'I will not drown in debt for you': Woman Backs Out of Moving in With Boyfriend After He Buys an $87K Car Behind Her Back

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Mar 21, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

As much as I think it is incredibly romantic when a guy pays for dinner, buys flowers, and invests in all these lovely gestures, it is even more appealing to me to know that he thinks twice before spending money, and knows how to manage his financial state. It means nothing to me if a guy buys me dinner but is unable to pay his rent because he keeps spending money on luxury things. In short, financial irresponsibility is a huge red flag.

This woman wrote this Reddit story after she realized just how financially irresponsible her boyfriend was. A month before they plan on moving in together, boyfriend goes out and buys an $87k car, without even running it by his girlfriend (OP, original poster). OP, who is shocked and disappointed, decides to back out of moving in with him, claiming that she doesn't want to end up paying for everything in the apartment when her boyfriend is too busy paying off his unnecessarily expensive car.

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  • 01
    My bf and i were supposed to move in together. 2 weeks ago, he bought a 87k truck without telling me. I refuse to move in with him.
    via u/Notmovingin_
  • 02
    Im very annoyed. He didnt even speak to me about it. We had so many discussions about moving in together, getting married and then he goes and purchases a truck 2k more than
    via u/Notmovingin_
  • 03
    his yearly salary. If youre asking how can a truck be 87k, thats the price you get when you put every addition you want on it. He showed me the truck expecting me to be excited and
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  • 04
    i was livid. When he bought this truck, we were only a month from moving in together. We got into a bad argument where he told me it was his money and he could do whatever he wanted with it.
    via u/Notmovingin_
  • 05
    So i said fine and i told him im not comfortable moving in with him anymore. I asked my landlord if my apartment was still avaliable and if i could renew my lease and they said
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  • 06
    yes. Now my bf is saying he cant afford his place and his truck. I dont feel bad. You should have thought of that before buying something so expensive without talking to your gf of 2 years.
    via u/Notmovingin_
  • 07
    I have had some of his friends' gf reach out to me and say i should support him and one even say that im not loyal and this shows i wouldnt support him if we were married since i
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  • 08
    run away when finances get bad. Thats . He didnt lose his job or get hurt. He bought an expensive item without discussing it. I have been trying to get him to return
    via u/Notmovingin_
  • 09
    the truck because its already affecting his finances badly. He has only had this truck for 2 weeks and he is worried that in the next month or two, he wont be able to cover all the expenses he usually has.
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  • 10
    This past weekend, we had another argument and i think our relationship is going to end. Im not helping him pay for this truck and im not moving in with him. I have asked for a break and will be thinking about what to do.
    via u/Notmovingin_
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    Edit: i appreciate the different opinions everyone has given me. I have alot to think about. To answer two questions, no he doesnt need the truck. He works from home and if he has to check in at work, he has an
    via u/Notmovingin_
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    office. Also, his friends and their girlfriends know about this issue because he asked for their views when we went to a get together last week. Only 2 gfs reached out to me to tell me i wasnt being supportive. The others have minded their business.
    via u/Notmovingin_
  • 13
    _A-Q 21 hr. ago Good job recognizing a bad situation when you see one. This dude fully expected you to supplement his lifestyle after moving in together.
    via u/_A-Q
  • 14
    All his money would have gone to paying that truck, leaving you stuck with the lion's share of the bills. And that's why he's panicking now. Stay in your own apartment OP.
    via u/_A-Q
  • 15
    • nobodynocrime · 19 hr. ago And he had the audacity to say that it was his money and he could do what he wanted with it knowing full well he would have to live out of
    via u/nobodynocrime
  • 16
    the truck if OP didn't supplement for him. Really tells you what he thinks about OP's money (that its his money too). Entitled . I would dump him so hard.
    via u/nobodynocrime
  • 17
    nicholsonsgirl. 21 hr. ago "When finances get bad" must really mean “you won't foot the bill when he is irresponsible and makes bad financial decisions."
    via u/nicholsonsgirl
  • 18
    It is his money but he already is struggling to afford things now, if for some reason he's unable to work he will not only expect you to pay his portion of the bills but also his hefty
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  • 19
    truck payment. Do not move in and do not combine incomes with him. He has shown he is impulsive and has issues with reckless spending.
    via u/nicholsonsgirl
  • 20
    littlemissmoxie · 22 hr. ago Yeah no. You were right to put yourself first. He's going to end up drowning in debt. Least you won't be there to see it.
    via u/littlemissmoxie
  • 21
    Would imagine he though he could make you take the majority of rent and household expenses while he just put money in his truck
    via u/littlemissmoxie
  • 22
    fjellfiol 21 hr. ago It's a good thing he has a shiny new fully outfitted truck he can live in :)
    via u/fjellfiol
  • 23
    RobertCalifornia2683 · 22 hr. ago Who the buys a 87k truck?? It probably loses a quarter of the value the minute you drive it off the lot.
    via u/RobertCalifornia2683
  • 24
    • delayed_burn · 21 hr. ago Timing isn't a coincidence. He bought a new truck because he has someone else that can take care of his bills.
    via u/delayed_burn
  • 25
    • Not_Bears 18 hr. ago It's so funny cause if it were like a PS5 or something I'd be like, yeah I get it. You're splitting expenses with someone and can probably
    via u/Not_Bears
  • 26
    now justify buying something you've wanted for awhile. But a $87k truck is just laughably insane.
    via u/Not_Bears
  • 27
    mattdvs1979 · 22 hr. ago no, get far away from people who have NO CLUE how to manage money. He's a manchild.
    via u/mattdvs1979

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