‘My win, my money’: Woman Invests Money in Boyfriend's Gambling Hobby, He Refuses to Share Despite Big Win So She Dumps Him

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 3, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. All's fair in love and…money? No, that's not the saying is it. Somehow money does end up at the forefront of tension all too often. Whether it's between family members, friends, or partners. A good rule of thumb, don't give your money out (unless you are married with joint finances, of course). 

It could be a sign that someone isn't responsible with their money if they're regularly gambling in the first place. This isn't a given but, it could be a character trait, maybe one that points to being possessive or materialistic. When someone's hobby is trying to win an exorbitant amount of money from doing nothing, it could be a sign that their values are in the wrong place. But hey, if that's your type then all good. If you want to be with someone that's spendy and materialistic. Of course having stable finances is important, but there is a line.

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  • 01
    r/AITAH • 4 days ago drinnlovayq AITA for breaking up with my partner after they won big and kept it all?
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    Me and my partner had this deal where I'd chip in $20 a month for their gambling hobby. They play on Stake. Thought it was a fun little support thing. Fast forward, and they actually win big. Like, new car big. But when I hinted at maybe celebrating or planning together (something small mind you!), they went all, "My win, my money."
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    I tried explaining that my contributions were in the spirit of partnership, not investment. That didn't fly. They insisted that what I gave was just support, not a stake in any potential win. Felt pretty cold, not gonna lie.
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    I decided to end things because it felt like a huge red flag about our future. Their reaction? Not great. They accused me of only being with them for the money, which is rich (pun intended) considering the timing.
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    And oh, their friends and family have taken up the choir, singing "Gold Digger" at me. My stance was about feeling like we're not really a team, but to them, I'm the villain who bailed at the first sign of fortune.
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    So, here I am, wondering if I'm the for walking away from a relationship where I felt sidelined the moment real money came into the picture.
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  • 07
    YomiKuzuki •4d ago Next time his family calls you a gold digger, remind them that you gave him money, and that if you were actually a gold digger, you wouldn't have broken up with him. NTA.
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    ughwhatisthisshit • 4d ago wait you chipped in AND he didnt even want to take you out?? Does he have extreme debts or something he "needs" to spend the money on? If not NTA and youd be an if you stayed Imao
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  • 09
    Bulky Specialist9645 4d ago Then he's not your partner, he's your roommate in his mind. Now you know where you stand.
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    Special-Hyena1132 .4d ago I'm the villain who bailed at the first sign of fortune That's...not how gold digging works.
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    Puzzleheaded_Big3... 4d ago wait, how are you a gold digger? You fronted the money. After he showed he was a selfish AH you left without money. Seems opposite of gold digger. NTA
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    Jsimmsslatty •4d ago Lmaooo bro got his money up and said you not touching it??? Ngl he wild for that
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    Passive Proc • 4d ago LOL. NTA. But let the dude go, he's gonna be broke in a few weeks to months bc doesn't realize new car money isn't actually a lot of money.
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    xanif • 4d ago Your ex sucks, their family. sucks, and their friends suck. Sounds to me like you won big by finding this out before. marriage. NTA
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    GPT4_ 4d ago Absolutely NTA. Your feelings of being sidelined are completely valid. When you were contributing, it was a gesture of support and partnership. If the tables were turned, would your partner expect a share of your winnings? Probably. The
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    situation has revealed a lack of reciprocation and respect. While it technically is their win, their reaction to your feelings and their unwillingness to even consider sharing the joy speaks volumes about their character and the dynamics of your relationship. If they
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    can't understand why you're hurt and upset, then it's a red flag. Also, the fact that they automatically jumped to the conclusion that you are a gold digger and rallied their friends and family against you is another red flag. This is not about the money, but
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    is not about the money, but the principle and values. You did the right thing by prioritizing your self-respect and walking away.
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    Traveling-Techie 4d ago. If I won the price of a car, I wouldn't be thinking "oh, jeez, do I have to take my partner out for lobster now?" I'd be thinking "Yay! I get to take my partner out for lobster now!" NTA
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    Also, I think if you were a gold digger you'd be aiming higher.
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  • 21
    onemanbucket_ • 4d ago NTA. Dude went full Gollum. You never go full Gollum.
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    DawnShakhar • 4d ago NTA. The gold-digger is him, taking your money and then. blindsiding you. He sold his narrative that you are the - gold-digger to his friends - and family, and they bought. it. That doesn't mean you have to. Dump him and don't look back.
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