‘This is why I lied to you’: Woman lies to her family about buying a country house so they won't take advantage of it, they find out and demand a key

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Feb 23, 2024 6:00 AM EST

Listen, we know families are not easy to handle, sometimes having a close family can be more of a curse than a blessing. But still, those people are part of who you are, so you have a certain obligation towards them. That being said, a big problem can arise when the boundaries with your family are not that clear to them, and they start crossing some lines into your personal life.

Like the family of this person on Reddit. After she and her husband told her family they were planning on buying a country house, the family decided they were entitled to use it however they liked. With each family member starting to list their plans for the house, OP (Original poster) and her husband panicked and told the family the purchase plan fell through. Two years later the family finds out the OP did buy the house, and they are not happy about being left out.

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    AITA for lying to my family for two years that my house purchase deal fell through?
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    A few years ago, my husband and I told our relatives that we wanted to buy a country house by the lake. In our country, almost everyone lives in apartments, so our families
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    were very happy. My mother immediately decided that she wanted to arrange a vegetable garden in the yard of this house. My husband's sister said it would be a great place where
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    she could take her children for the summer. My sister started fantasizing about family picnics. My husband's brother "joked" that it would be a good place to get drunk on weekends.
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    We were both terrified. We didn't want any of this. We wanted to have a place where we could feel truly at home. Where we can rest. Where we
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    can arrange everything to your taste. Where there will be peace and quiet, and not family squabbles. Where we can raise our future children.
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    In the end, we decided to tell them that the deal had fallen through and there would be no house. After all, it's not even their business. We were the only
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    ones buying the house, and it has nothing to do with them. We didn't have to tell them. We only told the truth to our best friends, whom we were sure would not spoil anything.
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    The house is really beautiful, and my friends and I often go there on weekends. Well, two years have passed and my sister found out about the house by accident, because one
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    of my friends posted a photo from there. Now our families are furious and call us greedy. Many of the relatives don't want to talk to us until we give them
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    the address (my mom even asked for spare keys). This is exactly the hype that we tried so hard to avoid.
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    I don't think we're my husband is starting to hesitate about what we should have done, so outside advice can help us. but
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    solo_throwaway2542475 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [46] If your relatives don't wanna talk to you until you give them access to the house, I think that's one problem solved. Don't give them access, they don't talk to you. And that's that.
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    No spare key for your mother. Send them links to lakeside airbnbs. If they want to spend time at the lake, at a house, they don't own, they should look into airbnbs. Keep your house to yourself.
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    Stand firm, OP. Think of all the plans they made for a house that's not theirs. Then look at the beautiful home you've created and picture it being ruined by greedy and entitled relatives. That should
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    strengthen your resolve to keep them at arm's length. NTA. And neither is hubby unless he gives in to their demands. Your relatives s though.
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    opheliasdinosaur · 4 hr. ago Enthusiast [7] Agreed NTA. They called OP greedy when all they could think about was themselves when OP and husband announced their plan originally. They don't deserve time at the lake house on OPs dime.
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    Gypsyheartwanderer · 4 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA The reaction from your relatives is absolute confirmation of your fears.
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    neophenx. 5 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [40] Typically lying is not the best play, but it's absolutely wild that basically your whole family just assumed that they would have total access to
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    your property just because you own a nice house. NTA and I totally get why you'd lie about that. With family like that, who needs enemies?
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    Yikes44 3 hr. ago Pooperintendant [51] I mean, I understand it if the mum has never been able to have a garden of her own and it's her dream to be able to have one. But it's still shocking entitled of her to just assume she can do this at OP's home.
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    thegodcomplex17.5 hr. ago Aficionado [11] NTA, but you could have handled it better. It's wild that you thought it would be better to lie about buying a house rather than having a conversation that sets clear boundaries.
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    Reevadare1990 · 5 hr. ago Partassipant [3] Gently, ESH Your family for obvious reasons. As nice as it is to have a place to go to "get away from it all" and visit family, it's to just start making plans for someone else's home.
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    You because you need to learn to stand up to your family OP. Lying about having the house was never going to work in the long run, they were going to find out eventually. You need to send a message to your family.
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    "This is why we did not want to tell you about the house. Before we'd even purchased it, you were all making plans for OUR home. Now that you know, you've all wasted NO time in demanding access, keys, etc... all the while calling US greedy?"
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    FauveSxMcW- 5 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA, I can understand why you did this. Now that you are found out, do set boudaries though. No spare keys. Tell them 'yeah, this is why we lied'.
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    SteavySuper 4 hr. ago ΝΤΑ I would have lied too. Your family wanting to treat your home like a vacation spot is wild. I would tell them exactly that. How would they feel if
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    you started deciding what they could or could not do with their homes? It's 100% on them if they want no contact because you want a home, not a party/vacation spot.
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