deal. When I moved in with my boyfriend, I found out how important it is to me that the sink will be clear of dishes right after we finish a meal, but my boyfriend wouldn't mind leaving the dirty dishes in the sink even for two days. That's just one example, each of us has countless other preferences, some silly and some really important to us. So what do you do when you can't find a middle ground?

Like this Reddit story, where a girlfriend reaches a breaking point when her boyfriend won't stop eating her food. Which I know might sound kind of funny, but personally I could relate. He constantly eats her food, stuff she buys specifically for herself since she is "a picky eater", and continues to leave his own food untouched. She went as far as trying to stash her food in locked boxes around the house so he wouldn't be able to find it.

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  • 01
    My (31 F) boyfriend (33 M) won't stop eating my food
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    My partner and I have been living together for two years now and over time it has become an increasing fight over him eating my food without asking. I am a very picky eater so there are few things I enjoy and I also do not buy a lot of
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    groceries for myself as is (because money). Despite the cabinets and fridge being 95% his food/drinks--I often go to eat my own and find that it is gone or half gone. It's upsetting to me because a.) he has an abundance of his own things he buys
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    that I don't touch (because I AM so picky) and b.) when I've offered him a share of my food he will say "no thanks" but then eat it in complete secrecy behind my back? Every fight I point this out and try to establish a
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    boundary of "I dont have much, just please just ask me if you can have some and not eat the entire thing without telling me" and he agrees thats a reasonable request and
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    promises "on everything he loves" that it won't happen again.... but then it does. It's escalated to the point I've been researching lock boxes to hide somewhere in my house just to stash
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    the few snacks I do buy because his greatest offenses occured this month when he ate a box of cakes that was intended to be my mother's christmas present and today, on Christmas, when he forgot to get me candy for my own stocking, instead
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    of eating the abundance I bought and put in his--he chose to eat the one piece of candy I had in the house that I bought for myself two days ago. I found out when I went to eat it myself (since I was craving candy and did not get any for Christmas.)
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    Ive suggested in the past that I can keep my things separate to remove all temptation but he gets angry and says that I shouldnt have to do that because "he has a problem" but really, I'm suspicious he says this
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    because he doesnt want to be kept from my food. I'm so tired of fighting--but cannot find a good compromise and am looking for advice. Anytime I bring it up among friends they laugh and say
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    "that's a part of being a couple." but in this instance where things are NOT balanced since I cannot eat anything of his--it's starting to drive a massive wedge in our relationship and I'm reaching my breaking point.
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    TL;DR -- Picky eater living with boyfriend who won't stop eating her limited amounts of food leaving the cabinets and a fridge that are full of his own food untouched despite requesting numerous times that he ask before he takes. How can we compromise?
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  • 13
    Mollzor 1 day ago Don't live with guys who gets angry at you for suggesting solutions, it's not safe.
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    sissyjones 22 hr. ago There is a post where the OP did get a lock box for their food and their partner LOST THEIR i MIND and destroyed the box. I don't have a link but after that. got crazy
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    Far-Cup9063 - 19 hr. ago And I think this is about a lot more than food. the Boyfriend seems to be downright obstinate about eating her food.
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    Astriafiamante - 21 hr. ago This is NOT about food. This is about total disregard and disrespect of a partner.
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    It's not right that you have to fight with the person who should be supporting you. All. The. Time.
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  • 18
    I would seriously examine this entire relationship. Do you really want to police his action all the time?
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  • 19
    grayblue_grrl 1 day ago He doesn't care about you. He doesn't care about your feelings, or if you go hungry. He likes making you frustrated and angry because he likes the power of the fight.
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    Interesting-Moose527 · 1 day ago Makes one wonder what other disrespectful slights he does to you. Besides, conveniently forgetting to buy you candy for Christmas and eating the only
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    candy in the house that you will eat. I think you have an overall larger problem with him besides his eating your food
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    miflordelicata · 22 hr. ago "That's part of being a couple. No its not. Being a a healthy couple means you respect each other. He doesn't have respect for you. 11
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  • 23
    oldcreaker 20 hr. ago Get the lock box - and put it on the kitchen counter with a huge sign that says "stop stealing my food!". It will be a great conversation piece when friends come over.
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  • 24
    Better yet you can get a much bigger lockbox - it's called your own apartment.
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  • 25
    onedayatatime08 - 21 hr. ago Start asking him for money to replace the things he takes without asking. Or tell him that he needs to replace it.
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  • 26
    You should not have to store your food separately or lock it away. I'd much sooner break up with someone that is THAT inconsiderate towards me.
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