'After the reception, he ghosted me...': Groomzilla excludes groomsman after refusing to sing the bride's favorite song

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Sienna Varady
Jan 2, 2024 1:00 PM EST

It is a beautiful day today! The birds are chirping, the sun is shining, and I get to cover a groomzilla story for the very first time! Not just any groomzilla, but a groomzilla that will make all bridezillas pale in comparison. 

This is the tale of a committed groomsman who also happens to be the groom's closest friend. For some background, the wedding band was not able to play the song that was meant to be played as the bride walked down the aisle since the lead vocalist became ill on the day of the wedding. Here, OP comes to the rescue by offering to sing in place of the lead singer. Honestly, he would have loved to perform the original song, but his voice was simply unsuitable for the role. Therefore, after careful consideration, OP settled on a different song that he knew the couple enjoyed as well as occasionally listened to. But while the bride was thrilled with the music selection and delighted that everything went according to plan, the groom hated the song and the performance and was unhappy with the outcome overall. Whoa, what a selfish dude! But don't worry about him—read the story below if you're interested in finding out what happened next! After you're through, check out the story of a sister-in-law who modifies the bride's wedding gown without her consent here!

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    "He totally shut me out after the reception..."
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    AITA for changing the walk down song at a wedding?
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    I (23M) love to sing. I'm not American Idol good but I'm a considered a ringer at karaoke night by my friends. I was a groomsman for my best friend "Travis" (23M) wedding to "Taylor" (23F). Taylor has been the exact opposite of a bridezilla. The only non
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    negotiable thing she had was that she did not want a track playing when she walked down the aisle, and wanted a live band. A reasonable request. They had Enchanted by Taylor Swift as their walk down song, as it was the song he proposed to her during one of our karaoke nights.
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    Well day of the wedding comes, and the lead singer of the band ends up passing out during rehearsal. She had to leave to go to the hospital. As Travis couldn't see her, I had to go inform Taylor through a bridesmaid. Bridesmaid comes back and states
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    that while Taylor was Empathetic and she understood, she was still adamant about no tracks. She asked if I was willing to sing in place, but I told her that my voice wouldn't fit the song she wanted. Bridesmaids asked me to do whatever I needed to do and try to make something work
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    I spoke with the band, and I asked if they were able to learn "True" by Ryan Cabrera, a relatively simple song with an hours notice, and a song I know my voice can handle. They were willing to and after a quick readjustment rehearsal with those
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    actually walking down the aisle, minus Taylor, wedding happened. I perform the song, and although somewhat confused, Taylor seemed very happy. I then take place in my position as a groomsman.
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    At the photos portion, Taylor came up to me and jumped me with a hug, thanking me for stepping in. She asked why I changed the song but after a brief explanation of how my voice wouldn't have worked, she understood, and said she was happy I chose that song.
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    Travis, on the other hand, was not very talkative to me. After the reception and following days, he ghosted me. After finally having enough I went over to his place to talk this out. This is where all went loose.
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    He was very upset with me for changing the song, knowing it was Taylor's favorite song and I couldn't have s ked it up for literally 5 minutes. I defended by stating the following: 1. I was following Taylor's ONE request for no track music. 2. My
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    voice would have made any of the video footage taken ruined because the song didn't fit my voice. 3. I chose another song that I KNOW he and Taylor loved and that I could actually sing. He basically removed all that by stating that I should have done what
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    was requested in the first place. As soon as I mentioned how Taylor didn't mind, he kicked me out. Several people are divided. Our friend group, aka the groomsmen, are taking Travis' side and stating how I'm the 1. The bridemaids, Taylor's
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    friends, are defending me for choosing a song that I could sing and was still wedding appropriate. Taylor has remained silent about this, as she is Travis' wife, but know I did what I could. I genuinely don't know what to make of everything. AITA??
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    thesongsinmyhead 2 days ago NTA you checked with the bride. She was happy in the end. You couldn't sing the other song. As a singer I absolutely won't sing a song that I can't sing. Not only would it be
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    embarrassing for you but it would be awful for everyone else to listen to. Does he not understand that if you can't sing a song you can't just "skit up for 5 min"? What in the world does that even mean?
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    JunkerPilot 2 days ago So you came in clutch to save the day at the eleventh hour to save the bride's moment. The bride loved it. ... and your friend is mad about that.
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    Here's my suggestion: call the bride and ask her if she knows what is really bugging your friend, and maybe help broker peace. If he's still moody... record yourself singing the song
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    he wanted, as badly as it sounds, put it on a drive, and give it to your friend in a gift basket along with a tube of Preparation H to sooth his b thurt.
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    Creepy_Ad_3132 · 2 days ago NTA at all. You did the best you could, given the tight time constraints. You were thoughtful and considerate in choosing a song that both felt connected to.
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    You weren't the paid singer. You had stepped in and kindly saved the song for your friends. It isn't your fault that the groom is being ungrateful.
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    mpjjpm 2 days ago Aficionado [10] NTA. You went above/beyond the duties of a groomsman and did the best you could under the circumstances. Travis is an idiot if he's letting this ruin a good friendship and his memories of his own wedding
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    Regular_Swordfish_85. 2 days ago Partassipant [4] INFO: why were u responsible for the band, and why it was up to u to figure something to solve the issue?
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    -> S SameBase9575 OP. 2 days ago I did say I was willing to fill in, but I couldn't get the song down. That's when I was given the go ahead to fill in. I went to the other member of the band, the guitarist, and asked if he was willing to learn the song. He was.
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