‘You can’t always get what you want': Woman refuses to give a demanding kid her donut at birthday party, leading to her being forced to leave

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Apr 12, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

You know those parents who still act like children themselves, and then end up setting a terrible example to their kids? They spoil them to no end and teach them to act as petty and entitled as they do. And then, when those kids have children of their own, the cycle unfortunately continues.

The mother in this Reddit story is the perfect example of these kinds of parents. OP (original poster) turned to Reddit after a frustrating encounter with this mother. OP was invited to a friend's birthday party and decided to bring donuts with her. One of those donuts was a gluten-free (GF) donut that she bought for her GF husband. One of the kids at the party went to take the GF donut but OP stopped him, explaining that the donut belonged to her husband but offered him to take a different one. The kid started crying, insisting on getting the one donut he couldn't have. His mom, instead of educating the kid that he can't always get what he wants, started arguing with OP and insisting that she give him the GF donut.

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    AITA for refusing to give a donut to a kid at a party?
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    I can't believe I am posting this but here we are. I have a mix group of friends and some are saying I was wrong so I decided to let Reddit decide. My husband and I were invited to a
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    birthday party. We asked if we could bring anything and the host said not needed but we could if we wanted to. Since I don't like showing up empty handed anywhere I thought it
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    would be nice to purchase some boutique donuts from an artisanal donut shop near us. We got a bunch of donuts and one GF donut for my husband who can't have gluten. Side note: no one at the party has
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    any gluten issues we know these people fairly well. We got to the party and set the donuts down. Immediately this kid and his mom decided to come on over because in her
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    words "these are the best donuts in town! Wow! Thank you for bringing them!" I open up the boxes and immediately the kid throws his hands on the GF one. I kindly said "Oh sorry I am saving that one for my
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    husband he can't have gluten". I picked the donut out and set it aside and proceed to tell him all the other wonderful flavours that I got! Cookies and cream, Nutella, it was donuts galore.
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    The kid? Immediately starts crying because he wanted the one I took away and his mom proceeded to begin tearing at me and yelling at me for not just giving him the donut. "He is
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    just a kid!" I was stunned and I immediately just left the situation, went outside with my husbands donut gave it to him. I was mortified. I thought she would calm down but NOO!
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    This lady proceeds to go outside and a make a scene about it. A big argument ensued about how I refused her kid a donut. It was comical at this point. I calmly stated my point again, that this donut was for my
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    husband who is GF and I know no one there has an issue with gluten so her child could have one of the others. This lady wouldn't let it go so here is where I might be the AH.
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    At this point I am sick of her entitlement so I told her just that. She is an entitled little brat and now I know where her kid gets it from. She starts crying, making a scene and leaves the party. The host and everyone there is just mortified and then
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    tell me I should have just handed the kid the donut. My husband sticks up for me, and we decided to leave early.
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    Notyouraveragejew1 2 days ago Partassipant [1] NTA. I think you handled the situation as best as you could. Kids take after their parents and it sounds like they're an entitled family. Their lack of empathy is pathetic and honestly it's sad that she's
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    being such a bad role model for her kid. Maybe she was going through something but no adult with decent manners and respect for others would give that much of a about a donut. Discipline your kid and move on. Maybe the ONLY
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    thing to do differently would've been to just keep the donut separate from the beginning, but again you already went out of your way to bring something so it really shouldn't matter. People are so entitled nowadays it's ridiculous. Hope your husband enjoyed the donut O
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    Traditional_Apple256 OP. 2 days ago Yes the store was out of single donut boxes unfortunately.
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    fallingintopolkadots 2 days ago Supreme Court Just- [104] NTA. DO, that sounded exhausting. The mom could have easily said, "Oh, honey, that is made special for people with a gluten allergy.
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    It won't taste like the donuts you love from shop. Oh, look! Here's one of the flavor you always LOVE! Let's say thank you and go eat it over here." But nooooooo, the kid and then the mom had to
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    immediately throw a fit, making a minor thing into a giant thing. Everyone there must have been bored with nothing else to talk about or entertain themselves with
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    since people seemed to prefer the insanity to just nipping it in the bud. Should have taken the rest of the donuts with you when you left, my gosh.
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    tkdch4mp 2 days ago Can you imagine if OP had given in and let the kid have it only for him to take one bite and scream about how it doesn't taste like the donuts he likes?! I know GF has come a long way, but what if?
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    RiverAcceptable9671 - 2 days ago NTA. Immature behavior on the mom's part for not reeling in her behavior for herself and her child. She made a scene when there were literally a bunch of other donuts available, the kid probably just was along for
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    that ride at that point. Bad parenting, bet that kid is coddled on the word no. Him being “just a kid” has nothing to do with it.
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    texaspretzel 1 day ago I would have grabbed the box of the rest of the donuts and left the second the mom got mouthy and wouldn't listen.
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